To do daycare or not to do daycare? That is the question.

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I have twin girls who are 2 1/2 years old. They currently go to my mom's house and their dad's house during the day while I work. I have recently felt the need for them to go to daycare so they can get that interaction with other children and a little more structure. I realize they are still young and they maybe don't need that at this current age but I feel it will need to happen in the next year or so. I have recently called the lady I want to take them to and she actually has 2 openings, which very rarely happens. I feel like I need to grab this moment and try it out so I can know if my girls are ready or not. Does anyone have any opinions on when a child should be put in daycare? I know that most people don't have the choice of whether or not they put their kids in daycare since it is a little uncommon that a family member can stay at home with them but if you had the choice, what would you do? Obviously I would save money if I had my mom continue watching them but I also feel that if I prevented my kids from doing anything just because of the cost, it would prevent them from growing as a person too. Please let me know your thoughts.

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Hannah - posted on 03/18/2011

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Here is my opinion. There is absolutely no need to worry about "socializing" your child at that age. I know in today's society everyone pushes that idea, but alot of the reason people say that is because they are trying to find the positive side to leaving their children with someone else. When your children are 5 years old they will socialize with others quite well (especially more than normal kids because their twins:)

They have 13 YEARS of socialization before they even get to college and we know how much fun that was!!:)!! As a parent you only have 5 years of being able to spend each and every day all day with your children and then they're gone:( You only have 5 years to raise your children with the morals, boundaries, and love that only you can give them...(or their grandparents or dad). There is absolutely nothing a child learns in k3 or k4 that a parent cant teach, and socialization is not needed at age 2. my son is 2 and knows all his abc's, counts to 11, spells his name, can write half of his name, knows alot of his colors, and knows 2 shapes...etc etc etc so what could daycare teach him that i cant?? they definitely can not substitute the individual love that me, his dad, grandparents, family, etc can give him. I can take him to the park, playdates, etc for socialization.
Also, i would not get them use to daycare and being around kids their age and then suddenly take them out of it...kids need stability. They shouldnt be a grandma's or dads every day, and then at daycare every day for a month, and then back at grandma's and dads.
It is not uncommon that a parent or family member stays at home with their kids during the day. 90% of my friends and family keep their kids at home or with a family member during the day.
k-3 is just another name for a daycare. Parents can teach their own children shapes and colors. Come on people!

Fran - posted on 03/24/2011

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Hi I am a licensed daycare and I have to say daycare is a good thing to do, they get a sense of structure because we have things we do everyday. Kids need to have a schedule of some sort and it is a benefit to let them grow with other children as well. Children learn more in a daycare setting then by themselves and I learned that the hard way. My son was with me as a stay at home mom and now he struggles at school, he is only in kindergarten and I can see the difference in the children who were in daycare as an infant or toddler to those who were not. I know it is hard to find a daycare you can trust as well as leave them in someone elses care that is not family I wish you luck and again I think it is a good idea to put them in daycare. I hope this helps you out.

Marisa - posted on 03/04/2011

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I would wait. 2 year olds I believe attach to people and need lots of life experience. With your mom they sound like they are interacting in the world more. She takes them out to groups, prob to parks. If they are in a home day care, then they have the same environment day in and day out. Young children learn by being exposed to lots of things. Also when they are tired and need a lap your mom is there. Not at day care. Even if they tell you that because there are other children to tend to. I am not totally opposed to child care, but think that later is earlier than later. My daughter (25 months) just started 2 days a week at a center not by my choice. We are both adjusting, but I could not imagine caging her up like that 5 days a week. And this is a very expensive well equipped center. Also kids at 2 - 3 don't play with other kids often. It is normal development to play along side. My son started a little after 3 and was really ready for it. I agree with what one other wrote. A center is not what is best for you child. Read basically any child development book. Unless you mom is having them watch TV 6 hours a day or wants to be done watching them then I would challenge you to think if you are putting them into care to make your self feel better or your kids. Lastly, kids are all going to learn the abc's and numbers and shapes, and doing so at 3 does not lead to a brighter child. High SAT scores are good grades are directly related to a child being read to everyday. Really lastly...My son's preschool is great and does El Reggio teaching. There is no formal sit down teaching of ABCs or numbers. Some kids are interested and they provide activities for it and they pick it up. They are not the norm. Why on earth does a 3 year old need to know that information? Good luck on your decision.

