2 year old sleeping ALL night & in her own bed?!? HOW DO I GET HER TO DO THAT!? its killing me!! HELP!!

Cara - posted on 01/14/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Okay so my daughter puts up a fight for me even to get her to bed.. THEN.. she will go to bed for an hour or two in her own bed, then come in my bed for the rest of the night! HELP ME!! I dont know how to get her to sleep in her own bed!

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Sarah - posted on 01/20/2009

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It could be two things, I suppose, from reading what you have written.  First, she could be insecure with the bed.  She may need to be in the crib a while longer and doesn't want to be a 'big girl."



 



Or, you need to lay down the law.  Do not tolerate the tantrum.  Discipline her, put her to bed, discipline her, put her to bed, discipline her, put her to bed.  This sounds totally extreme, I know and you feel like a real jerk, but it all comes back to feeling secure. Only this time, it is being secure about the boundaries and rules you have set.



Oh, and as for the folks, they have already raised kids, so they know what you are going through.  They also know that if you are doing your job, the tantrums will only last a night or two.  I am sure they will be tolerant if you are trying to handle the situation.



Good luck. 

Cara - posted on 01/20/2009

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Thank you everyone for the awesome advice!!! I wish I could put her in her own bed after shes sleeping in my bed.. but no, she wakes up! and SCREAMS her head off... she does have her own toddler bed!! I keep telling her its a big girl bed..blah blah blah..I think/HOPE it will get better after I move out! =]

Jonellyn - posted on 01/14/2009

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you can get a toddler bed for your room if there is space and tell everyone around you her schedule so they can rspect it and realize once shes down they will also be more relaxed

Jonellyn - posted on 01/14/2009

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i like having my daughter to sleep with me but i do get her to sleep thn I put her in her bed after she's fallen asleep with me.. I also give her Camomille tea two hrs before bed time which soothes her. I give a natural tea for babies and toddlers but you can use 100% pure camomille they sell in supermarkets just make sure nothing else is in it!

my daughters schedule is as follows wakes up around 7ish goes to sleep at 13:00ish wkes up no later than 3ish plays around I give her tea at 5ish then dinner and she is in my bed for quiet tv time by 7:30 - 8ish ( i have taped HBO classical baby FANTASTIC!) i put the volume ultra low and she falls asllep I keep her with me for a little bit while I watch tv and the place her in her bed. Good Luck ut took me about a month to get thiss chedule down but it workd... You can also try cutting out her naps completely and putting her down at 6:30 ish ( i did this before daycare)

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If you take her to her bed and sit with her would that help? Then you could slowly reduce the amount of time you stay. It will take longer but would be quieter.

Cara - posted on 01/14/2009

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See I have a problem with this though. I forgot to mention that I still live with my parents.. and I cant let her cry, because I have tried to put her back in her bed, but she SCREAMS and my brothers room is next to mine, and I share a room with her. SO its a little hard right now. I guess im stuck until I can move out huh?! =]

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This is a fight for every Mom. It took me 2 months to get my 2 year old to stay in bed. As far as getting her to bed can you give her options during her bedtime routine, which pj's does she want to wear, whihch story does she want to read (pick 2 for her to choose from). This gives her the illusion of control and she is less likely to fight on other things. As far as her coming to your bed you just have to walk her back to her own bed over and over and over and over again until she gets it. I put a safety gate on my sons door as soon as he transitioned from the crib. If he gets up to play with toys I just take that toy away until after his nap and if he doesn't seem tired I let him take a book to bed as long as he stays in bed. I once told him that if he gets up again I'd take away his Mr Dog and I had to follow through and take his lovey; now the threat of this is enough to keep him in bed...mean I know but it worked.



Good luck

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