Trouble Sleeping. My 2 yrs 7 month old daughter sees monsters! Help

Kasia - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




My 2 years and 7 month old daughter is having trouble sleeping for the last 3 weeks. We have tried letting her cry it out which made is so bad that she would shake and cry when we told her it was time for bed. One night last week she finally told me she sees monsters in her room. I don't know where she gets that from. I thought that happens to 4 years old children not 2! So we now stay with her until she falls asleep (She is still in her crib). She has a nightlight, we sweep for monsters before bed, and I put a dream catcher above her crib as well as a blessed rosary (just in case!). So basically we tried everything and she is still up screaming 3-6 times a night! We respond promptly and she usually falls back asleep within 15 minutes but I can't go back to sleep that fast. Help we all need more sleep! Any suggestions that worked for you will be greatly appreciated. I will try anything as I am desperate after three weeks of not getting enough sleep. She used to sleep through the night no problem before this.


Melissa - posted on 09/15/2012




Have you tried praying with her and anointing her for the Lord? Our oldest son was like that for a while whenever we went to his grandmother's house. It would start before we even made it in the door and lasted until we took him out of the house. We prayed with and over him, anointed him, and eventually he overcame that fear. He actually enjoys going there now.

I don't know if that will help, but I hope this passes soon and you get that much needed-sleep!

God Bless!

Denikka - posted on 10/07/2012




Lis, I have never heard of a doctor recommending that you tell your child that there are no monsters.

I personally think that's silly. Monsters exist. They may not be googley eyed, or have tentacles, or whatever. But there ARE monsters. They just happen to usually wear the skin of a human being or other animal or thing that an adult sees differently.

Besides, when you tell your child that monsters don't exist, what you're really saying is that their perception of the world doesn't matter, that it's wrong. You don't know what your child saw. Maybe they are trying to deal with a real life experience they had.

For example, if your child goes to day care, maybe they had an experience where a dog walked by the fence, barked, or got too excited or something, and scared them. In their mind, that dog can easily morph into a monster. Now, you are telling them that monsters don't exist. You are negating their experience and their fear.

Is it not better to give them tools to help comfort themselves when they're afraid of something, whether it's real to you or not? Who are you to negate your child's emotions or experiences? Just because their perspective is different than yours, doesn't mean that it's wrong or that it didn't happen.

I'm personally a fan of monster spray. Take lavender (comforting) or a perfume that your child would associate with you and mist the room. That along with monster checks.

My son went through a monster stage. So we went on a monster hunt. Torin, his dad and his uncle all got foam swords, Torin got full riot gear (from the dollar store :P) and they went nuts, attacking everything that Torin pointed out as a monster. We did it a couple times over the span of about a week, but we finally chased them all out.

Not long ago, we moved, and Torin brought up that he was afraid that the monsters would come back. So I told him that because we moved, the monsters couldn't find him anymore (the main problem we had was with the *tree monsters* outside his bedroom window. There are no trees around the house in our new location, so it's not an issue here)

We've also told him that singing scares monsters away (thank you Princess and the Goblin :P) so we sing a song before bed, and then we decide what he wants to dream about that night :) It's worked really well for us :)

Lis - posted on 10/07/2012




If you "scare away" the monsters or "spray with water" or use a "shoe box to put the monsters in", aren't you in fact , verifying that yes, there are monsters? Doctors recommend you tell your children that there are NO monsters.

Cleaver - posted on 09/17/2012




when that happened my sibblings and i my mother bought us a teddy to 'protect' us mine was a dinosaur that roars my mom told me to hug him when i see a monster, my sister for a dragon puppet (hes didnt do much but it helped) and i dont remember what my older brothers was... my mom is now having to get one for my youngest brother (2.5) because he is scared of monsters. something that she can hug when shes scared might help it helped me.

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Sara - posted on 11/10/2009




I would suggest a Night light or a lamp!! make it into a game... Better yet get the movie monsters inc have her watch it tell her monsters are friends they are friends in that movie let me know if that works k

Connie - posted on 11/09/2009




Im with the first mom i did the monster spray only i added in a scent so that as he was spraying my house for monsters he was also making my house smell good. it works in 2 ways lol. i used a germ killer:) hope it helps

Ashly - posted on 11/09/2009




i so i know this is going to sound crazy but have her growl and scare the monsters away!!! (it gives them the mind set that they can scare them away) my 2 yr old was scared of a lot of thing dealing with night and dark, everytime we would go outside she would thing monsters were coming, going into a doorway first when the light wasn't on and also if it wasn't bright enough. so we started to growl and roar like dinosars cause monsters are scared of dinos ;) anyway it worked for us hope the idea helps... she could also be having night terrors and that can be discussed with your doctor, a snack like crackers before bed helps out too.. just something on their stomach could be a good thing...

Gina - posted on 11/09/2009




I'm not sure I like the method of getting rid of monsters before they go to bed. My 2 yr old has said the same thing about something under her bed and I tell her there is no such thing as a monster, it's all made up for the movies. She was actually scared that swiper (Dora the Explorer) was going to come in her room at night and take her baby doll. She doesn't say it anymore because I kept on telling her it's all made up and not real. She seems to get it.

Debra - posted on 11/06/2009




My 2 year old does the same thing. We have started giving her a flash light before bed, and letting her look everywhere in her room with the flash light so it "kills the monsters" She still has nights where she wakes up and cries, but we just go back through with the flashlight. Less crying at bedtime it seems and less monsters lately.

Kimberly - posted on 11/06/2009




I just had this problem and someone suggested to me to make a monster box. We decorated a shoe box and every night before bed go through his room and trap them so they can't get out.

Kristen - posted on 11/06/2009




aww, I'm sorry :( have you tried "monster repellant" or something to that effect? Basically its the concept of showing her there will be no monsters. Some parents use a squirt bottle of water and lightly spray around the room to keep those buggers away, some go through with them and look under the bed, in the closet, etc to verify there are NO monsters. Good luck!

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