Dora - posted on 03/04/2011

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I was one of those moms that thought any mother who would put their child in daycare was horrible for doing so. Well talk about me being a hypocrite. At 15 months I felt my son needed socialization skills so I searched around and found a daycare around the corner from my home. I went for several surprise visits and was impressed with what I found. I also loved the fact that they had certified teachers in certain classes and followed state curriculums. My son will be 3 in May. He knows his ABC's, 123's, shapes (not just circles and squares but trapezoid, octagon, diamonds, etc...), he knows how to spell his first name and he identifies the letters of the alphabet and can tell you what word uses that letter. He is in a structured classroom which I love because that is how I was with him at home. They have a daily schedule that they follow: circle time, snack times, breakfast time, lunch time, play time, art class, music class, nap time, reading time, ect.... I can't say enough good things about daycare. I LOVE IT! My son has little friends now and is doing great. It takes me approx. 20 minutes a day just to get him out of there. I say give it a shot and see how it goes. If you or your children are not happy about it, you can always pull them out. My husband and I are now in a financial position where I can stay home as we are having cutie pie #2. Our son is going to continue with his daycare part-time and begin with their pre-school program. At this point I could not imagine ripping him out of the environment he loves so much.I mean everyday I pick him up he tells me about his day, which friends he played with, what crafts he did, etc.........

Michelle - posted on 03/02/2011

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Are you able to do the child care a couple of days a week? It would give your family a break as well as get them interacting with other children. You then slowly ease them into it rather than just all of a sudden they are going there instead of to Grandma's or Dad's.

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Marcela - posted on 11/14/2013

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Keep your babes close for as long as you can. They have a long life of institutionalized education from age of 5. I put my 2 yr old in daycare for socialization. She learnt to push, hit and get angry. I noticed she was quite stressed there and realised she´s not ready yet. I pulled her out. We go out for walks and explore nature, take the bus into town, go to the park twice a week, have a playdate at home once a week and go to swimming lessons. Also, at this age they are learning EVERY moment of the day through natural discovery.
I understand you and also wanted to race her off to "socialize" and then learnt to relax as a parent and enjoy being with her as much as possible before she´ll be off to school everyday.
All the best with your decision.

Candace - posted on 09/03/2013

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My baby started daycare today... I am very nervous about him adjusting because he has been home with my hubby recieving undivided attention and love but he is now back in school and soon to be back to work. My son is independent and normally happy and easy going so I think he will adjust fine. I understand that being socialized happens whether they are in daycare or not but he is very aggressive and excited around other children and I'd like for him to learn how to play nicely with other children when he is excited. I will see how he makes out and how I feel about how he is being cared for and if we need to make some changes in our family for him to be home or with a relative I am more than willing to do so.

Toshia - posted on 03/27/2011

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Grab the spots while they are available, if it doesn't work out then you can pull them out but give it a chance!!! My kids have always been in daycare & i love it because they get the interaction and structure. I much prefer a center daycare rather than a home daycare or so far that's the experience i have.

