Social anxiety?

Kristal - posted on 07/29/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is almost 2 1/2 years old. He is very attached to my husband and I. We moved to another state last September to be closer to family so that our son could become accustomed to being around them. It was just the 3 of us where we used to live. Over the past 10 months we have been gradually trying to get him used to being around his family members, whether it be something as simple as just spending time with his grandparents, or going to larger family gatherings. Even though he has been around these people all this time, he doesn't seem to be getting any more comfortable around them. He won't interact with them and has a melt down anytime anyone tries to talk or play with him. When i take him to social things outside of our familly, like to play dates, he does alright if it's just him and one or two other children and their mothers. However, if the group is any larger, he can't seem to handle it and just cries the whole time. I'm beginning to become concerned that preschool next year will be impossible. When do I need to be worried that my child has a social anxiety problem? Is two years old too young for that? Does anyone else's two year old do this, and, if so, how do you handle it?


Chet - posted on 07/30/2013




Our fourth child didn't start to warm up to extended family and larger groups until he was about three and a half. He didn't have meltdowns with family back then, he would glare at them instead! It's fine. Give him time, and don't push. If preschool doesn't seem like a good fit for him next year and you have the option to skip it, do that. Our oldest barely tolerated preschool at three, but she loved it at four (and our other kids didn't go to preschool at all, but were thrilled to start school). Right now, do your best to make your son feel comfortable and supported and secure. Put him in social situations where he can feel socially successful. You're a long way away from needing to worry about social anxiety at this point.

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