Toddlers Sharing A Room.

Ann - posted on 10/17/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and I currently have two little girls 2&3 years old, and am currently 7 weeks pregnant. Obviously one way or another they will be put in a shared room. I am terrified of this process but there's nothing we can really do about it we don't have any extra space. We have a spare bedroom down in our basement but I don't trust one of my girls that far away from us because she knows how to unlock all the doors and what not, and would be scared of her getting into anything down there, or god forbid getting outside into our backyard. I was curious as to when would be the right time to put them together in a room? Or when is too soon?

I know all children are different and will take time to get used to being in the same room and sharing a space but I just don't know when I should start the process. I have been wanting to do it soon because then I'll know there good and ready and used to being in the same room.

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Ayesha - posted on 10/20/2014

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Ann - I have 4+ and 5 year old girls and at first, I was really apprehensive about putting them in the same room. But we needed to get the younger one out of our room so we finally bit the bullet and did it when the older one turned 2. My concern was that they'd end up waking each other up etc. But it worked out nicely. Kids at that age are heavy sleepers and so once in a while, they did wake each other up, but not often. Also, I think they found it comforting to be in the same room.
It's never easy to introduce these changes but once you do it, you realize it seemed more daunting. One way to ease into it may be to put them in the same room when they nap and gradually move them to the same room at night time.
Hope that helps.

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Ayesha - posted on 10/22/2014

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You move fast Ann :) Great to hear.
And just so you know, 2.5 years after I put my kids in the same room, I still have to go in and settle then down. So it sounds like you're off to a great start.

Ann - posted on 10/22/2014

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Thank you Ayesha & Chet. I currently bit the bullet and put them together. So far there doing far better than I expected. If they don't go to bed straight away they've at least learned they can play quietly for about half an hour and then it's light's out and quiet time. I have to go in an settle them down every so often but there getting better at it and i'm glad I started earlier than I planned cause now I know they'll have lots of time to get comfortable being in the same room as one another :)

Chet - posted on 10/18/2014

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We have four kids. Our girls are 16 months apart, and our boys are 17 months apart.

I've always felt that room sharing actually made things easier. Right now we have the boys in one room and the girls in another, plus an empty room. Before that, the three oldest kids shared a room, the youngest slept with us, and we actually had two empty bedrooms.

Nobody has ever had their own room so I don't have much advice about how to get kids used to sharing space. The girls slept with us until they went to their own room together. Our third slept with us, and then shared a room with his sisters before sharing a room with our youngest son.

Because the kids are close in age they share the same toys, books and clothes so it makes sense to have it all in the same room. Reading at bedtime is also easier since we've always been able to read to two or three kids at once.

When kids are little sometimes you need to stay longer with them at bedtime so they are closer to falling to sleep and not as likely to play with and distract each other. I expect that when you put your kids together there is going to be some excitement and silliness in the beginning when it's novel so you might want to do it right away to get that over with.

For the younger kids we've used small ikea beds like these so there was more room to play in the shared space:

http://www.ikea.com/ca/en/catalog/produc...

For the older kids we used bunkbeds with lots of built in storage, again to leave lots of space to play and make the space easier to share:

http://www.bunkbedking.com/img/stairway-...

They say that kids should be at least six before they have bunkbeds. Our girls were 7.5 and 9.

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