Stop the humping

Sharleene - posted on 06/27/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15 months and she constantly humps things from the couches to even our jack russell. She goes as far as to crawl out of her co sleeper and steal our pillows in the middle of the night and in the morning to hump them. I ignore it but she just does not seem to want to stop. She has now begun to use it as a mechanism to fall asleep. If there are any suggestions please let me know.

When I wrote this I was trying to find different techniques that others may have used to get their children to stop jumping things. Either it is not as common as I thought or the topic is too ebarrising to speak of. What I do know is that a child and toddler who is touching or grinding is actually normal in many cases for they do have feelings down there and they want it to continue. I know for a fact she is not being abused and I can't believe that anyone would suggest that in the first place. If a child is humping or doing things in that manner than a parent would take them to the doctors where the signs of abuse would be evident. This of course is not the case for she is basically liking the feeling. I just need some ideas to get her to stop.



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Patricia - posted on 06/28/2012

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My daughter did the same thing and she still does it now but not as often; she is five. I took her to the doctor when she was young and I was very afraid that the doctor would tell me she was being abused. The answer is no, it has nothing to do with that, granted in some cases it night. Anyway, the doctor said it is totally normal. Children in general tend to masturbate at a very young age, even more so boys. The simple diaper touching their private areas stimulates, and it is a new sensation for them. As we all know any type of touch in the private area does feel good, and so it feel good to them too. The doctor gave me several suggestions:
1) don't disturb her in a harsh way, pick her up and take her mind away from it.
2) Put her on her back and talk to her, maybe sing to her, and that might get her to sleep.
To give her toys to play with, keep her mind busy.
Don't get annoyed or paranoid or aggravated...lol. It will only make the baby feel uncomfortable. Hope this helps!!!!
PS: A lot of parents are going through this, but like you said, they are embarrassed to bring the subject up. I take that because most of us were taught that it is a taboo.


As she grows older and if she still does it do not get mad at her. The doctor told me that most parents tell their toddlers that they are bad by doing it. she said that this actually brings emotional problems later on in life as they get older. And, that in the long run that is how children grow up thinking that sex is wrong or evil. She said to talk to her and to ask her what she is feeling, or what is she doing. My little one would tell me she felt funny. Doc. said to tell them to go to their room because that was private. Never in other places. I did that for awhile but then she started going to her room constantly. So I put her in sports ans dance...I have notice that if I get her really tired, or keep her very busy she does not have energy for anything else. I hope you dont feel like I gave you useless information.

Truef - posted on 04/19/2014

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I don't know if you believe in evil spirits or not, but I believe that your child may have one. This is not normal behavior for a baby. I would pray for Christ's help with this.

Louise - posted on 06/27/2012

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This is not normal behaviour, please take her to the doctors and find out what is going on. She may have some sort of infection that is causing her to itch. Get her checked out.

Daisy - posted on 04/19/2014

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@Sharleene I am 27 years old and from the time I can remember (probably from the age of 4,i wasn't in kindergarten yet) I would hump my stuffed animals pillows blankets even the old cabbage patch dolls. all I know is at sometime I must have discovered it felt good to rub down there. I remember being yelled at to stop by my mom one time because I was humping the arm of the couch. I did NOT know about sex or anything of the sort all I knew was that it felt good. Well it only took a couple of times of being yelled at and I started going to my bedroom or the bathroom AT 5 years old! I knew that if I got caught I would be yelled at. When I was a baby my mom said I had to have labial fusion with a laser so when I was older and knew what I was doing, I always wondered if that had something to do with it. But hearing so many girls have done this at a young age I now don't think so. If it continues as she gets older just be very understanding and don't make her feel ashamed or bad explain that its done in private. But I will mention since I humped for so many years it basically burnt a neuro pathway in my brain, so when I was older and with my man it took us years to retrain my brain to have an orgasm a different way. Also I will admit sometimes I still do it, I wake up and im grinding away unknowingly in my sleep! But then im awake and im an adult now and I just go to town or even with my man since he finds it sexy. I know it must be embarrassing to see her doing that at such a young age but I can pretty much promise she will be fine whether she quits doing It or not.

Timora - posted on 06/27/2012

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My 3 year old daughter humps things all the time too and has done it for a long time. We told her it is a private thing for her to do when she is alone. If she starts doing it in the living room, I ask her if she needs to have some time to herself and let her go up to her room. That seems to let her get it out of her system and she comes back downstairs after a few minutes to join everyone again. She gets really obsessive about it sometimes though. It's easier to deal with now that she's older and has a little more understanding of privacy.

