so i have a 2 year old little girl that listens to nothing time out doesnt work at all taking toys doesnt work what should i do any suggestions please

Nikki - posted on 01/24/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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i have tried everything i can nothin works she does what she wants when she wants what can i do

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Sarah - posted on 01/25/2012

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I have two 2 yr olds that I am watching that do the same thing. I have found that if you stick with it and stay consistant and follow through it gets better.....just takes time. I often times say at 2 it is a revolving time out door, but by 3 yrs old that time out spot gets rarely used. There are going to be many days where you wonder if she will ever learn, just stay strong and it will come.



I am sure you are already doing many or all of these things, but here is what I have found that helps. When you talk to her or give her a warning go right next to her and get down to her level and have her look at you. This way you know she is listening to you and not distracted. I like how you give her a choice and let her know what will happen if she chooses the wrong action. If she chooses the wrong action then follow through with what you said would happen (toy taken away, time-out, etc.). I have found that the action needs to be an imedient one. If you say you get no treat for the day it is not as effect as if you had the treat out and ready to give to her and she was acting up and you said no treat. Another thing I have found that works well when they are throwing a fit is.....ignore (like you do) for the crying, but if the fit turns to screaming or throwing (so they're doing things for attention) then they get put into their rooms to scream, etc. for as long as they wish. Just they can't come out of their room until they are calm and ready to act nicely. It is amazing how that cuts back on the screaming fits when you can't have an audience for your fits.

Again big thing is to just keep being consistant and following through. Make sure you have her attention when you are talking to her and then just know it will pay off. There will come a day where you make it through a morning or even an hour without having to give a time-out.

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Leanna - posted on 07/08/2013

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Why does she melt down when you take toys away? Does she think its the end of the world when her toys are gone because she is materialistic? Have you had her checked for Asperger's Syndrome?

Nicky - posted on 01/26/2012

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you just have to stick with it, it will be hard to do but if you stick with it she will give up. it will take time, but the time put in is well worth the results! always give a warning & if she continues then follow through with what you said will happen. & if she wont sit in time out just pick her up and keep putting her back in there. you could do it 100 times but eventually she WILL give up and think " mommy isnt gonna quit i should just stop" and she will stay there for her time. its not easy but you can do it!! just be consistant!!

Katey - posted on 01/25/2012

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So true! Being a parent in general can get frustrating! But it wouldn't be worth it if it wasn't hard!

Nikki - posted on 01/25/2012

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thanx alot those things are very encouraging alot of them i do i guess it just gets so frustrating at times

Katey - posted on 01/25/2012

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I do not have any girls just boys but I watch a little girl who is almost two! She is hell on wheels I love her but she's a handful. I do timeouts and if she's throwing a fit it has to be in another room. Which often works but I have found that when she is good and praised fervently for that behavior and told often and joyously how good of a girl she is her behavior reflects that. Does that make sense? It's like that saying "you are what your told you are" so if you tell them they are naughty that's how they behave but if you tell them how kind and loving they are that's how they behave. Clapping singing dancing and lots of hugs for the good stuff helps a ton with the encouragement of good behavior! Just don't pay too much attention to the bad unless she is hurting others or herself she should get no attention for the bad. Hope it helps!

Nikki - posted on 01/24/2012

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yea she throws a fit everytime she doesnt get her way i do ignore her when she does but she gets so out of control sometimes she has a terrible temper and i cant figure out how to get her to stop doing things she knows is wrong i give her a choice and tell her whats going to happen if she doesnt stop but she seems not to care and continues to do things then when i do take toys and things she flips out

Amanda - posted on 01/24/2012

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Instead going straight fo time outs and taking toys away, try giving her a choice of how she wants to behave. Tell her she can play nicely with her toys or she can throw them and mummy will take them away, or she can stop her tantrum or she can sit in timeout until she has calmed down.

With my horror 3 yr old, if he is kicking or throwing he has the option to stop or to go outside and kick or throw a ball otherwise he gets a timeout or something taken away.

I ignore all screaming, and whining, my 2 know that they won't get what they after unless they speak to me in a proper voice and use their manners.



You need to be tough with her, I have a 2 yr old little girl so I know how tough they can be when they get ideas in their heads, my 3 yr old has behavioural problems too so I have to be tough.

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