Stephany - posted on 03/27/2011

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working in daycare i have seen the pros and cons germs being the cons but i see that the toodlers learn alot and by age 2 are trying to sing the abc's and counting to 15 there is a lot that daycare can teach which is real good but if your the kind of parent who are overly protected then i would re think it bc kids do constantly fight and fall and fall and fall lol and cost it is expensive i had to find a sitter for my two girls just because i annot affored the daycare i work at to watch them like i said pros and cons but the first week is going to be hard on both of you if i were you get parent watch which is were you can watch your children at the daycare while at work its worth it

Neelu - posted on 03/22/2011

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If you have the option of giving your kids a loving and caring environment where they get 1 on 1 attention ... then I would choose that .... which is what ur mum is providing .... kids younger than 3 years don't yet know how to play together ... they tend to play along-side... which is what u would have noticed with ur twins .... the advantage of having siblings close is that u don't need other kids for them to play with....
From a learning point of view - the DC has an advantage thats there is a more structured approach but having said that if your mum is providing them with an environment which has enough learning opp's ... then the kids would learning similar things.
From a discipline / tantruns point of view - kids this age need attention n love which they get more easily at home.

I work part time and send my son who is 2 to DC 4 days a week ... he has developed very well (socially n intelectually) my only concern is how strong is he emotionally (and thats what is paramount at this age) to develop a sense of security ....

Rest do what ur heart tells u .... Mum's always know what's best for the kids

Lisa - posted on 03/19/2011

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Though I really love being home with my 3 year old, I have a 23 year old that went to a private sitter from birth, and day care at 2, their learning is so different. My oldest was much quicker at a lot of things. Remember children are a sponge, and they soak up sooooo much from other children their age, good and bad. Good luck with the decision.

AManda - posted on 03/18/2011

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I highly recommend day care to children or in home sitters, that you trust. My boys go to day care and they enjoy every second of it. It teaches kids how to be dependable on other adult other than family and also teaches them how to share better and play better with other children. They need to get on a routine at a daycare so they can be used to it by school age. I know you'll save money staying with your mom but it gets them new friends.

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Thanks for all the posts ladies. I guess I should have been a little more clear before and let you know that my girls are 2 1/2 and so in less than 6 months, they will be going somewhere anyways just because I have heard so much from people that age 3 is a good age to get them in preschool or something. In addition, my home daycare lady (yes we started daycare this week) does a preschool curriculum as well. So considering my girls were born in September and they will be starting school at a later age compared to some others, I figured I would put them in this daycare/preschool setting for a year and then preschool after that. It has been only two days since we started daycare and the mornings are the roughest. My daycare provider sends me status updates throughout the day so that really helps me. The girls have not regressed like I thought they would. They go potty at her house, take naps, don't fight with me at bedtime...surprisingly it is going very well and I am happy with my decision. Obviously it would have been nice to save the money but I can't let that be the sole factor in all my decision making otherwise my kids will not ever do anything since everything costs money. Like I said before, if it doesn't work out in the end, it doesn't work out. But at least I tried it instead of wondering if it would be the right thing to do. Thanks again for the help!

Heather - posted on 03/16/2011

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I think it all depends on what feels right to you. Every child has a different personality, needs, etc. so it has to be what's right for your child. In the case of mine, they both started daycare at 12 months, and they have flourished. My oldest daughter was writing her name at the age of three. My second is learning her letters, but has no interest in learning to write. Good daycares do offer the same education as preschools - when you check them out, look for children's art displayed on the walls, and pictures of the current kids doing activities, and ask for a "lesson plan." My daycare has weekly themes with a major daily activity highlighted.

Nancy - posted on 03/15/2011

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I would suggest waiting until they are three and send them to preschool and not just daycare. Daycare centers usually just let the children play all day with little structure or activities. A preschool program that actually introduces letters and numbers, colors and shapes will better prepare them for Kindergarten, as well as, promoting structure.
My experience has been that Christian schools/preschools using the A BEKA curriculum tend to promote learning and structure....and usually a very loving atmosphere.

Angela - posted on 03/15/2011

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As a child care provider and a mother of 4. I recommend sending your child to some sort of day care. It helps them tremendously with their social skills and helps get them ready for school down the road.
I know having the child sheltered by family is a good thing too but they also need to be around kids of their own age and other adults/teachers.

