2 1/2 yr old girl-potty training nightmare!

Taylor - posted on 05/07/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




my daughter is 2 1/2 now but she started potty-training when she was 18 months. She caught on pretty quickly and would TT every time we put her on the potty, although she never got to the point where she would tell us that she needed to go. About 3 or 4 months ago we had a setback where she got off the potty and pooped all over the floor and herself and everywhere. I'll admit we overreacted while trying to send her the message that that was not acceptable. Since then she has not gone in the potty at all! She throws the biggest fit everytime we even mention the potty and she will sit there holding it until she gets the diaper back on, screaming the whole time. What can I do to get her back on track??!! I have a 20 month old that needs to start potty-training too. I desperately need to get her out of diapers....what can I do?


Julie - posted on 05/08/2009




I would take a step back and wait awhile. I am firm believer in not potty training children who can't communicate that they need to go. You are only training yourself to take them potty in a timely manner so that they do go on the potty. While your older daughter is old enough now to do this it isn't fun or rewarding anymore. I would just keep suggesting the potty or asking if she needs to go and when she does lots of praise! If she doesn't want to go don't make her. I made the mistake of trying to potty train my son at 2 because everyone said I should. He was not ready and it was an almost year long fight. My next three children I didn't even begin to think about it until they were two and a half and had started asking about it on their own. My third child was 2 years and 7 months and one day asked for panties like sophie ( her big sister) we went and bought some and three days later she was done! My youngest will be two on the 17th and while she has started to notice when she goes in her diaper she is no where near ready to potty train. Just relax and let her go at her own pace, it will happen!


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Angie - posted on 05/09/2009




I agree with Julie. It sounds like you need to back off the potty training. Maybe wait a month before you even mention the potty again. Just give her some time. Who knows, maybe once you stop pushing her to go potty she'll take the initiative herself?

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