What time does your toddler go to bed? Is 8 too early for a 17 month old?

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Gabriella - posted on 05/26/2013

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I am so jealous of all you parents whos toddlers sleep all night. I put my 17mth old daughter to bed anywhere between 8 and 8:30, she has her last bottle then she falls asleep, almost immediately, but then she wakes at 1 or 2 o'clock, Ive tried patting her on the back, but she cries for "bottle, bottle!" so I make her another bottle and usually change her nappy. She then falls asleep but wakes up again at 3 or 4! again I try patting her on the back....but to no avail! she talks laughs, then cries! this may last for 30 mins of whining, then when its silent but only for 10 to 15 mins then she starts the whole talking, calling for me then crying. I thought It may be teeth so the past 2 weeks Ive been administering baby panadole to her 1, o'clock bottle..... but still she wakes up at around 3, 4 or 5.!! It is driving my whole family crazy! I have two other children, aged 10 and 12, and dont ever remember having this problem with them. My 17mth old has a nap during the day from 1 to 2 o'clock. I would be so grateful for any helpful ideas. :(

Liezl - posted on 05/28/2013

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Gabriella, my son used to wake up for his bottle as well, but they're not actually hungry at this age if they had a decent-sized dinner. Try giving water from a sippy-cup when she wakes instead; my son usually wakes up because he's thirsty. As for the naps, at you can make the nap quite a bit longer. Generally, kids this age need around 2 to 2.5 hours of sleep during the day (if she'll sleep that long). She might be over-tired at night which causes her body to pump adrenaline, which then makes it difficult for her to stay asleep. I used to put him down to sleep at 7 PM, but then he just woke up at 4 AM and was DONE SLEEPING :( He now goes to bed around 8 PM, and it works much better for us. You can also try Nicole Johnson's Baby Sleep Site; I found a lot of helpful articles there about nap and sleep training.

Gemma - posted on 06/30/2009

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my 14 mnth old son and daughter who is coming up 3 are in bed by 7 and asleep within 5 minutes, i have always had 7 as a bed time and it works. my 4 and a half yr old is allowed to stay up til half 7 and then she goes up too.

Jeannie - posted on 06/29/2009

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i agree with the majority here, it's whatever works best for you and your child. My son is in bed by 8:30, he's 21 months, but he needs at least 12 hours of sleep at night, my daughter, 4 1/2, goes to bed anywhere from 7-11, depends on if she has had a nap that day, but she sleeps in late, I usually have to wake her up around 10 am. each kid is different, just like everybody's schedule is different, I'm lucky enough to be a stay at home right now, so our schedule is really weird, lol.



I say if your child is tired at 8, or little earlier, then try putting them to bed, see how long it takes them to fall asleep, if they go to sleep quickly, the time is perfect, but if they play or fuss for a long time, they aren't ready, bedtime becomes harder if they do that. My son is out within a few minutes at 8:30, but my daughter would play or get up constantly if I put her to bed before she is tired. You just have to try a few different times, see what works best for both of you.

Christina - posted on 06/09/2009

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All of my kids have gone to bed at 7:30-8pm and they are 5yrs 31/2yrs and 23month twins.... I think they need all that sleep especially depending on how early they get up..........

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Gabriella - posted on 06/06/2013

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Thank you for your reply Leizl :). I started a new routine with my daughter about two weeks ago where by I put her to bed at 8:30 with a bottle, she wakes at around 1 or 2 so I give her another bottle but have been reducing her milk content to half a bottle an eventually I will stop that all together but it will take a lil time, I also change her nappy rub her back reassuring "every thing is ok" she falls asleep and then she wakes up again at around 4 or 5. When she wakes at this time I dont go in to her room I just listen, I have noticed its only a whinge not a cry so I give her time to settle herself and since doing this she has managed to settle her self to sleep again!! It usually take about 30mins. This has been a great break through for us! I read some research which indicated that I had encouraged a pattern of behavior since birth! what I had to do now was to reprogram a new pattern where by my daughter could settle herself....since doing this it has worked. Eventually I will cut out her 12 night bottle but I will wait until she is a lil older. I can cope with this new pattern for awhile. Once again thank you for your reply and advice. :)

