2 year old bullying younger kids

Tasha - posted on 03/27/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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ok, so my two year old son zandor likes to fight with other kids. he usually plays with our roommates son who is 9 months old and a friends son who is 14months. with both of them , he likes to hold them to the ground and punch,kick,bite, ect... weve tried everything we could think of , but nothing works. we even encouraged the 14 month old to fight back so that he knows what its like. he only did it once , when my son poked him in the eye continuously and kicked him in the groin. does anyone have any suggestions on how to stop my son from picking on the younger kids??

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Maggie - posted on 03/31/2011

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oh and one other very important thing: praise him when he is nice to the other kids. When he is gentle tell him what a good job he is doing playing with the babies. He will appreciate the praise since kids that age really want to please thier parents.

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2011

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my son has adhd he is only 3 but we have done all these things to and it takes time and commitment you have to keeping doing tome out and taking him away but it takes a long time i did star charts and treats for my son and it does help but not the problem you also have to get down to his level when telling him off give good eye contact and a firm voice too but also give plenty of priase to him even if it is something small this helps mine alot he loves it

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Maggie - posted on 03/31/2011

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yeah, keep him away from them until he learns to behave. If those were my kids I certainly wouldn't have let them play with your kid more than two or three times if the behavior continued. Your child is two which means he has learned this behavior somewhere. Think about how you discipline him - do you bully him? does anyone else?
Think about the consequences for his actions. When he hits or kicks another child what happens? Do you put him in time out? spank? take away privledges? or nothing at all?
I would suggest picking one consequence and sticking with it. You hit little Johnny so now you go sit in time out for two minutes.
Also, at two years old kids don't really have impulse control. Try teaching him more constructive ways of communicating - use words instead of fists.
One more thing: find out what he's really upset about. My husband travels for work and the times that he's gone my older boy acts out a LOT. I know it's because he's angry that his dad is gone but it took a while to figure that out. Is there something going on that might be stressing him? Something new, really anything at that age...switching from crib to bed, giving up the pacifier, a new routine...figure out what it is and try to work with him a little.
First, though, get him away from those other kids. There is no reason that they should be bullied by him if it can be avoided.

Sarah - posted on 03/29/2011

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my son bullies other the children al the time everyday at nursery his older brothers and cousins even kids walking down the street he kicks them as we are walking pass them all i can wen outside is hold him firmly and tell him no it was wrong and wen we get home he goes o the naughty step for three mins as he is 3 all u can do is keep telling them its wrong and if need be put on the naughty step u just have to keep doing it it takes time but u do get there

LATOYA - posted on 03/28/2011

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Girl, I wish I could help....I have a 2 year old also, but he bullies older kids! So I need help too...

Tasha - posted on 03/28/2011

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i dont let him watch wrestling or much tv at all, most of what he watches is nick jr or spongebob, but im also a stay at home mom so im not worried about him getting into a nursery, but ive tried time out, and seperating him from the others.

Louise - posted on 03/28/2011

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This is not normal behaviour for a two year old. Where has he seen to act like this does he watch wrestling or something. You are going to have terrible trouble getting him accepted at a nursery if he is this violent. When he hits remove him from the room and place him in a secure area for 2 minutes and tell him again it is wrong to hit, bite and punch and that he must not do it. If you think he is going to get rough then say play nicely or you will go to the naughty step (or whatever you use). You really have to get onto this now because this could cause you serious problems when he has to go to either day care or school. Not only that but children will shy away from him and he will be known as a bully, which will lead to being excluded from parties and normal child activities. Get down to his eye level and tell him it is not nice to hurt people so he must not do it. Keep taking him away from the other children when he lashes out and then slowly he will learn to stop or have to be punished.

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