UGGGGGHHHHHHH...... Help please.....

Thewhodatchick - posted on 04/29/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




Potty Training.. Dicipline.. Keeping calm. I'm going CRAZY!!

Paige Neatherland
You - posted 1 day ago ( no moms have responded yet )

I am at my wits end. A EXTREMELY brief && VAGUE discription of my life since I'm new here. I'm 24 years old && have a almost 3 yr old son. I do not work. My husband works on a rig 14 days home 14 days gone. My mother even at this age tries to run my life & everyone elses around her (meaning if I go to town I must tell her for how long & why & when I'll be back etc.). I'll probably post another subject about that part.

My real problem is my son lol. He used to listen to my every word. I completely understand about the 'terrible twos' as I have been told about them multible times. He now defies my EVERY WORD. There is nothing that he will listen to anymore. He is the sweetest child to everybody else. Babysitters, my parents, my husband && even me when he's sleepy. During the day (which he is only with me every day all day).... It's a constant power struggle. It's gotten to the point I have to holler almost everything to make him listen && he still wont do it. He is speech delayed && I've been attempting potty training as well. He will sneak in his room... Pee on the floor && come to me && say 'PP' wanting to go to the potty after hes already pee'd. This has went on for months.

My husband (when he is home) for 14 days is ZERO help at all. He watches him. Thats it. My son gets NO discipline from him unless I make him. I have to tell him (in front of my son) "Jeremy you need to get on to him for that". When I talk to him & tell him this he says things like 'Whatever' or 'I do discipline him'. Even pediatritions have told my husband we need to have a solide consistant set of rules.

I guess I'm asking is there a way to help my son transition the 14-14 work schedule of my husbands? Is there a way I can give an example to my husband to make him see my son is confused & out of control && needs his participation? Is it too early to potty train just yet because he isnt having it at ALL. Is there ANY advice whatso ever to stop these power struggles && relax my anger?
Thank you all so much for your replies in advance!!!


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LovingMy - posted on 06/03/2015




I know it is fustrating, I am going through potty training as well at the moment, but with a girl. I am doing it with no other person helping me, so here is my 2 cents. First make sure your son is wearing pants that he can pull down (no buttons, zippers) just sweats, shorts, etc.. Second, never yell (regardless how fustrating it is). The more you yell the worst it becomes for everyone. If he goes make sure to reward him (treats, dances, high fives, stickers) make it always a special moment when he goes. Third, if he is old enough to stand and pee then try throwing some cheerios in the toliet and see if he can hit them. I know sounds gross, but toddler boys find this to be a great game and encourages them to pee in toilet. Also, have him go with his father to the bathroom to watch him and when you go make sure to always take him with you and have him sit while your go on his toilet. I take my daugher first thing in morning, 15 -20 (mins) after any beverage and before she goes to bed. I also know her poop time. She has a movement aroun 8pm, 10pm, and at 6pm. Know your child's schedule and it makes it much easier. Good luck and remember do not punish for accidents.

Latisha - posted on 04/30/2015




Have him sit on the potty for twenty minutes and off for fifteen minutes than back on again till he gets it if he wears diapers tell him you don't have anymore and he needs to use them bathroom

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