2yr old son is hitting and throwing his toys at friends help

Emma - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my son is 2yrs old(just),he loves having friends over to play and is always pleased to see them and go to theres also.

He plays well and then starts to have this habbit of throwing toys at them or hitting. it seems to be when he is not center of attention or to get attention. thing is i already do the naughty step which doesnt work he says sorry then 5 min later is re doing it! so he goes back on step for longer etc im running out of patience and dont want to have to keep away from his friends etc. ideas please

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Andrea - posted on 09/15/2009

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I have an almost 2 year old and an almost 3 year old, and they were both doing the same thing, I borrowed a book from someone called"Hands are not for Hitting" and I read it to them quite a few times, and now when they start getting "into it" I remind them that "hands are not for hitting" , "hands are for hugging" , or whatever behavior they are doing, and it has actually worked really well, especially for the oldest, and the little one of course likes to copy her big brother, so it is working with her too. Now if I only knew this when my 9 year old was little,lol.

Cindy - posted on 09/15/2009

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I am a Mom, but my kids are grown. I am now very involved with my 2 year old grandson. So hopefully my advice from past experience and present experience will be helpful. As I have on occasion reminded my own daughter, I have been 26, but she has never been 51, so sometimes our experiences can hold some water. :o)



My grandson who is 2 yrs old is also going through a throwing and hitting road bump. When he throws things (as my daughter did this too) I immediately pick it up and put it away and explain to him why. It is gone! When he gets down to very little to play with, he will get the message; but you have to be consistent. My daughter went as far as breaking toys when she got upset, I tried everything, but the thing that finally broke her of this behavior was: when she broke a toy, I found one of her favorite toys, and I broke it. It took 4 times of me breaking something special to her for her to stop that behavior.



As for the hitting, we are going through that as well. When my precious little grandson that I know is perfect hits someone, :o) I immediately pick him up and sit him down and hold out both my hands and ask him to hold my hands and to look at me. I explain to him that hitting is wrong, not nice and hurts others, hands are to love with, not hit with. It seems simple, but the "action" of sitting him down, being at his level and holding hands is a bold statement that gets their attention. This is also something that has to be consistent. All activity stops and attention is directly on his actions. So far it is working for me, he has only tired to half way hit me ONE time. I caught his little hand in the action and our sit down began. He has never hit at me since then. He slapped my son (28) last week and I was standing there and immediately all activities stopped and we went through the sit down, hand holding session. He hasn't done it since. Gosh I love this little man!!! But they do take time and repetition to correct inappropriate behavior. Hope that helps, all kids are different.

Emma - posted on 09/15/2009

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my son is totally the same he laughs too its like the more reaction he gets the more he does it! i defenty think its a attention thing but its getting worse he turned 2 2 weeks ago and today was worst day but punishment doesnt seem to bother him!

Alicia - posted on 09/15/2009

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I've noticed my almost 2 year old daughter has started doing this occassionally and I don't understand why. She sometimes even laughs while the other child is upset. I punish her, but its a random act. A stage maybe?

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