Vanessa - posted on 06/23/2009

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I don't think 8 is to late at all... my daughter goes to bed at 7-7:30 and she is 20 months old. I do feel that it depends on the child. If your child is starting to show signs of being tired around 8 then by all means let them go to bed at 8. Keep a schedule. I have a sister who is slightly older than me and she does not keep a schedule. She has a son who is 22 months old and a daughter who is 4 and they both go to bed between 10 and 11. I would never allow my children to go to bed that late but she says it works for them. Also, I think it does depend on what time your child gets up in the morning. My daughter wakes up between 7 and 8 in the morning every morning and again has been doing that since birth so there really is no need for me to try and reset her interal clock!

Ginger - posted on 06/23/2009

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My son just turned 1 and goes to bed around 9:30 every night...unless we're out and about late. He sleeps usually until between 8-8:30 the next morning. He usually takes between a 1-3 hour nap depending on our work schedules and if he's at the sitters that day. We are going to start trying to get him to bed by about 8:30 gradually though.

Kellie - posted on 06/23/2009

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my son goes to bed from 7-30-8.00...he has a 2 hr day sleep....i wanted him to go to bed earlier but it just didnt work for us..so instead of the struggle,we just tried to look out for his tired signs,and they kick in about then so we just went for that...so what ever works is the best.

Rebecca - posted on 06/23/2009

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my son Jake in 21.5months is in bed by 7pm every night and doesnt wake till 7-8am.

how ever if we are staying at Nanny's and Pop's he night not go to bed till 8 but that only b/c nanny and pop give him anything he wants

Kirstin - posted on 06/22/2009

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you say he naps and is restless, my son had the same thing at 21 mths if not earlier. nap 2- 2.5 hrs and not sleep till late. i cut out the nap, he was so cranky first day but went to sleep 730 and didnt wake till 7

second day was better same thing all night

i have never regreted taking out his arvo sleeps so early he has been better off for it since i have

Kirstin - posted on 06/22/2009

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Both my kids are in bed and read a book to them lights out by 730 on the dot, no later. they both wake at 7 which suits me just fine. My son is 2 and my daughter 1

Gail - posted on 06/21/2009

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my eldest daughter who is 4 in a few weeks, used to go to bed at 7pm, this slowly increased as she got older to now 8pm, but she is high energy and takes ages to sleep, so she usually falls asleep about 8.45pm, if shes tired i put her to bed earlier, which is rare lol, she hasnt had naps since she was 18 months old.
my youngest is 16 months old, and from since i can remember has gone to bed early, she used to go to bed a 5.30pm, i couldnt keep her up, i eventually got her to go at 6pm as couldnt stand the 5am starts!
she only has a morning nap for 1/2 hours, but last few days has been crying to go to bed at normal 6pm time, but then not going to sleep till about 7pm to 7.30pm so thinking i may keep her up longer as i lie in sure would be nice, im jealous of all you mums whos babies have to be woken!! or that like to sleep till 8/9 am, none of mine have ever done that as toddlers, i had to wait for my son to become a teenager to experience that! lol

Kathryn - posted on 06/21/2009

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Not really my daughter been going to bed at 8 since she was 15months and she is now 2

Angela - posted on 06/20/2009

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we try to keep to our routine but sometimes it just isn't possible. My little girl will soon be 13 months and we aim for her to be in bed by 8-8:30. Sometimes my hubby doesn't get home from work til 7:30 (and he is gone b4 she even wakes up in the morning) and he misses spending time with her so we stretch her bed time til around 9ish if she isn't showing any tired signs. She only has 1 nap a day now and it tends to be around 11-12pm and she sleeps for 2-3 hours. Her daytime nap is never interrupted (if we can help it). Do what works well for you. xo