Rachel - posted on 03/15/2011

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I think too much attention is placed on "socialization." They are children and will get socialization as they get older, it is not neccessary to push socialization at so young an age. I homeschool my 3 children and let me tell you that socialization is an everyday constant and you don't need to go "out" to find it! Don't worry too much about it at this moment, they are so young. If you are doing it to help relieve your Mom of the kids all the time then by all means go for it! I am against daycare, but I understand that it is necessary in some instances and I myself went to daycare when I was young and I am perfectly fine :)

Angela - posted on 03/15/2011

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I am sure a lot of people will disagree, but this is how I feel. For starters, I have a 6 month old and an almost 3 year old, and I stay home with them so that we can AVOID daycare. I am thoroughly enjoying this time being home with my children as it won't last forever! It can be stressful financially, but I want to be the one raising my children and not the daycare. There will be plenty of time in the future for my children to be socializing and interacting with other children. I have a very hard time understanding why you or anyone would want to put your children in an expensive daycare unless you absolutely have no other choice. There are plenty of toddler activities out there where your children can be around other children and learn to interact (i.e. playdates, church activities, mommy and me ballet classes, etc). So why pay a lot of money to strangers to have them do what you can do best at home? IMO, Mom or Dad are ALWAYS best. Also, your children would probably rather spend their time with you also!

Kristina - posted on 03/15/2011

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My 2 children have been at my mom's house while i work since they were born, i worried about them not interacting as well but the good thing is they have a great relationship and play well with each other because they are always together. My Daughter started Pre-School last fall at 3 years and recently turned 4. She has gotten very comfortable with being around other children and loves going to school that interaction she get's 2 days a week is great for her. I wouldn't think too hard about it at their ages now. But make sure your girls get in 2 years of Preschool before Kindergarten to help with that. 1st year 3-4 Years of age and 2 days a week and 2nd Year ages 4-5 and 3 days a week or in some cases you can get into a elementary school for 5 half days a week as well. Hope that helps

Lynn - posted on 03/15/2011

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Hi,
Let me preface my response by saying that we did not have a choice when we put my daughter in daycare at 6 months b/c we both work. However, given what I know now I would still put her in daycare even if I had the option to keep her at home or stay with a sitter. The curriculum is far beyond anything I could have provided on my own. The social interaction is simply amazing. I think it was especially important for us to start early because my daughter tends to be a bit shy in new environments and I really feel having her in daycare has given her a confidence to interact with teachers and friends that will benefit thru her life.
That being said what works for one child doesn't always work for another but I hope this has been helpful. Good luck!

Katlynn - posted on 03/15/2011

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My daughter goes and absolutly loves it she gets to interact with tons of other kids that are on the same level as her it's a routine which children thrive off of and she gets to partake in tons of activities we can't do individually I highly recommend it

Amy - posted on 03/15/2011

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It was the BEST thing and worth the money even though we spend more a month on daycare than we do on our house payment. Both my girls 3yrs and 20months do very well, my 3 yr old counts to ten in english and spanish and does her ABC's my 20 month old talks more and is better in socal situations as well as counts to 3-4 and to f on ABC's. My girls are happier and excited to learn. The only con is they are around other kids and everything that comes with it. So you have the ocational pinch or bite or stomach viris but no more than what you would get at the playground.

Taryn - posted on 03/15/2011

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My son has just turned 3, and has been going to day care for 3 weeks now, one day a week. I decided it was time to get him in to socialize with others his own age, and to gain some independance away from me. Its still early days, he gets very upset when I leave, and again when I pick him up. It is heartbreaking to leaqve your child in unfamiliar surroundings, but he will get used to it soon Im sure. But as I thought, he will be in Kindy next year and will have to learn to deal with a sturctured daily program.

