Why will my almost 3 year not go to a toilet when it that time?

Amanda - posted on 08/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




In a month and a half my youngest will be 3, but she refuses to go to a toilet. We have moments that are good when she will go but she never always pees in the toilet. I see her running around holding herself bc she needs to go. If I let her to go she will. If I ask its always no or I just did when she hasn't. And poop is the worst. My other daughter hated so she went to the toilet no problem this one doesn't seem to mind. I have done everything I can think of. I have tried being gentle at first, then moved to time out, then to sitting in the hallway until she did go again, and now I'm trying out making her clean it up herself- not working either. A couple weeks ago for 3 days she did all great but she became constipated I gave Miralax then she got diarrhea. I attributed the problem to that being a backslide but here we are 2 weeks later and after sitting out in the hall and cleaning it up herself today peed in her pants once and pooped in them then tried to hide it. I'm at my wits end someone please help me!!!!


Amy - posted on 08/20/2012




You've made her sit in the hallway till she went potty again? I don't think using timeouts is going to be effective for potty training. My doctor always told me there are two battles that you'll never win food and potty training, you can't force a kid to eat or use the potty. I would give it a break for a month, don't even talk about it and try starting again. Find something that will motivate her and use it as a reward.


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Katherine - posted on 08/20/2012




My 3 year old did the same thing. It's not uncommon. Actually my oldest at her third birthday party peed her pants FIVE times! Don't put a lot of pressure on her. Just roll with it. I know it's a mess but she WILL stop. My 3 year old has been potty trained for 6 months and has pooped her pants twice now. EWWW!

I don't punish her though. I praise her when she does well.

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