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Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Missavon505 - posted on 10/01/2017

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Charlene. Don't worry. My daughter is 18 months and she's doing that alot also. I put her in a desk to eat, because the high chair is tempting. Anything that has a guard between the legs is tempting for her. I'm so glad you brought this up. I feel better about it now and I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and not making a huge thing of it. I will get her checked for a UTI, just in case. Anyway, I remember going through phases as a child. I did the same behavior.

Tameme2 - posted on 04/20/2017

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Your kidding right??? I guess everyone has an evil spirit bc everyone touches themselves!!!

Athena Anastasia - posted on 03/12/2016

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Yea my daughter Blaire did that it was because she had an itch but maybe try getting her into athletics or running

Crystal - posted on 03/11/2016

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Patricia Espinoza thanks for that I was thinking maybe it's because my daughter is bored and not into sports or something I will try that

Sarah - posted on 06/28/2012

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All children do this to some degree or another. My daughter use to touch herself in the bath tub. I would just put a toy in her hands and distract her in to just playing with her toy. To get her to stop the behavior you may need to just replace it with something else. When she starts what about distracting her with a song or story. Any comfort a child uses even if it is a pacifier if it is taken away it needs to be replaced with another comfort object. Distracting her the first moment she started doing it decreased the episodes the most. Just as long as you don't mention the behavior or tell her she is bad.

Catherine - posted on 06/27/2012

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I agree Jessica, it's about teaching them time & place, not being alarmist about the behaviour.

My 4 girls have all 'maturbated' at times, sometimes more than others. I don't recall seeing this 'humping' behaviour, but that's not to say it didn't happen - maybe I just didn't notice.
We have taught them that their vaginas are theirs, to be touched only by them (we'll worry about the doctor issue if it comes up).

From about age 2-3 I have also discouraged them from touchig their vaginas in public; I've taken the tack of explaining to them that they know their 'wees' come out of the area, and that there will always be little bits left behind, so they are now touching wee & then wiping it on whatever they touch next. The emphasis always on not sharing their urine/germs with others, not focussing on making it a 'dirty' area.
If the behaviour is constant enought to bother you, perhaps gently take away the pillow/toy whatever and try to tell her that she can only do this when she is alone ( a bit harder when she's co-sleeping).

Sandra - posted on 06/27/2012

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My 4 year old son does the same thing. My 5 year old never did. We just tell him to stop. Or go do that in his room in private.

Jessica - posted on 06/27/2012

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I would take her to the Dr. just so that you can have a urine test ran to make sure she is not having an UTI or an allergic reaction to soap or diapers. If it continues after the MD tells you that nothing is wrong, just leave it be, you don't want to make her think that what she is feeling is bad. with my son I would just tell him if he needed to touch his winkie that he needed to do it in the bathroom or his bedroom and have some private time. Hope you figure out what will work with your daughter.

Cherish - posted on 06/27/2012

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Sharleene,
I was not trying to to upset you,and I am not being judgmental...I am sorry if it came across that way.
I also read about young children touching themselves,and yes doing it sometimes is normal but I honestly do not think it is normal to do it to the extent that you described in your original post.
I have 3 kids that are 19,11 and 10,my 10 yr old is developmentally 2 ish and from time to time he touches his junk..
What you can try to do is replace to behavior,so when she does that,don't make a big deal out of it(if you do,then it might cause her to do it more to seek attention,if she thinks your reaction is funny).When she does that,give her something else to do.If she insists on doing it to fall asleep,then try rubbing her feet or something like that...If she takes off her own sleeper then you can safety pin the zipper so she can not get out of her clothes
The signs of abuse are not always evident tho...but I was seriously not trying to be offensive.

Cherish - posted on 06/27/2012

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Hi,
I really do not thin most girls at 1 masturbate,I do not think it is normal...
Signs of sexual abuse include
~Mimics adult-like sexual behaviors with toys or stuffed animal(the pillows,the dog),it is not normal if she is doing it all the time,it is different than kids just poking at themselves from time to time...
Here is more info
http://www.stopitnow.org/warning_signs_c...

You should call them,and just tell them your calling about your niece or your friends kid...it wouldn't hurt to call the number on that link....

September - posted on 06/27/2012

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I would just ignore it, it can actually be quite normal in some children. Unless of course you are concerned she's being abused.

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