whats the best way to introduce a new born half sibling that doesnt live with you and your children

Kayleigh - posted on 09/11/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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i have 3 year old twin boys and there father has a new relationship with a baby boy on the way would just like to know the best way to introduce the half sibling to the boys

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Chris - posted on 09/14/2009

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i have one step son and a nephew ....but they were all both living with us when we had our son. we always treated ALL of our children with the same respect and love whether they were ours, step or relative. how often will they see each other, is the father's relationship gonna last? all will determine how close and how involved your children will become.

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Mair - posted on 01/24/2011

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Im going through a very similar situation. My son is 7 and his father and wife are expecting Triplets. I worry about my son being pushed aside so to speak and how he'll deal with it because he usually goes to his dads every other wknd (unsually not always especially if its not condusive to their lives) I know my son will be thrilled about the babies at first because he asks me all the time for a baby brother or sister but once they are here he may develop resentment if he isnt properly prepared and he so isnt since they are already 5 mths along and havent told him yet.

Chris - posted on 09/14/2009

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answer questions as they ask them, give them only the information they ask for...don't try to explain things they can't understand. it may be a lot easier than you think.

Barbara - posted on 09/14/2009

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My 2 oldest kids are my step children and they didnt move in with me until my 2 son with their father was born. We prepared his kids for their new half sibling by letting them come over and see the nursery, they loved felling the baby move. The day after my 1st son was born my husband brought both kids up to meet their new brother. We did this with all 3 boys that i had so that they would be sure to feel included. Its doesnt really matter if the relationship your ex lasts or not he will always be part the the childrens lives so the sooner the better. Its a balancing act sometimes for everyone involved. prep your kids the day of let them know they are going to meet their new brother or sister with their daddy. let them ask questions and when they get home just chit chat with them about their new sibling. hope this is helpful

Jodie - posted on 09/14/2009

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do you get along with the mother? if so sit down with her and your ex and explain the situation. let them be involved. I have a great relationship with all my sisters/brothers...full, half and steps..can be done, if you have a good attitude towards oneanother.

Kayleigh - posted on 09/14/2009

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thankyou this helps more then you can expect but im still concerned as the twins are going to be seeing the new baby each week end

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This is a tough one, since you don't even know if the new relationship will work out. How often will the boys be expected to see the baby? You know, I think I would play it safe, for now, and tell your boys: This is your daddy's new baby. If the children want to know more, they'll ask you! Your concern is proof you'll do what's best for the boys. I have 2 half brothers and a half sister (and I hate the term, half), whom I love fullly. By all means, don't discourage a wanderful relationship between the children. Let "them" and the circumstances be your guide. Good luck to you!

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