Toddlers that refuse to do anything ex. shower, eat, sleep etc

Esteth - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 1 soon to be 2 year old doesnt like to shower anymore. Before he use to love it would shower 2 times a day with no problem. Now to shower him just once its a problem. He screams fights from the moment he enters the bathroom to the moment he is out dried and dressed. This fear he seems to have now is affecting my potty training since everytime i take him to the bathroom to potty train he believes im going to bathe him and he runs out of the bathroom screaming "No!" Any tips or other moms going through these early stages of the terrible twos? Oh i also have tried bringing toys sitting in the tub with him and his father also i even show him when i bathe his baby sister ( who loves to take baths) but nothing seems to work



Also he has become a picky eater my son who use to eat everything now just barely eats or if not wants to eat apples all day i make him his favorite foods snacks i try to make it "fun" food but nothing he has his days when he wants and when he doesnt and i know his doctor says its normal because toddlers are not like us grown people but i worry he isnt getting the right nutrients and vitamins his body needs to grow healthy and strong any ideas?

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Michelle - posted on 03/29/2011

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try to let him decide things. Ask him if he wants a shower before or after supper? Or do you want a thing or that for dinner. Only give him 2 choices and make sure they are ones you can live with and follow threw on as its hard to not know where you belong in the house roles any more.

Vicky - posted on 03/29/2011

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He can adore her, I think he is just trying to see where he fits in, I think a little bit of patience and not giving in when he starts to fuss, instead focus on the good things he does and don't put a lot of emphasism on the things he has decided he does not want to do anymore.

My daughter has been wanting for me to be picked up when I am making super, I used to pick her up instead of letting her cry. But I realized I was just encouraging her to keep whining for other stuff. So now I praise her whenever she is playing by herself. And ignore her when she is fussing she realized that she would get more attention for being good then when she is being bad. This is also a time in your little man's life that he is trying to assert himself. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Stephanie - posted on 03/29/2011

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my son didnt like bath time either he screamed bloody murder but after a little while he got over it with a little patience it took a couple of months for him to figure out it isnt so bad and now he wants to bathe himself and he wont turn 3 until may just give him time to get over it as for the potty training my mother-in-law use to put the little chair on the outside of the door by the bathroom so that my husband and his sister use it my two cents isnt much help but i hope it helps u out some

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Michelle - posted on 03/31/2011

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First off with the bathing I would say it could be one of two things jealousy of the new baby and this is how he is getting even with mommy for bringing a new baby home. I do understand he loves his sister but he was an only and now he isn't and they don't like being moved from baby to big boy. As for the eating it really is normal we are going through this with my daughter some days she eats everything I put in front others she won't eat anything so we keep a lot of pizza and hotdogs on hand for the days she doesn't want to eat and the rest of the time she eats very healthy watch how many calories he takes in during a week not a day as for them a serving size is a teaspoon of veggies or meat and such their little tummies are tiny.

Nancy - posted on 03/30/2011

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they go through stages. mine daughter was great @ 2 now 3 Oh Boy!!!! Let him tell you when he is hungry. i had to learn. mine fills up on milk & her doctor said let her be abit & she was again change? Good luck Mom

Truepulse - posted on 03/29/2011

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Did he have any bad experience while bathing while you were away? I mean like did he fall, or slip, coz sometimes what happens is they get little scared when sudden something like this happens, you need explain them and make the situation light for them, try involving him with the new baby tasks like "can you get the diaper", "can you please give mamma the bottle", "lets put baby to sleep", or like its mentioned above involve him with your chores... giving him seperate time like playing with him and encouraging him with his little games.. Try soothing and comforting him and let him make little choice for his sister in shopping or what dress to put on for the baby... hope this helps. You will get through with this.

Esteth - posted on 03/29/2011

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when the summer started last year he would scream like crazy also then he got use it then after i came home from the hospital he started again with not wanting to bathe sae as the eating habits changed also once his sister came home and i havent changed with him our routine is still the same just now he has his little sister who he plays with and adores

Alexis - posted on 03/29/2011

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He may be showing that he has his own feelings about things, I am with vicky on her question too..

Vicky - posted on 03/29/2011

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Did your son start doing this since his baby sister has come into the picture?

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