2.5 year old who has a breakdown if her routine is disrupted.

Heather - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 2.5 years old and is in the little miss independent stage. She wants to do everything. She wants to get her own diapers. She wants to get in her car seat. She wants to close the door going in and out of the house. All of this is fine and good except if she doesn't do these things, she flips out.

An example is this morning, I got her diaper out and she flung herself on the floor screaming. Then later, I forgot and turned out the bathroom instead of letting her do it and she flipped out again.
I've never known a kid who did this. Yes, throwing tantrums when they don't get their way sure, but this seems like if her routine (even if it's only routine to her and not OUR routine) gets thrown off even so much as us getting the powder and not her results in a tantrum of epic proportions.

I don't know what to do. We tell her that she can do it next time or whatever or that we forgot which makes her calm down and stop wailing, but it's really becoming a little disconcerting that she seems so OCD.

Anyone deal with this??

thanks!

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Heather - posted on 11/22/2009

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If I forgot to say let her turn off the light, normally, I will let her turn it back on and then off again. But sometimes, she has a meltdown so fast that I don't even have time to say "ok, you can do it" because she's already thrown herself on the ground and is wailing uncontrollably. It just seems a little excessive and it makes me nervous that she's going to be OCD or something.

Andrea - posted on 11/21/2009

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My daughter is like this too! she has to do EVERYTHING herself. she loves to do it ALL. the best thing is to remember that she will want to do it and let her. its part of her freedom and independance, which is very important to some kids.and becuase it takes 2.5 yr olds so long to do things start everything early for the extra time. maybe instead of saying you can do it next time, let her do it then. for example, if you turn on her light and she wanted to, turn it back off and say okay im sorry mommy forgot, you do it. that usually woks for us. hope this helps!

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