Renee - posted on 03/15/2011

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i think one good thing about day care is they will socialise with children there own age and make new friends

Darci - posted on 03/14/2011

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My mother watched my 3 year old for 2 years and then I put her in Daycare 2 days a week and then she is with Grandma 3 days a week. I was very nervous putting her in daycare but I've noticed shes learning alot more now!! Grandma and her work on letters and all that but the daycare helps give them structure and routine!! It teachs them to share and get along with other children their own age too! Good Luck!!

Colleen - posted on 03/14/2011

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To Heather Christ:
Why do you feel this way about daycare? I'm a professional educator myself, mastered linguist. My son has NOT learned bad habits that are brought into my home from the children at his early childhood facility. No offense, but that is an unnecessary and unwarranted blanket statement. My husband and I did a thorough, if not excessively detailed, search in the town we live in to ensure the facility we were placing our son with was of the highest quality, and filled with caring, compassionate, sympathethic humans who loves to work with young children. If anything, our son has learned many positive habits and attributes from observing the older children (pre-schoolers)...please do not demonize early childhood education. It is necessary, especially for those of us families with two-working parents.

Colleen - posted on 03/14/2011

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I'm just curious...in response to Teresa's comment about being "against daycare." May I ask why?

Colleen - posted on 03/14/2011

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Our son just turned two years old this past Thursday, and he has been attending daycare full-time since he was 6-months old. I am a full-time secondary educator, which means I'm in the classroom all day. From our experience, the particular early childhood center we chose in the town we live in was the BEST choice we could have made for our son. He is kind, caring, he shares with EVERYONE, is not afraid of people, plays well with other children, and he has learned skills that only a trained, educated early childhood educator can know to instill at the appropriate time. Also, we just had his 2-year pediatric check-up today, and our pediatrician commented as to how advanced not only are his motor and fine skills are, but how advanced his langauge skills are for a 2 year old. She warned us to be careful that people will expect him to emotionally be older because he looks more like a 3-4 year old because of his tall height, as well as his physical and speech abilities....many of which he acquired from his daycare, as well as the constant reading, non-TV time in our home, and spending time together as a family.

That said, I respect your issues with cost, as well as family. We do not have the luxury of having any family members in our area that can take care of our son while both my husband and I work, which was why our decision to send our son to daycare (we call is baby school because mommy works at big-kid school!) was our only option...but it turned out to be the best option we could have imagined for him. I would recommend, as an educator myself, starting a part-time situation with your children since they are not accustomed to being in the company of several other children at the same time, as well as basically being the only children at the center of the adults' world. You might be amazed at well your children adapt. Daycare is not an evil entity...it has proved to be a loving, caring environment for our son while both my husband and I work to create a home and future for him.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/14/2011

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I would personally wait until they are three so they can go to preschool. They will have a lot more fun at preschool then day are. I have a 3 year old and she is about to go to preschool 2-4 days a week. I have been doing child care for the past 9 years. I have been hired before so that the kids wouldn't go to daycare because the parents didn't like it. That's just my opinion hope it helps!

Tonya - posted on 03/14/2011

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We just put my 2 1/2 yr old daughter in daycare the end of February so I could go back to work. Some mornings she likes it, some she doesn't (she has separation anxiety) but the rest of the day she is fine. She loves all the interaction with the kids & is learning lots.



Check around your community see if churches or the YMCA/YWCA has something available. Their prices are more affordable. Visit many different facilities before you make a decision to see what all is offered. Some provide meals/snacks & have lots of activities.



I know here in the states full time daycare is the better option for most families price wise. Part time is only 6hrs a day 3 times a week & if you go over they charge you more.

Kara - posted on 03/14/2011

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I am in the same situation with a 2.5 yr old son of mine! mom watches him while i work and i have recently started thinking that he needs school soon! Of course money is also nice to be saving while we home care, just thinking that he needs other interaction and structure also. They say three is the magic window to start schooling! so good luck!

