why are my toddlers so bad? what do i do?

Brandi - posted on 02/13/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have a 19 month old and 3 year old. They are both so bad, especially the 3 year old. If I yell at the 19 month, the 3 year old will run over and do exactly what he's doing just to be bad. He does not listen at all. He will listen when he wants, both of them know what I'm saying when I say it. I try to put tthe 3 year old in the corner, and he doesn't stay, he just screams and runs out. When I finally get him to stay there, he will inch over and over til he's out of the corner and run. In public, all he does is scream and run around. I used to work at a fast food, when his dad would bring them in when I was working they would be complete monsters. when we bring them out to dinner or breakfast, they are horribe. Every other kid that age are wicked good. I've never seen such bad kids ever. It makes me so mad. They both don't play with ANY of their toys, all they do all day is just run around the house touching stuff they KNOW they aren't supposed to. Its ridiculous and I'm so sick of it. When they're eating, they will just throw their food everywhere. I don't know why they're so bad. The 3 year old was the best behaved kid until about 9 months ago. I don't know what happened. The 18 month old will just randomly throw himself on the ground hit his head over and over and scream for no reason at all, all the time. My 3 year old, if he's doing something or has something he's not supposed to he will go hide with it or be quiet so we don't hear him. When we see him he will either hide it behind his back or run as fast and as far away as he can like maybe he thinks if he runs away he won't get in trouble, but he does every single time. Idk why they like getting in trouble. It makes NO sense at all and I'm so sick of them not listening and doing the exact opposite of what I say EVERY time I say something unless me or their dad stand up and stomp our feet like we're running over to them to put them in the corner. I don't know what to do. please I need advice! I can't take it anymore.


Brittan - posted on 02/21/2015




First please stop thinking of your kids as "bad". Please stop calling them "bad". They're just kids and they internalize the labels you give them and they behave accordingly. I have a 3 year old who falls out in public sometimes and misbehaves at home sometimes too. The highchair is our timeout spot (he can't run from there) and I set the microwave timer for 3 minutes. I'm still learning too, but my best advice is be consistent, be way calmer than they are and just try to engage with them as much as possible. The more time I spend with my son actually playing with him and talking to him, reading, etc, on a consistent basis, the better behaved he his. Also pay close attention to what's happening at daycare or preschool and how your kids are treated. I've yanked my son out of a few before I found one that I'm pleased with, and I still monitor them carefully and ask him about his day.

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