TRYING FOR A BABY, AFTER A MISCARRIAGE......ANY ADVICE?

Rosanna - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello Circle of Moms! How is everyone today? Well, Its been a sad sad weekend for me, & my boyfriend.



I found out I was preganant on 8/14 (Fri). Went to the doct. to have an ultrasound done on 8/19 b/c I noticed I was spotting, but the doct could not see anything in my uterus. They had me go do some blood work on 8/20 in the AM - I then started bleeding heavily that evening. SO, needless to say I had a miscarriage over the weekend. STarted on Thursday 8/20, I am still bleeding and having some pain - not as bad as Thursday or Friday.



Has anyone here gone through this as well? What can I expect? I have mixed emotions......I'm not even sure how far along I was. I was still early in the pregnancy, more than likely, less than 6 weeks. When is a good time to try again?? When does the bleeding normally stop from a miscarriage? Any thoughts, anything will help! I feel like I could have avoided this somehow, btu not sure what caused me to have a M/C. But I know “God never gives you more than you can handle”..............



Thanks all,



Rosy

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Tori - posted on 08/28/2009

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This has also happended to me twice. You didn't do anything to cause the miscarriage. Even though it was early in your pregnancy, it is still a loss. It is normal to feel depressed. I was told to start trying again after I got my period back. I was also told not to use tampons while I was still bleeding from the miscarriage. I did get pregnant pretty quickly after my period started back after my second miscarriage and carried full term with a very healthy baby. One thing I found out is that miscarriages are very normal and a lot of women have them. Good luck.

Ruby - posted on 08/26/2009

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The same thing happened to me as well. It was very hard so don't be hard on yourself right now. I do know that for some reason after miscarriages it's usually really easy to get pregnant. I was able to get pregnant the next month, but I was really anxious too. I tried not to worry too much, but it seemed really hard not to. Once I got past the first trimester it was a little easier.

Don't blame yourself whatever you do. If you truly believe God never gives you anything that you can"t handle then believe He would never have let this happen without some reason. It's not your fault, there's really nothing you could have done to stop it if it was meant to be that way. It's not fair to punish yourself just.

The bleeding with a miscarriage should be a little heavier than your normal period, but if it lasts too much longer you should see your doctor.

User - posted on 08/25/2009

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Same thing happened to me. A lost 1 then twins. I had to have d/c after the twins. It sucked and I was miserable for a very long time. Then I finally got preg. again I carried him to term, but I was a nervous wreck the whole time. I can honestly say I was all worth it. But it was really hard. I think most miscarriages happen because something isn't just right with the pregnancy. Especially one that early. I found that bubble baths helped me. Both with the cramps and the stress. The bleeding lasted a while. I finally called my ob and told them I had to have some type of pain med. I think that getting out of town for a few days was the best thing I did. I suggest you try again when ever you and your doctor think it is safe. Just be prepared to be a little anxious even if everything is going well.

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