Kara - posted on 03/14/2011

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I am a full time teacher so my 5 year old has been in daycare since he was 6 months old. He was in a company/business daycare but that didn't work out so when he was 1 yr old, we switched him to a home daycare. He has thrived ever since! She does a preschool program when they are two and he is now way beyond ready for Kindergarten in the fall. He is also an only child so he gets all of his social skills and playing/cooperating skills at daycare. When I have a day off, he still goes to daycare, not only so I can get errands done, but because he misses his friends and the structure that she gives him. I don't know if you can afford full time daycare, but for my son and our situation, it was the best investment we could make and I will miss her when he goes to school full time.

Crystal - posted on 03/14/2011

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If at all possible keep them with your mom and just try and arrange play dates for them i have worked in day care before and wont ever work in one again i can'y say they are all bad because obviously i can';t work in them all and i know for some parents they don't have an option so if you have to dont feel as you are ddoing something wrong just choose your day care carefully make sure you can do surprise visits when ever you want to not just at nap time as some only allow

Lisa - posted on 03/14/2011

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My son was in day care by 6 months old. My mom was watching him until then while my husband and I worked. At first I was unsure that I was doing the right thing for him, but it has been great. Where he goes to daycare the daycare mom is great and she has kids of several different ages there. He has learned how to interact with other childrent of all ages as well as adults. I would love to be home with my son but we need to have both salaries.

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I think daycare is a great way for kids to socialize, develop vocabulary, and learn - they interact with kids of a variety of other ages, not just their siblings, and help to develop empathy. My kids are in daycare because I work full time, but I also feel that it helps everyone with the transition to full time school. They're used to different caregivers, they're used to a "classroom" with other kids in it, and they do educational activities during the day.

If you can afford it, I recommend you start, no later than 3. It'll help them work off excess energy as well!

Sharon - posted on 03/13/2011

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I for one didn't have those kind of privileges to have my children @ the Daycare. I find that its very educational for small children to have that chance to go to Daycare & get to have an early education for them....Not every child gets those privileges....it doesn't matter what age they are Daycare's a good place for them....so grab that moment & try it out you never know it might be good for your girls....

Elizabeth - posted on 03/13/2011

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society tells us our kids need day care..... but at the end of the day it is a business, they advertise and tell everyone how great they are. if family member that have a vsted interest in YOUR children and want the best for YOUR children, they want to and have the time and energy to look after her, i think it is a terrible thing that you want to take that away from your kids. its only for a short time they get to do this and they all would be benefiting from this bonding experience and special day to day time they have together. in a yr or less its off to pre-school, then school then it seems like you never see them. time is precious now and is running out, they grow up so fast, and child care will just make that all happen faster. child care is great for people that need it, but this might not be the best for your family, for lots of reasons.

Keri - posted on 03/11/2011

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many daycares take infants on up. It sometimes costs a little more for children who aren't potty trained (it was $2 a day extra at my son's daycare). We started sending him about a year ago - just a little over 3 years old. My husband and I have noticed how many of his skills (social, verbal, and developmental) have increased in his time there. When I drop him off I see some of what they are doing and, at least at his age, it is mostly a pre-school curriculum and not just a glorified babysitting service. Just do your research before you pick a place. You need to make sure it's going to be a place where your kids are comfortable. Don't be surpirsed if they cry for a few months when you drop them off. My son did, but his teachers (yup, 2 or more!) say that only a few minutes after I leave and he begins playing with his friends that he forgets the tantrum and when I pick him up he doesn't want to leave!

Kimberley - posted on 03/11/2011

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Hi, My son went to daycare from the age of 11 weeks. I am not from the area and have no family around to help me. I did have the option of staying home. However, chose to continue to work. It was a heart wrenching choice. Now he is in kindergarten and I look back and think it was the best choice I made. He is an only child and it gave him the ability to meet other kids and socialize. The amount of education he received from a young age was incredible. Due to what he learned in daycare he is way ahead in school. He can already read, does math, can do over 75 different signs to communicate with the hearing impaired which I love. It also made him socialize with all different types of kids, from different races to different abilities. Do to this he does not judge other kids and always tries to help out the children that are a little behind. I have nothing but great things to say about my experience with my sons daycare and would highly recommend it to anyone that asks. The best piece of advice is to listen to your heart. It will tell you what you should do. Good Luck!