Cherise - posted on 06/19/2009

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I think that totally depends on your schedule. That age group needs between 10 - 12 hours of sleep at night, so if you need your toddler up at 6, so you can get ready and be at work, then an 8 o'clock bed time would allow for 10 hours of sleep. If you don't think that's enough sleep, move the bed time up a half hour. My daughter (19 months) goes to sleep at 8:30, and her brother (3 years) at 9:30, and our neighbors think we're nuts. But I'm a stay at home mom, and this schedule works for us. We get up at 8 every day. My daughter needs a bit more sleep than my son, sometimes she wakes up earlier, and then I get one on one time with her in the morning, and some extra one on one time with my son at bedtime. It also allows for our family to have dinner together and play time without rushing through dinner, bath, bedtime routine. Totally works for us, but not everyone's cup of tea for sure. Like I said, we certainly get some looks! Oh well! :)

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i have 2yr old twins they have gone to bed at 6 since they were about 1 it took awhile to get them in the routine,they no longer have a day nap and never sleep in after 6 but im always awake.i did try putting them to bed later but they still get up at the same time.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2009

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i av a 2 nd 3 yr old nd they both go 2 bed btween 6 nd 7... but niether of them nap durind day i dont think they need to.... if my 2 yr old does fall asleep for an hr then i put her 2 bed an hr later....

Gwendolyn - posted on 06/16/2009

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I think that is not to early. I wish my daughter was on that schedule somedays but honestly since i work 9-5 and don't get home until 6, putting her in bed at that time would mean sacrificing time with her and is not fair so her bedtime is 10, she doesn't go to sleep right away but she stays quiet until she falls asleep.

Corahnda - posted on 06/16/2009

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no i put my 18 month old to bed around 8:30-9:00 it depends on what there schudles are like during the day. Jennise wakes up around 8:30-900 she she will take a nap around 130-200 an then back to bed for the night. no you just have to get them in a routin

Jess - posted on 06/16/2009

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I have a 14 month old and a 3 and a half yr old and when i can my boy (14 month old) is in bed by 7 and my little girl is normally in bed by 8 I sometimes let her stay up as she is such a good sleeper she wont rise till 10!!! My sister has my niece in bed by half past 6 every night she is 18 months!! Its whatever works obviously u get a bigger break at night which is always nice

Ruby - posted on 06/16/2009

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My baby usually get into sleep by 8:00 when she was 8months old. but now that she's 15 months, with all my lullabies sang over and over... i can get her to sleep by 10:00. she has more playing time now.

Juanita - posted on 06/15/2009

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I have two toddlers and both of them we put to sleep at 8pm. We do the same routine daily and make sure we get them tired enough so we don't have a hard time when it comes to bedtime.

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8pm is a perfectly acceptable bed time for him,any later and I think it would cause problems.A routine is vital.

Claire - posted on 06/15/2009

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My daughter is nearly 2 and goes to bed by 8pm everynight she has a bath a little story n then bed i have done this since she was little. i was glad to read she goes about same time as others as grandparents have told me its to late and she should be in bed by 6 pm. My daughter has 1 sleep between 12 n 3 and no later else i cant get her to bed and her sleep is only 2 hrs.

Lisa - posted on 06/14/2009

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My daughter goes to bed between 8-8:30 and I find that if she stays up later than that she doesn't sleep as well and is cranky the next day. She naps better too if she's on the same schedule. Plus, having a set bedtime helps me keep my sanity!!

Mashal - posted on 06/13/2009

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I have found that a good healthy nap at noon for about 2 hrs and then going to bed by 10pm works great for my 2 yr old....If he doesn't get the nap though OH LORD hang on b/c you are in for one crabby night and fights bed time. Like somebody else said on here it's like they get over tired then they can't sleep good.

Stephanie - posted on 06/13/2009

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Hello ,
No 8 is not to early at all. My son is going to br three on tuesday and he still goes to bed at 8pm. That is a great time for your little one.

Christine - posted on 06/12/2009

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My 23month old goes to bed at 5.30pm and will sleep untill 6.30am also has a day nap for 1 hour....

Bella - posted on 06/12/2009

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Yes that's true; I think the sunlight; does play a factor. Because in the winter the babies probs get used to relating darkness with 'bedtime'. The light throws them a bit. I aim for 7:30/8pm; but since the summer it has been more difficult.

