Struggle potty training an almost 3 year old GIRL

User - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter turns 3 in May and I'm having the hardest time potty training her. I don't know if her not talking as much as she should be (she's not of a concern to the speech therapist) is a reason why I'm having troubles but I thought girls were supposed to be easier to train than boys. I have an almost 5 year old boy we struggled with but was trained by 3.5 years old.



We've tried letting her go bottomless, bringing her into the bathroom with me, giving her a small potty that's in the living room (doesn't fit in our 1/2 bath downstairs) and also having the option of using a potty seat on the big potty. She has potty books and at one point we used potty charts. We don't berate her when she has accidents.



We've tried getting her excited about wearing big girl panties and letting her pick them out. She just pisses in them. We have Elmo's potty time on DVD.



All these things we've tried at different times (not all at once) but she's had mixed success. She'll pee on the potty when she feels like it and will poop when she feels like it too. But then she'll hide and have an accident in the other room. I don't get it and am getting increasingly frustrated hearing about people who potty train their kids in a weekend and how girls are a breeze to potty train and how they just "get it".



Potty training shouldn't be a power struggle right?

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Jennifer - posted on 04/07/2012

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Ur not alone on this my daughter just turned three and has no interest at all in the potty. She's in daycare in all her friends are potty trained and we thought this would help some with her we have done pull ups since just before we second birthday we to have fried everything. And it's getting upsetting to me because our families and friends are not understanding that she is not ready and they keep comparing her to their own kids and acting like its our fault she's not potty trained when in fact it's her. We are trying one last thing then I'm putting this issue aside for awhile and that's gonna start Monday when she returns to daycare she will be in big girl panties and see if a little old fashioned embarrassment will help her get the point

Niki - posted on 03/30/2012

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with my daughter i had a bit of a struggle with her too, i had to wait until she would not pee outside of her diaper, and then let her run around all day with nothing on her bottom, she woke up at 7 am and didn't pee on the potty until 7 pm, and i found as long as i didn't put any panties or a pull-up, she was forced to use the potty, and after about a week and half of this she started to get it. then 5 months after that i got her out of wearing a diaper to bed by making sure she went to the bathroom before bed time.

User - posted on 03/30/2012

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That's a good idea making her take responsibility for her actions. I'll have to try that. I'm just waiting for the day where she's asking me to go potty and not me asking her every 15-30mins if she has to go. Which is super annoying :S

Erica - posted on 03/29/2012

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No, Potty training shouldn't be a power struggle. With my daughter we did pull ups and watched The Elmo potty DVD and read a few books. I left the door open when I went potty and she had a seat. I would just say when you are ready to go potty like Elmo you can use your big girl seat!! I never tried to force it I said when she wanted to we would start so she could be a big girl like her favorite cousin.



I was 5 months pregnant and my husband on nights. At 3 am I was woken up to "MOOOOMMMMMY! I have to go potty!!!" I wobbled out of bed and took her. It wasn't the best time in the world for her to decide she was ready but we took it from there. I'm not saying it wasn't hard LOL. We put her in big girl panties the next day. I told her if she could wake me at 3 am to go then she could go through out the day when we are awake too! If she peed on the floor she had to go get a towel and clean it up her self. If she pooped in her panties she had to "help" me clean them by spraying the peri bottle I used to clean them out. I made her take responsibilities for her actions but i never screamed at her. Once I tried time out for going in her panties and it made it worse. My son is going on 9 months and we still have accidents but for the most part she is potty trained!



Each kid is different and 2 year olds need to feel like they have control. Maybe back off for a little while and let her decide she's ready. Point out all the big kids in her life that don't wear diapers. That's what encouraged my daughter the most!

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