Zharna - posted on 03/10/2011

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My son is coming up 3 in June and I just switched him from home care to a daycare centre. He LOVES it. He is talking heaps better and has toilet trained himself night and day in the space of 3 weeks.
If it's a good daycare and you know your kids will be in a good environment then go for it :-) But remember you know your own kids best. They are at an age where they may love it, but some kids just generally hate being in large groups so go with your gut feeling :-)

User - posted on 03/10/2011

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It was cheaper for me to put my children in a daycare than it was for me to have my mother in law keep my two kids. Sad isn't it. We got daycare assistance back then. We found a daycare that I loved after I had my third child and unfortunately we had to put him in at 12 wks. old. Unfortunately for me that is. I wanted to stay home with them. I had the baby , a one yr. old and a three yr. old in daycare at that time. The kids loved it. But my youngest started having febrile seizures when he was about 9 months old. He stayed sick being in daycare all the time. And so the average amt. of febrile seizures a child has is 3, my son ended up having six and being misdiagnosed with epilepsy. Because I had a fourth son later and because that son kept getting sick at daycare, I quit my job to stay home with my boys. He has never had a seizure since and hasn't been sick but maybe twice. So my advice is , even though you think your child might need to be around other kids , its not worth it . If you think they need more structure, see if your sitters will put them on a schedule and maybe try to teach them . There are some excellent resources for preschool and daycare activities online for free. And although I loved the daycare they were in ,and their teachers were great, I can't see putting children in daycare when the care they would get at home or with family is always gonna be better. They will always get the attention they need instead of being in a room full of rowdy kids all begging for attention .

Ida - posted on 03/09/2011

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As a psychologist, i would highly reccoment daycare as it provides an opportunity for your kids to learn valuable skills such as playing in a group, sharing, conflict management etc. Also day care has qualified carers that can start you children on things such as drawing, recognisng shapes, colours, grouping of things. So day care has two elements, social interaction and learning. Plus it helps with things such as separation anxiety. Being away with grandparents is not the same as being away from mum and dad and be with people they dont know as well.

Heather - posted on 03/08/2011

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Personally, I am not a fan of daycare. As an alternative, I have gotten my daughter involved in play groups and swimming lessons so that she gets the socialization that children need. In my opinion, in daycare and school, they learn bad habits from other children.

Julie - posted on 03/07/2011

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Well you know your kids best, i felt the same way when i placed my daughter in homecare. It was only a couple days a week and i very much trusted the daycare worker which is an absolute most when you do this. I planned it as an easy transitions to the home took her over a few times and i stayed with her for an hour then i sliped out. She cried at first for only a few moments i was told but after two days she was great and loved to play with all the other kids and learn so many new things a burn that endless energy the have too. You can only do so much as a parent then you have to let them discover own their own. good luck and dont settle you have to feel comfortable about your choice and remember you need to let them know how to communicate with you too.

Brianne - posted on 03/07/2011

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I think it totally depends on the kids. My daughter started part time daycare/preschool around 2 1/2. She has always been very social and loved it when I had left her at the gym daycare when she was littler. Some kids will have separation anxiety, but the longer you wait to try it, the worse it will probably be. At the age they are part time would likely be a good idea to start, it never hurts to socialize. A lot of daycares offer a free trial day, though if its a private home that might not be the case. If you are ready, give it a try!

Brianne - posted on 03/07/2011

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I think it totally depends on the kids. My daughter started part time daycare/preschool around 2 1/2. She has always been very social and loved it when I had left her at the gym daycare when she was littler. Some kids will have separation anxiety, but the longer you wait to try it, the worse it will probably be. At the age they are part time would likely be a good idea to start, it never hurts to socialize. A lot of daycares offer a free trial day, though if its a private home that might not be the case. If you are ready, give it a try!

