18 month old out of control!

Heather - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone..I am having a really hard time with my 18 month old Giannah...Giannah is a very smart girl but is very hyper and tends to get aggressive quite often..I ahve tried everything i can think of from telling her nice touches, to time-out in a chair, to stern calm voices etc. Giannah hits, bites, picnes everyone in the family for no apparent reason. Sometimes its from boredom, over stimulaiton and frustration but i can only do so much for that...I dont know what exactly to do anymore or how to handle it but i am at my wits end. Does anyone have some helpful advice

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Niccole - posted on 02/13/2010

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I had the same problems and I went online and found an online community about this and discovered most mom's had the same issue with their babies. Honestly, I think it's a phase. I've seen it with my friend's babies who are around the same age, and most of them grew out of it, including my own. Just be persistent with them, let your child know it hurts. Time out works really well with my daughter, and if she has a fit while being in time out, I don't let her out until she calms down (which is usually a total of 3 minutes at the most) and apologizes for what she has done to be in time out in the first place. However, I don't just punish my child for the bad, I reward her with the good. Let your child know when they're doing a great job, and be specific about WHAT he/she is doing that is a great job. I use the reward system, not with candy, but with time doing something she really enjoys doing. For example, if she behaves really well in the grocery store, she gets an extra 15 minutes of play time at the park. I hope I've helped you in some way, and good luck.

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Megan - posted on 12/21/2010

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that is exactly how my son is... he is the same age and he throws things and bites and i have tried EVERYTHING ! he is a good boy for the most part and he is VERY smart..He was walking at 09months and he is just progressing and learning something new each minute..

Lydia - posted on 02/16/2010

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WE HAD THE SAME PROBLEM AT MY SON'S SCHOOL REGARDING BITING. WE WENT TO SEE A PEDIAT. AND SHE SAID THE ONLY WAY TO GET HIM TO SOP IS TO DO THE SAME ACTION BACK SO THAT HE CAN REALISE THAT IS HURTS AND THEN TO EXPLAIN TO HIM THAT IT IS WRONG. WE DID IT AND IT STOP IN THE FIRTS WEEK THE SAME GOES FOR HITTING, AND SO ON.

Heather - posted on 02/15/2010

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Thank you all for your help and support...im so glad other moms are going through the same thing and not glad at the same time lol i really thought something was wrong with my daughter or i was a bad mom....Thanks again, I hope it all works out

Maria - posted on 02/13/2010

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You poor thing, you have my sympathy! I am going through the same thing and it is really hard to stay positive sometimes isn't it. I find being really stern and letting them know it isn't acceptable and then making a real fuss of the child they have upset and ignoring your own works pretty well. I have also found that when my son is hungry he really plays up, so maybe worth having some snacks handy, like chopped apple. It helps to distract them and also diffuse the situation. Good luck, they do grow out of it, but its hard work!

Charlotte - posted on 02/13/2010

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Have you heard of love and logic? If not you can look it up. I have really loved their methods. Basically for your problem, just sweetly say "oh dear! time for some bedroom time." and put her somewhere that she cannot see you if possible, where she will not get hurt, or cannot get out, or any attention from you. When she calms down you can get her out, kiss, hug and love her. Next time she does it, do the whole thing over. The most important thing is to not ,let her see that she gets anything but a loving response from you as you dish out the "Time out", so that she feels lovable. kids often act out when they are scared they are not lovable. good luck! I'm working on my third toddler. Fun fun!

Nicoscia - posted on 02/13/2010

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I am sorry that I cant give any advice. Because i am having the exact same problems. And when out in public and she bite or pinches sum one i don;t now what to tell them. So wen she is playing with other children i tell them to keep out of her face. I also tell them to come get an adult if they want something from her. Because trying to take something from her is going to cause a problem. She can get very much get out of control.

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