What do you do when parents just let their kids run wild?

Katherine - posted on 10/13/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Seethe quietly. Give them dirty looks....

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Toni - posted on 10/13/2012

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I'm a bitch I just look pointedly at the child and say to mine" we have to go now because some mommy's don't care to look after their kids and make them behave like nice children" and go. I figure there's no hope for the mom so might as well get under the kids skin. Usually results in instant behaviour improvement too.

Katherine - posted on 10/15/2012

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Don't get me wrong here, my kids HAVE been wild. But I take control, I don't just sit back and let it continue. And if I get dirty looks, I just smile. What can I do? They're either tired or hungry.

Chezzfaye121 - posted on 10/13/2012

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how do you know these children you are judging have not got something wrong with them, or that the parents may deal with that behaviour day in day out the best way they can

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Sophia - posted on 11/19/2012

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I just think thank God its not my child. please dont ever act like that. And kids like that are never playdates never never !

Jessica - posted on 10/15/2012

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I will leave the situation and explain to my son why we are leaving, that the children are not behaving. The other day we were at the park and some older kids were hitting eachother with sticks I asked the kids to please not hit eachother because they are setting an example that its okay to beat eachother with sticks.

September - posted on 10/15/2012

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Nothing. I mean if another child hit my child well then yes I would intervene however if one is choosing to parent in a different way then I choose to I stay out of it, unless I'm asked to get involved of course. If the child is really out of control and it annoys me I just remove myself and or my child from the situation. No need to judge someone I don’t know.

Denikka - posted on 10/15/2012

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I'm pretty much with Katherine. Seethe...shoot dirty looks. . .if they directly interfere with me or my children, I may say something a bit backhanded towards the parents, like Toni.



To me, it really doesn't matter what the kids behavior is. Whether their running around, just sitting there screaming, coming up and whacking other kids....that doesn't really play into my judgement. It's what the parent is doing about the child's behavior.

No matter where I am, a decent restaurant or McD's, a mall or a park or a movie theater, I expect parents to parent their children.

If your kid has come up for the 5th time and smacked another kid, and for the 5th time, you've sat on your butt and texted or gabbed to your friends and done nothing about it, you're going to get the dirty looks and, if the kid who got hit was my kid, I'll probably say something snide as I walk by you on my way to leave.

In the same scenario, if the parent has gotten up every time to deal with the child, taken them for a time out or done something (and especially apologized to the child/the parent of the child who got hit), then that's fine. It happens.

If I see a mom desperately jiggling and shushing her baby (I generally also appreciate if they apologize for interrupting other peoples dinner) in a restaurant while the baby screams it's head off, I can have the courtesy to ignore the irritation. Heck, I may even go over and offer to help if she's looking extra frazzled. If the kid is sitting in the high chair screaming while mom sits, sipping a latte and chatting with her pals, totally ignoring her baby, then once again, dirty looks and, depending on how much the screaming has disturbed my lunch, possible a rude comment.



For me, it has almost zero to do with the child's behavior. That's what directs my attention to the situation, that's all. It's how the parents handle it (or not) that causes my irritation and any action I may take.

I have found that as long as you apologize and try your best to deal with the situation, people are generally understanding. I have only very rarely in the past 3.5 years had any dirty looks or rude comments or seen it happen to others who are obviously TRYING to manage the situation, no matter how bad it gets.

User - posted on 10/15/2012

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That is awful I know if i had the thought in my mind that my child would act out, I would be removing him from the stuation before it started. I dont like to have a show and get mean looks. I wanthim to understand it is not ok to act certainways and if he persists hes not going to get what he wants. so I avoid tantrums/outbursts as soon as I feel it'll about happen. I do agree that in any situation children need parents to discipline them and help them understand how to behave and control their energy, it isnt respectful for others around. I know controlling a child when they are ready to run is hard but I think too many times parents give in because they dont want to dealwith it, their exhausted or whatever reason. Not gearing this toward any particular situation but in general

S. - posted on 10/15/2012

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@ Cheryl well if I had perfect kids who didn't throw a paddy or scream in public them maybe I'd judge you but I don't! mine can give as good as the rest but your key words there are "I am trying to quieten them down" paddies and acting up is normal and as much as I hate it people can stare at me as much as they like when mine have paddies because I am trying to deal with it, I think the "trying" part makes all the difference.

@stacy these kids was doing lap's of mcdonalds we could have sat out side and we still would have been in contact with them and I'm not even joking.

User - posted on 10/14/2012

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lol I just read the other posts. I would consider the whacking of a child a safety concern, and even if it was a way of them to say hello, they dont need to do that to strangers! I normally try to sit away from other kids just to keep that distance where if they are out of control they are less likely to bother me or my kid lol

User - posted on 10/14/2012

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Even at times it is unpleasant expecially when you want peace and quite. But I feel that people shouldnt get involved with other family issues, unless its a safety issue. We arnt sure of their own situation, and it can really hurt others feelings if they are given dirty looks or confronted on how they need to control their children. I try my best as a parent and sadly its practically inevitable for you to get that dirty look from someone because they dont like what your child is doing, and it does hurt and make you feel like a bad parent, well to me anyway. Im not perfect but I try my best to treat others how I want to be treated and I hope others would also do the same

Chezzfaye121 - posted on 10/14/2012

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fair enough the shouldnt be ignoring them, but i get plenty of these dirty looks and comments because my toddlers are "naughty" both are going through diagnosis for different conditions.



so would you judge me say for example i took then to a restaurant and they were screaming all the time i am trying to quieten them down, or would you judge me too.

S. - posted on 10/14/2012

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I don't! but something wrong with them or not I feel if your kids running riot somewhere sitting ignoring them, gabbing to your friends and texting really isn't the right thing to do,is it? And I am not judging the kids but yes I am the parents. I have two nephews with "something wrong" with them but my sisters tell them and try with them these mothers did nothing! Regardless to anything else unless your in a fun play and eat kind of place you shouldn't let your kids run wild whilst others are eating full stop.

S. - posted on 10/13/2012

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You should have whacked the mother one and said "I'm not sure your son's way of saying hello is going to catch on somehow" lol

Katherine - posted on 10/13/2012

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When I was at a McDonald's a kid came up to my daughter and whacked her. The mother said, "Oh that's just how he says hello." WHAT??????

S. - posted on 10/13/2012

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Uggg me to, I'd taken the kids for tea in mcdonalds for a one off treat on Tuesday and these two boys (about 4years) was running wild and I mean running everywhere, having fights, filling up the sauces and the mothers did nothing! My two year old ate nothing because she was too distracted with the wild children. I was livid how can parents let there children run around like that in a food place? I mean yes it was mcdonalds, nothing classy but never the less kids should be tought to have respect for others and sit nicely. Sorry for the little rant lol ;)

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