why is it so hard for my sons dad to love me and stick around.

Lashea - posted on 08/19/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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He comes and goes he tells me how much he loves me but yet shows nothing he puts his friends first before his family he doesn't ask or anything about our son how can i get him to wanna be here i did not make my son myself and he has an alcohol problem.

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Raye - posted on 08/26/2015

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I agree with Christina. Don't try to continue a romantic relationship with this guy. Only deal with him as a parent and talk to him only about the child. Don't try to force the father into anything, but don't keep the child from seeing the dad either.

Christina - posted on 08/26/2015

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Girl, a child will never hold any man in any relationship. We all know how you feel. Your the only one doing everything for your child, your life is upside-down while he is living it up in the single life.
He will not see what you wish he did right now, nor does he care. Just be strong, right now you are mommy and daddy. When he gets a little older and mature a little more, he's going to realize what he has missed out. Do you work? Family close by? You need a lot of support right now to get you through this rough time. These days will pass you will look back and think I can't even believe I missed him. Not a good role model for your baby. Good luck girlfriend. Remember never push your child on their father. As he will only see it as you wanting his attention, never let him see you sweat let him know that you got this! Does he give you money for the baby? Because if he does not then you're going to want to pursue that. He is responsible for his actions and his child is part of his actions.

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