3yo son just won't potty on his own...

Gilda - posted on 09/14/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Okay Ladies, my son, just won't go to potty. He knows how to, he can pull his pants & pull up & down & even wipe his self. But unless you ask him, he just won't go & even sometimes then he needs coaxing. We have tired everything rewards, videos, big boy undies like daddy, you name we have tried it. He just won't do it, now he is in Pre-K & the only child in his class not potty trained, & that drives me crazy. He can do everything else that a “normal” 3yo old can do and beyond except potty. HELLPP!!!


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Danielle - posted on 09/18/2010




I'm going through the same thing with my 3 year old son too. 3 is a very young age for boys. They are usually not mature enough for full potty training until they are closer to 4 years. In my experience, bribing and treats just don't work. The baby won't do it until HE is ready to do it. You can't force him either. It's something that only he can control. My son won't even go on the potty. Nothing yet. I'm just putting him diapers and letting him initiate it when he's ready to. My son is extremely advanced in his language skills and development, but the potty just isn't happening now. I know how frustrated you must feel about it. I say just let him lead and when he's ready i'm sure one day you'll blink and he'll be doing his thing on the potty. :0)

Deirdre O - posted on 09/17/2010




hi girl my 3ry old was the same he wouldnt sit on the potty he is now 10 what i use to do was if he didnt go on the potty and he wet himself i use to let the wet pants on him i no its cruel but after a while he couldnt stick the wet pants on him and started crying so i said if you do it on the potty ill take off your wet pants and eventually he got the hint and it worked after a week i no you try bribes etc and nothing worked i was the same it takes time but it works

Andrea - posted on 09/17/2010




My little boy did the same thing at the same age, it dorve me crazy! It really is just persistance after a while he just started remembering every now and again and I made such a fuss when he did remember on his own that it became force of habit.... it really did take a while! Boys are like that I think they do it when there ready.

Colleen - posted on 09/15/2010




I know this may sound silly, but I have several friends that have boys and said it was difficult to potty train them. They each said they used cherios. They just put a couple in the toilet and told him to aim for them like a game. After a while, the boys each just started going when needed.

Darline - posted on 09/14/2010




one-step-ahead has a potty watch that goes off every so often (you set the time) this my work as a reward for both you and your son

Kelly - posted on 09/14/2010




Just keep with it. There are wide variations as to what people deem as "potty trained" and I'm sure that the other kids in his class would still be having occasional accidents in the very least!

Your son sounds very much like mine in terms of potty training. The only time he'll tell us when he needs to go is when we're out and about and I'm pretty sure that's only because of the novelty of the "new" toilets. The one thing that has worked well for us, is having a bit of a routine around some of the toilet trips. Such as when he wakes up in the morning he knows that we take his nappy off and he goes straight away and he also knows to go before his bath (if he hasn't gone before he has his bath the second his foot hits the water he says "uh oh wee wee" and runs off to the toilet saying "quick quick quick!").

Good luck!

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