A Hyperactive 35mth old Boy

Keli - posted on 05/29/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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HELP! I'm at my whits end. My 35mth old son is driving me crazy, it has gotten to the point that I dread mornings and long for bed time. All he does all day is scream, run around like a mad thing and throw tantrums when he doesn't get his own way.
I've taken all the preservatives and additives out of his diet. He goes to childcare 3 days a week as I work 5 days a week. We try to keep him as active as possible but nothing seems to work. He will get out of bed at about 5am and then its a fight to get him into bed by 9pm (NO NAP!).
I desperately need some advice and suggestions. I want to enjoy my sons company again, instead of dreading it?????

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Erin - posted on 05/30/2010

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I would first make sure you are following a routine, especialy at bedtime, kids need this, it comforts them knowing what is expected to come next. Second, don't give into the screaming tantrums no matter what. If he doesn't get his way let him throw a fit just don't give him what he wants and don't give him a reaction. If the tantrum goes on for longer than 2 min calmly put him in a time out. I would just say "Okay you need time to chill out" try to sit him down in a chair for a couple minutes. If he won't sit in a chair Put him in a quite room for a few minutes until he calms down. Try to stay calm through this process. Sometimes kids will start throwing tantrums and forget what they are angry about they're just so caught up with being angry,so it's important for us to be calm.

Louise - posted on 05/30/2010

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You need to teach him to relax. Try and build some quite times into your daily routine. At least for half an hour a day do an activity that means him sitting at the table like, painting or drawing or cut and stick, model making or jigsaws. Don't let him get down from the table straight away try and encourage him to paint or draw. Lots of encouragement with smiles and tone of voice. At least for half an hour a day have story time quiet time in a soft comfortable place preferably before bed with dimmed lights. Try planning his day so he has go mad time and quiet time. At first he will not want to sit at the table or settle for a story but stay firm and encourage him. This is a skill he will need for school. As for the screaming if you whisper to him does he stop to hear what you say. If he does then try and talk to him in a calm manner do not shout to get his attention. Tell him on eye level that you do not like the screaming and that he is a big boy now. Tell him it is alright to scream outside the house but mummy does not like it all the time in the house. Time and a place. Reigning your son in now will help you in the future for him to be an able member of a class and be able to concerntrate and be quite when the teacher needs him to be.

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