Paula - posted on 06/12/2009

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Heck no! 8PM is a perfect time in my opinion. As long as you have shades that block out the sunlight. 8:30 is my goal for my 2 y.o. but lately it's been more like 8:45-9PM.

Babies & toddlers need all the sleep they can get.

Bella - posted on 06/12/2009

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My son's 14 months and he goes to bed about 7:30/8pm and doesn't get up till bout 8am.

Nicole - posted on 06/11/2009

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my daughter is 8 months old and she goes to bed between 8:30-9 i will let her stay up til 9 at latest because sometimes she more tired that way and when i put her to be earlier she just fights it until that time anyway

Tina - posted on 06/11/2009

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My 18 month old daughter goes to bed b/w 6-6:30pm. She wakes b/w 4:30-5am no matter what time she goes to bed and needs her sleep. She takes a 35-40 min. AM nap and about 50 min. nap in the early afternoon. We have been on this schedule for over a year. Also, she might be napping too long, also after 8pm they say kids get a second wind...

Ellen - posted on 06/11/2009

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certainly not - young kids need sleep
our 4 year old still goes to bed at 8:30

Rachel - posted on 06/10/2009

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My little boy is two and he goes to bed at 6pm every night he wakes up at 7am the nxt morning.

Hes been going to bed at 6pm since he turnt 1.

Simone - posted on 06/10/2009

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I think my son is abnormal.(he's 16 months old)......he goes to be at 5.30pm and has 1 nap a day in the morning. He usually sleeps till 6am. I think he must just be a lazy bum though :)

Kathy - posted on 06/10/2009

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maybe move her nap time up - i know my 2yr old has a hard time falling asleep at her 7:30 bedtime when she sleeps until 4:30. She's still taking 2-2.5hr afternoon naps too. don't cut that out - i'm sure it gives you time to get "me time" in! When it started staying lighter later in the evenings i noticed her rustling around late too. Get some darker blinds to help block the light maybe.

Selina - posted on 06/10/2009

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My daughter as been going to bed at 7.30 every night since she was about 3 months old, she used to also have 2 naps 1 in the morning and 1 in the afternoon. She is now 19 months and has 1 nap in the afternoon but still goes to bed at 7:30 x

Sandee - posted on 06/09/2009

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My 18 month old has being going to bed between 7-8 pm every night since he was 4 months old which is when he started eating rice cereal. He gets up between 6-7 am full of energy. Depending on how busy are day is depends on whether he takes one or two naps. If two naps the first is at 10ish for an hour and the second is at 3ish for another hour. If just one nap then around 1pm until 3ish. I try not to let him take a really late nap otherwise he won't go to bed until 9ish pm; I'd rather keep him up longer and put him to bed earlier since he always gets up around the same time every day.

Christy - posted on 06/09/2009

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Quoting Kathleen:

My six-month-old son doesn't usually fall asleep until about 9 p.m. After his bath he lays on a big pillow on my lap, drinks his bedtime bottle, and when he's done he lays there looking at me until he falls asleep. Should I be putting him in his crib while he's still awake and making him fall asleep in there? He then starts trying to get up in the morning at about 5 a.m. I make him last until at least 6. Honestly I'd much rather he sleep unitl 7, but it just doesn't happen. He sleeps about 8 or 9 hours and that's just his max. If I put him to bed earlier, he'll be up at 4 a.m. How do I get to the point where I can put him down at 8 a.m. and get him to sleep until 6:30 or 7:00?



I would definately put him to bed before he falls asleep. He will become used to falling asleep on your lap. When  U want him to sleep in his bed, it will be a very difficult transition. I have had so many friends who allowed their child to sleep with them  until they were a year old and then had trouble with the transition. My daughter has never slept in our bed and still to this day she will not fall asleep in our laps or our bed. She wants her bed only.



We have always put our daughter down at 8pm and she will sleep until 7 or 8 am. Her naps were limited to 2 per day for approx. 1 to 1.5 hours at a time. This schedule has always worked for her. She is 17months old now so the nap has changed. Rather she sleeps at her scheduled sleeping time doesn't matter..to me at least...Its about the schedule. She still lays in her bed and babbles to herself for a while before she falls asleep but she knows every night at a certain time she is to be in her bed. Schedules are very important. Hope this helps some....Good luck!!

