2 years old want to do all stuff by herself?

LIM - posted on 10/05/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My 2 years old daughter want to do all stuff by herself, example making her own milk. She just want to be at there when u are making milk for her, she want to hold the bottle for you and sometimes want to pour the hot water into the bottle..How to handle with this kind of situation? Let her join in or ask her to do somethings else while u are doing it?

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Erin - posted on 10/05/2010

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Its good that she wants to be independant... but just nicely explain to her that you don't want her touching the hot water...Maybe encourage her like maybe get her to pick out her own clothes... give her chooses...

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let her do as much stuff as it is safe for her to do.
Stuff that she can't do, let her make other choices. For example, my son went through a stage where he wanted to pour the milk into his sippy cup - He can NOT handle a gallon of milk, so that was a firm, "Mommy will do this, it is an adult job! - which cup do you want the milk in, the blue cup or the green cup?"
Of course there were times when he fought this, but just remember, he won't pour that milk by himself, and he physically can't make you do it.
It is good to give your daughter lots of helpful chores, toddlers LOVE to help out. So let her pull all of the socks out of the laundry, put all the silverware in the drawer, dust and vacuum. Yes you will probably have to come along behind her and fix it, but that doesn't matter. She is enjoying helping, and practice does make perfect!

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I was just asking about if she was still on formula because you said you "make her milk". Sorry! I misunderstood! I say let her help you! That is totally normal for kids that age to want to help you and to want to do things they see others doing. It can be a messy process but you just have to be patient. There's a saying I grew up with...."Don't cry over spilled milk." It's SOOO true with toddlers! As you (and everyone else who has a toddler) know, they are messy creatures! My son is 3 and on Sunday nights (my husband's only night off from work) we all have a glass of chocolate milk. My son LOVES to help pour the syrup (the milk is to heavy for him to pour) and he REALLY loves stirring and watching the milk turn brown. You just have to be patient with her and allow her to do things for herself, or things to help you because this is how she will learn. Just be patient with her, let her make mistakes (and messes) and you'll see. She'll be fine :)

Londa - posted on 10/08/2010

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My 2 year old is the same way but with EVERYTHING! And she gets really upset when I don't let her do things by herself! It's frustrating. I usually just let her do it-unless it may be dangerous to her of course. She likes to help with her milk too. I just let her hold the cap while I poor-she seems content with that.. I just try to encourage her independence but it IS difficult especially if you're in a hurry and it would be so much easier to do it yourself. I think you are doing the right thing by letting her join in and help. I think it gives them a sense of having some control over their own little worlds :)

LIM - posted on 10/07/2010

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I would want to try to let my girl to drink milk and brush her teeth before sleep. Thanks for all the suggestion and opinion. But all this must be hard for me because, she is not staying with me all weekdays as im working out of town and only go back to see her on weekend. but next year she will stay with me and go to playschool, hopefully by next year i can start teaching her all these...its not to late is it? Now im expecting a 2nd baby, anytime from now i will be a mother of two baby girl.

Sarah - posted on 10/07/2010

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That is great. Sounds like she is doing a great job. Somethings are going to be messy. I am not a big person for mess, so at times there were things that I would do and have her do something that kept the mess down. I also know that at times mess is a thing that is going to be. Sometimes in order to learn how to do something neatly you first start out making a mess. It sounds like you are doing a good job with allowing her to learn. One thing you may want to think about with doing a bottle of milk to sleep is switching to a bottle of water or a sippy cup of milk and then brush teeth after. With the milk sitting on her teeth as she sleeps it can cause decay and over time rot her teeth. She is using the bottle as a comfort to put herself to sleep. When you do take the bottle away there will probably be a few hard nights, but she will adjust. I rocked my oldest to sleep, so that was the only way he learned how to get to sleep. One night when he was about 18 months I ended up spending the whole night in the rocking chair because every time I would go to lay him down he would wake up since he was getting bigger it was harder to lay him down without him knowing. I realized then that something had to change. We went through about a week of him crying when he went to bed. He did not know how to get to sleep without being rocked, so he cried. Once he figured out how to put himself to sleep without that rocking he was fine. He has slept good ever since.

LIM - posted on 10/06/2010

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Sarah, Thanks for all the advice. Yes, my 2 year old still drinking in bottle and yet, she also know how to use the cup already, is just when she want to sleep, then she need the bottle to drink her milk. And yes, here, we still give powder milk...that we used to give until 5 to 6 years old. Do u think that they should drink fresh milk? Now we are encouraging her to do all things by herself, but sometimes they really mess all up. and she is now know to pee without pampers all day long like before, unless when she is sleeping. Next year, my baby will go to playschool which i hope she can learn more there..

Sarah - posted on 10/06/2010

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I am a little unsure why your 2 yr old is drinking dry milk or formula. Do you live in a place where dry milk is normal for toddlers and older kids? Or is there a reason why you are not doing whole or 2% milk? Also is there a reason why your 2 yr old still takes a bottle? Normally doctors are recommending for toddlers to drink from a cup at 1 yr old. If there is no developmental delay I would encourage you to have her drink from a sippy cup. She is showing her independence and her willingness to learn how to do things by herself. Encourage her to do things on her own. This is how she learns and develops the skills she will need as she gets older. Some good things for her to learn are how to dress herself, how to put on her shoes, coat, how to use a spoon and fork. Manners are also starting to come into play. Saying please and thank-you and the start of teaching table manners. 2 yrs. is a BIG learning year. At the start of 2 they are saying a few words you can recognize, being able to follow some directions. At the end of 2 they are able to talk in small sentences, follow directions, and are about ready to start preschool.

LIM - posted on 10/06/2010

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Joy...sorry, in order not to misunderstood u, what do u mean by drinking formula?

LIM - posted on 10/05/2010

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That is helpful hannah, i will try to let her get involve and hopefully she can enjoy doing stuff with me..

September - posted on 10/05/2010

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Our 2 year old is the same way. I let him help unless it's not safe to help. Even if it is pouring milk into his cup. He can’t handle the whole jug but he can still help me pour. It really boils down to what you're comfortable with.

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