whenis your toddler TOO friendly?

Cassandra - posted on 08/31/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my son is 2 1/2 and he will go up to random people if he has his harness on and hug and kiss them. or if he is in his buggy or wagon he will start talking to them. yesterday we went for a walk and before i could stop him he went up to some guy and gave him a hug, i didnt want to make a scene so i let it go but afterwards i told him that he is not supposed to go up to people like that unless he knows them but i dont think he understood. please ANY advice on this will be appreciated. i dont know what to do anymore!

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Bernadette - posted on 09/06/2011

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yes, it is nice as long as you are with them to make sure nothing can happen. I was out with my daughter the other day, and a friend and her daughter. An elderly lady approached us after the girls spoke to her, and asked if she could give us some money for the coin operated ride in the shopping centre. We started to say no thanks, it was ok and for her to hold onto her money. But then she said that her daughter won't let her see her own grandchildren and so she loves to give money to kids for rides, just so she can watch children enjoying themselves. She nearly started crying when she said it, and it was so sad! So we let the girls have the ride and she waved to them and was very happy to see them having a nice time. She said that around Christmas time, she always carries a purse full of coins, just to hand out to the children for rides. It was lovely that our girls were able to brighten her day a little.

Christina - posted on 09/06/2011

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People love outgoing children!!! He may brighten someones day without you even trying. As long as you are with him I do not see any harm in him showing his social side. A have a few very social children myself (4 to be exact) and I noticed that if I tried to discourage it it only got me worked up. I have had so many people, strangers included tell me how wonderfully charming my kids are. I say let him be charming :)

Elfrieda - posted on 09/03/2011

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I think it's cute. People like toddlers who are friendly, it brightens everyone's day.

Bernadette - posted on 09/02/2011

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it can be concerning because of the whole stranger danger thing - you want your kids to realise that they can't talk to just anyone, but at that age they are too young to understand and of course you don't want to make them scared of everyone if you try to reiterate it too much. I think at that age, encourage them to be friendly while discouraging touching and as long as they are always withing your sight (and easy grabbing distance, just in case) then they are not going to get into any trouble by talking to people.

Janet - posted on 09/02/2011

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You don't need to do anything. Perfectly normal at this age. My 2 1/2 yr old daughter is in the same stage. My older daughter was similar and by the time she was 4 yrs old was much more reserved. She's almost 7 and now fairly reserved. I think most kids go thru this to varying degrees as they are learning about their environment. It's only a problem if are still doing this when school age! Far too early to talk about stranger danger. It's normal development according to most books on toddlers.

Michelle - posted on 09/01/2011

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My now 10yo son was like that. I remember going shopping and he would wear one of his spiderman/superman outfits and be standing on the front of the trolley going around the supermarket. The little old ladies would comment on how we had a super hero and he would proudly say his WHOLE name, age and even my name to everyone who would listen. They do grow out of it but just keep telling him what you are.
As they get older we can explain more about stranger danger and they will understand.

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