2 1/2 year old Boy

Rachel - posted on 11/25/2008 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi i have a 2 and a half year old little boy Josh and a 9 month old little girl Bella Josh at the moment is being so naughty all the time hitting kicking. Pealing wall paper off his wall ripping up bits of paper. (so my mum says normal 2.5 behaviour) But its getting me down a bit as i can't cope with him and her! Also mum is ill so am looking after her a lot.

Can any one give me any tips all i seam to do is get angry and shout at him but i know thats not the soulition!

Any help would be appreciated! Regards Rachel xx


Christi - posted on 11/25/2008




Do you do time outs. I have a daughter who is just to turn three and we have been doing time outs since see turned two. We put her in her little chair for two minutes without her sippy cup or blanky. (We had to hold her down in the chair when just turned two since she wouldn't sit still) That worked for her when she was 2-3 yrs old . But I also noticed if we were in the house all day both of my children would get rowdy. Even if we just got out anywhere at all, they did better. But what helped even more is a schedule....every morning we would go to the gym (they could get a lot of energy out there) at the same time every day and they had much better behavior all day.
All children are so different and different things work for different children but I
noticed when I can actually have the patients to sit down and explain what is happening or the consequences of what she was doing and why it was wrong she responded much better than when I would just yell to her to just stop.

My daughter is very strong minded! And independent. She likes to be the boss (leader) of everything. We will be eating dinner an I'll be chewing my food and she'll turn around and say in a very reprimanding voice, "MOMMY, EAT your food!" She yells NO to everything even the things she loves most! She will have a temper tantrum at the drop of a dime, despite our major efforts to be very disciplined and consistent. She does not responding to time outs at all any longer though. She'll be 3 in 2 weeks) She would be very naughty and not listen causing trouble all day, tormenting her younger brother. I believe she is what they call a, " Spirited" child and I am now reading a book called, " Raising Your Spirited Child, A Guide for Parents whose child is MORE intense, sensitive, perceptive persistent, and energetic" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. I love this book because it helps you see these traits as a positive thing in life (which in reality they are) despite the daily struggle we are experiencing right now. They are very admirable traits to have as a successful adult. The book teaches how to give a positive look on our children and the best ways to deal with their strong personalities now.

We just started taking away her blanky and her sippy cup for small amounts of time as a punishment on top of timeouts. Finally we found something that seems to be helping. What a challenge it can be!

You said "for the moment" they are being naughty all the time; is there something new going on that may be effecting them. Perhaps they are feeling like they need to get your attention more since you are taking care of your mother?

You definitely have your hands full with your children and your mother...I wish you all the luck :) And hopefully I there was something here that could be helpful to you.

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