13 months and pacifier

Aneliz - posted on 02/12/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )




My 13 month old wont give up his binky. Does anyone have any ideas how to make this an easy transition for him and all of us? Thank you :)


Christine - posted on 02/22/2011




i told my little one that her binkies were going to stop working soon because she was getting bigger, after about two-four weeks of prepping her to understand that i cut all the binkies in the house and when she tried them she said, "mommy i am bigger now, my binkies don't work anymore" she helped throw them away and that was the end of that.


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Jodie - posted on 03/14/2011




with my oldest we actually lost it at my parents and since it was the only one we had taken he had to give it up. lol! losing it worked so well that it's exactly what i did with my other 2. one day it just got lost and we couldn't find it. it took almost a week for the middle one to come to terms with it being gone. he was 18 months and the oldest of all 3 when it was gone. i wouldn't worry about it yet because he's still young.

as a side note, we finally found the originial lost binky at christmas. my son is now 9. lol!

Melissa - posted on 03/13/2011




My theory with a pacifier is that i can take it away where as if he sucked his thumb i cant take that away from him. My son is 2 and only has it for nap/bed times all the other times he leaves it in his bed with his stuffed toy he sleeps with. Every child is different & only their mother knows when it is the best time to wean/take it away from their own child. You will know when your child is ready =)

Lisa - posted on 03/11/2011




My sons doc said that most kids give it up by age 3, but just use for naptime/bedtime only. If you try to take it away too soon, they will replace it with thumb, or fingers and than that is worse than the binky. good luck

Tiffany - posted on 03/09/2011




at this age, cold turkey. itwill be a hard 2-3 days and it will be over. My daughters was taken at 11 months the same way, then she was teething bad again around 15 months and I gave it back - WORST MISTAKE. She's now 2 1/2 and at this age, it isnt appropriate to take it cold turkey. Around 16-18 months toddlers start to have a 'object permanence' awareness and after that point in time it would be very traumatic to take it from them, so it has to be a willingness between you and the child for it to be gone. Once she is better at reasoning we'll be tossing it (right now she uses it only at bed time)

Good luck - but my best advice is take it away ASAP to make all your lives easier (since you wont have to fight to take it later)
(I'm studying to be an early childhood educator..)

Lindsay - posted on 02/25/2011




I cut a little hole in the end when my son was about 20 months. I kept it in a drawer so he knew where it was and when he wanted it he would ask for it. Whenever I gave it to him he would just suck air and look at me like, what's wrong with it? I would tell him it was broken and then distract him with something else. It did not take very long to wean him completely.

Rebecca - posted on 02/23/2011




Talk to him about he is a BIG BOY now and BIG BOYS dont need binkies anymore. Think of something fun and creative to do with him to give it away. Give it to the moon, the cow, ect. If that doesnt work cut the end of it little by little. He either isnt going to like it because all he is doing is sucking air, or there wont be anymore to suck on. I also had to let my daughter know 'this is the last one' when its gone there is no more'

Jody - posted on 02/22/2011




just dont give it to them to start with. supernanny collects them and puts them outside on a tree for 'the other babies' then in the morning there are a few toys instead

Brianna - posted on 02/22/2011




my daughter is 15 months and im not ready make her give up the pacifier yet lol. she only has 4 teeth and well seems like she really needs it to sleep when teething. I was told that cutting the tip makes it so they can suck on it so they just stop using it

Corhead143 - posted on 02/21/2011




maybe just try to give it to him only at night or when sleeping... as soon as my son woke up the nuk would stay in his bed... he has alot of fun throwing it in this bed... having him tose it in on the bed made it fun for him and he is always happy to do it...my son is 16 months now and still gets the nuk i am not ready to take it way from him yet as im sure there will me a few sleepless nights! i wouldnt worry about taking it away from your son just yet... dont care what other people are thinking about it... you know whats best for your son and for now its not hurting him so let him be happy with it... you have to pick your battles with babys and kids this one i think can slide a little longer :) lol hope this helped you

Angie - posted on 02/21/2011




When my daughter was about 18 months I took the binky. She had already been weaned to only using it at nap time and bed time. I was hesitant to take it from her because we travel back to the US several times a year and she used it for ear pressure pain in flight.
For a couple weeks we talked about how big girls don't use binkies and they are for babies. When she woke up one morning we told her the binkies were gone. She agreed and told us that they are for babies, not for big girls. At nap time she cried for about a half an hour. At bed time she cried for maybe 10 minutes. The same thing happend the next day. She asked for it a couple times over the next week or so, but didn't cry for it again.
Good luck!

Dana - posted on 02/21/2011




My son started biting it at about 2 1/2(?). Then losing them. was worried that he would choke on the pieces so I took it away from him. It was HELL for about a week. And before it went away, he would wake up all the time cuz he would lose it. After it was gone, he hardly ever woke up.
It won't be easy for a bit, but WELL WORTH it in the end!
Good luck!!!!!

Lindsay - posted on 02/21/2011




I weaned my kids down to they could only use it fir nap and bed....then I told them it was time to give them to some babies that didnt have one. it helped that we were also ready to move and I told the kids that the pacifiers werent allowed at the new house. they asked for it once or twice but that was it. if your child screams and cries for it they arent ready to give it up - choose your battles!

Aneliz - posted on 02/13/2011




Thank you :) I guess its just the pressure of everyone saying oh he still uses a binky and they give me this face when they say it...then the doctor saying he should of been off of it when he was 6 months when he didnt even start using it until he was 7 months. Im just going to wait and take it away before hes 2 :) Thanks everyone all your comments helped and made me feel better!

Cindy - posted on 02/12/2011




My son was 18 months before we got rid of it. He went to bed one night without it he as so tired. So I took advantage if the situation and went the next day without it. He wanted it but just told him it went bye bye. He started sleeping wiht a stuffed animal. Only about a week and a halfand he did not ask for it anymore. U will know when to try.

Fiona - posted on 02/12/2011




I think he's a bit young - I wouldn't worry about it - as long as they give them up between 2 and 3 there should be no speech damage.

My daughter is 15 months and she is not ready to give it up full time - however she is now prepared to hand it over on request and put it into mummy's pocket


Aneliz - posted on 02/12/2011




I like that idea! Ive tried taking it away but its a nightmare. I'm going to try cutting the nipple down little by little. Thank you :)

Krissy - posted on 02/12/2011




nope... LOL, just take it away and make a big deal about how big he's getting....

I've heard about the "binky" fairy or other such stories, but I think that's more for the child that has it at over two still. Not sure the 13 month old could reason that all out.

one mom posted on here that she cut a really small hole in the end of it... and just slowly every so often nipped off a little more until child no longer enjoyed it.

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