Kathleen - posted on 06/09/2009

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My six-month-old son doesn't usually fall asleep until about 9 p.m. After his bath he lays on a big pillow on my lap, drinks his bedtime bottle, and when he's done he lays there looking at me until he falls asleep. Should I be putting him in his crib while he's still awake and making him fall asleep in there? He then starts trying to get up in the morning at about 5 a.m. I make him last until at least 6. Honestly I'd much rather he sleep unitl 7, but it just doesn't happen. He sleeps about 8 or 9 hours and that's just his max. If I put him to bed earlier, he'll be up at 4 a.m. How do I get to the point where I can put him down at 8 a.m. and get him to sleep until 6:30 or 7:00?

Judy Carmela - posted on 06/09/2009

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Quoting susan:

my todler is 18 months old and she doesnt sleep she goes off to sleep at 12 am 1 2 or sometimes even 3 am and has no naps during the day the kid runs on a ton of adrenaline and she is killing me but i have been working on using up all that excess energy and getting her to bed by 10pm it has worked a few nights but have to be consistent with the interactive play 8 pm would be heavan if you got it keep it


ous kids must know each other.lol. my 18 month DS wont' go to bed until 9 at  the earliest. he used to go to bed on his own earlier around 8 but after our out of country emergency trip, it was ruined! so now i would have to hold him till he falls asleep.

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My son is almost 2 and he also goes to bed between 6:30 and 7:00 pm. He wakes up between 6:30 and 7:00 am and naps for 2 - 3 hours in the afternoon. If he skips his nap for whatever reason, he goes to bed a bit earlier. I always put him down round about the same time. Sometimes he takes a bit longer to fall asleep, and sometimes he's out within 5 minutes.

Sinead - posted on 06/08/2009

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Mine always went to bed from 6.30 -7pm. My 2 year old is stretching out to about 8 now. As long as they aren't too upset and they settle down for the night, I wouldn't worry. If you find the little one is waking during the night, try a bath before bedtime and keep things quiet and happy, sing a silly song, give little kisses. Mine have a routine, curtains closed, lights out, say good night, I love you and a little kiss. Persevere with routine.

Theresa - posted on 06/08/2009

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no way! the eralier the better. My son is almost 2 and still goes to bed bt 7:30 and 8pm. Days he misses his afternoon nap he's out on his own by 6:30pm :)

Carla - posted on 06/08/2009

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I'm so glad to read these posts. I've been putting my 4 and 18 mos to bed by 8 p.m. since my oldest was a baby, and everyone thought that was just way to early. Everyone else I know has their kids up til 9, 10 or even later. But, my kids need to be up at 6 am, so they need to go to bed to get enough sleep. I thought maybe I was putting them down too early.

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7:30 is the normal bedtime for all of us (me, twin 7.5 year olds, and 14 month old). My son will fall asleep anytime between 7 and 8 on almost every night and I go to bed as soon as he does. He is up around 6 most mornings, but will sometimes sleep til 7. I'm very lucky if he naps for a total of 2 hours during the day (whether that is one nap or broken into 2).



I do let the girls stay up later than 7:30 on non school nights. :)

Courtney - posted on 06/07/2009

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My daughter (23 months) goes to bed at 8ish every night...sometimes 8:15-8:30, but nothing later. Then she wakes up at like 7ish in the morning. She takes a nap in the afternoon about 11 or 12 and sleeps for about 2-3 hours. She gets a lot of sleep, but she is always a happy baby!! Hope it helps.

Kristina - posted on 06/07/2009

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My daughter is 18 months old, and she sleeps every night from 8 pm to about 730 am. Then, she takes 1 nap in the early afternoon for about 2 - 3 hours. It makes life so easy for me since I know every single night she will be out by 8 and I can plan whatever I want for past then. I have friends that have kids that won't go to bed until 10, 11, sometimes even midnight every night, and they are miserable! So, if you can get your kid to go to bed at 8, then more power to ya!

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