Tana - posted on 03/07/2011

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There is so much more to a GOOD daycare. I volunteer in my daughter's kindergarden class and you can immediatly tell the kids who have had well rounded care, whether it is family or professional. The key is are they getting age appropriate learning ( directed play), physical activity AND socialization. Don't sweat it once you find that daycare situation that you are comfortable with.

Jennifer - posted on 03/07/2011

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Well I am a single mother of 1 and my daughter has been in a daycare setting since she was 3 months old. Except this is a private babysitter who watches anywhere from 4-10 a day depending on the day. My daughter loves it there and she will be 3 in may. She has friends and she is so well spoken and almost advanced for her age. I think it is partialy due to being around other children a little older. Have you tried asking around to see if anyone has recommedations? I think an actual school setting may be a little much but if you can find someone that you trust that watches them for a flat fee I think you might have an easier transition. Hope I could help.

Mary - posted on 03/07/2011

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as a mother of a beautiful 20month old boy who started daycare at 4months of age, and was abused by his daycarer which left him with severe brain damage is blind and is tube fed,i would say keep them with your mum,its only 1 more year untill they go to pre school.
But i cannot put all daycarers in the same basket, there are some great daycarers out there, dont look just because she has 2openings, thats what i did, because i live in a city that is difficult to find childcare and when i found an opening i grabbed it.
Take time to find out about the daycarer, does she have insurance, is she involved with someone,who else other than her is in the center and are they qualified to be with children, you can ask her these questions because you are giving your babies to her to take care of you are entitled to know everything about her! again i dont want to put you off but better safe than sorry. Good luck.

Jessica - posted on 03/06/2011

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I have three children who are 4 (son), 2 (daughter), and 8mths (daughter) who each started daycare at 3 months old, I had no other option but I have never felt like it was a bad decision. My children are extremely well adjusted, secure, and confident little people. They are so prepared for school and the teachers even assist with development such as potty training, bottle and paci weaning, etc. I feel like our teachers are great partners to have and take a burden off me as a full time working Mom and wife. They love to go to school and see their friends!

Stephanie - posted on 03/06/2011

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The first question would be can you afford daycare. Even though that sounds like you are putting the money aspect before your kids, its a big question. I was a stay-at-mom since my daughter was born 3 1/2 years ago. I just recently got a job. When she was 2 I thought about it and discussed with my husband about putting her in daycare. I wanted her to get used to being around kids and having that interaction before I had to put her in school. She has done so well but I think a lot of that has to do with her teachers. We even call it school, which she loves. You would be amazed what they learn from being around kids. I would suggest putting them in daycare. If there are opening and you are really interested in this daycare, I say go for it. You can always take them out and go back to your old schedule (I am assuming). But ultimately it is up to you on what you want to do.
Good luck!

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I think you might have transition issues if you plan to put them in a preschool after day care. I would wait until they are 3 and put them in a preschool. It'll be a one time transition and get what you're looking for. You'll have preschool options if you wait to that might save you money. You'll also have a few months to save a little bit of money to put towards preschool. My son is 3 and I'm a SAHM. We put him in a half day preschool 3 days a week. It's cheaper then a full day program, and he's getting the learning/ socialization aspect.

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my son started daycare at 8 months because i had to go back to school and he loves it. it was a little rough at first cuz he wzasn't used to it, but the interaction with other kids and the learning activities they do and the structure are great for him.

Renae - posted on 03/04/2011

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PS - just wanted to add - I think I am so happy with daycare because I searched for someone that I really felt comfortable with and who had a similar parenting style to me. I also like knowing that one person, who I chose, is looking after my baby, not any staff member at a centre where the staff might change. When we arrive at daycare he jumps out of the car, runs to the door, runs in and gives the carer a big hug, then bolts into the toy room. He is completely happy there and I think that's what makes me so ok with it.

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