2 year old with a terrible temper please help need advice

Ashley - posted on 03/06/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old daughter who is very demanding when she wants something and does not get it she screams and crys and hits me or my other child for example i only allow my girls so much t.v a day and after she watches her show and it is her sisters turn and it is not what she wants she does this and its like that with toys i usally have to give in to calm her down even my 4 year will give her what she wants to calm her this is not fair to my 4 year old i have tried punishing her with time out but it does not work dont get me wrong my 2 year old is a sweetheart but she just always wants her way how do i get this undercontrol

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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2010

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You have to stop giving in. You are teaching her that if she screams and throws a fit then she will get her way. When she starts to throw a fit put her in a certain spot where she can't see the TV or play with the toys BUT you can see her. Let her cry and scream for however long she wants to. Explain to her that her behavior is unacceptable and that she needs to sit here for 2 mins.(or until her fit is done if the fit last longer than 2 mins.) If she gets up you put her right back WITHOUT saying a word. Time does not start until she stays there for the WHOLE 2 mins. If she decides to scream even louder (screaming for attention rather than for being upset) then time does not start or starts over. IN ORDER FOR THIS TO WORK YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW THROUGH AND BE CONSISTANT!!! If you give in even 1 time then it will take 100 times before you are back to where you were before you gave in that 1 time. You have to be the parent. Right now she is in control of everyone and everything. Let her know that throwing fits does not get your way. This is easy to correct now, but it will take some hard work at first and making sure that you follow through EVERY TIME. If you do it every time she will realize that if she throws a fit then she gets a time out and does not get her way. Kids are very smart if what they are doing is working then they are going to continue to do it. If what they are doing is not working they stop doing it.

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