A new level of Tantrums...

Dione - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Our little girl has started a new and very annoying stage. She doesn't get her way or isn't hearing the answer she expected and it's a full out pouting lip, mouth wide open, scream-cry, foot stomp, sometime even a swat or two to Mummy and Daddy. It's really just like something watching something off of TV. My husband and I are shocked at her her performance - oscar nominating for sure! We put her in a Timeout whenever her 'act' starts, take away toys for a week and stay home if we had plans, nothing seems to be improving this phase. It's now getting up to 30-40 minutes before the battle is over. Do you have any suggestions for putting a stop to our 'Stomping Diva"?

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Heidi - posted on 11/22/2009

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what we do with our son is when he has his issues like that we just ignore him. He realizes that we don't care and we go on doing what we were. The other thing we have done is we will pick him up when he is screaming and yelling and put him on the floor in his room and shut the door when he stops we open the door and ask if he is ok now and we havent had any problems

Deb - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting Dione:

A new level of Tantrums...

Our little girl has started a new and very annoying stage. She doesn't get her way or isn't hearing the answer she expected and it's a full out pouting lip, mouth wide open, scream-cry, foot stomp, sometime even a swat or two to Mummy and Daddy. It's really just like something watching something off of TV. My husband and I are shocked at her her performance - oscar nominating for sure! We put her in a Timeout whenever her 'act' starts, take away toys for a week and stay home if we had plans, nothing seems to be improving this phase. It's now getting up to 30-40 minutes before the battle is over. Do you have any suggestions for putting a stop to our 'Stomping Diva"?


I totally understand here!! my 2 1/2 year old has become a complete terror and it seems the tantrums can be counted minute by minute...so frustrating.  My patience and ideas for dealing with them are wearing thin.  what ends up happening is he tries to do something out of the ordinary which initially i think is ok, then a problem arises and i tell him not to do that-then he freaks out.  ugh.  example not eating in his booster and thinks he can get up from the table and walk around with food.  didn't see that one coming LOL!  a nice lady with her daughter about the same age was in the grocery store as myself and my son.  she saw a typical tantrum and stopped me to say "just buy yourself a coffee and let it go"  I never laughed so hard because she's SO right!!

Dione - posted on 11/22/2009

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Thanks for all the comments. My instincts were pointing me in the right direction - as any mother's instincts usually are. It's just tough to keep consistent sometimes. I just have to listen to them more and stand my ground. Now to get hubby on board... but asking him to read all these comments will certainly help. Thanks Ladies!

Kerry - posted on 11/21/2009

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My son went through this when he was 2. I think the worst thing you could do is threaten with something that you don't intend on following through with. The child isn't silly and will know what is reasonable. The best thing to do is ignore the behaviour completely ( even no eye contact) When they start to calm down that is when you smother them with cuddles and positive talking and forget about what just happened and continue with the day. If your out and about just remove yourself and the child as quickly as possible and give them time in the car (supervised, but still with no interaction whatsoever) until they get over it. They all go through this to some degree and it is just about them figuring out what they can get away with and how much they can influence other people. And remember, it's a scary world for a toddler, sometimes I think it just gets all too much to take in.

Pooja - posted on 11/21/2009

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ignore.I have seen many moms do it. I have tried to do it works most of the time.

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Same here, yells continuously and we try to just ignore, unfortunately I also have an 11 month old so he looks at his brother and now he screams when he doesn't get his way...being a parent isn't easy!

Alyssa - posted on 11/21/2009

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Your not alone my 2 1/2 old son is doing the same thing. Nothing seems to work...ugh

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have you tried mimicking her so that she sees how bad she looks doing this? i have a two year old drama queen. she could have won all the oscars for her performances. lol we had tried everything and nothing worked until one day i got so fed up i started to mimick her even threw myself to the floor and kicked my feet and screamed. she looked at me absolutely astonished. like why would my mom act that way lol she stopped immediately and told me it's okay mommy i'm fine. so now whenever she starts so do i and it stops real quick. i even did it in giant the other day when she started to put on a show and she said mommy we dont act like that in public lol

Rebecca - posted on 11/20/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

what i try to do is just ignore them, if it continues i would suggest in trying a new approach. i would sit your daughter down and tell her that these tantrums are going to have to stop or you're going to take a serious action.. if she challenges you, which most kids will, make a bluff about a vacation that you were going to take but are no longer going to go because she can not act right.



I just had to respond to that one! If I do that to my daughter, she'll stop what she's doing, look at me for a moment, and then give me a hug and a kiss. I don't know how well it would work to stop a tantrum, but it does show her that actions affect how other people feel. I wish I knew how to stop the screaming - she's started that phase too. I'm surprised people don't hear her down the street.

April - posted on 11/20/2009

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My daughter also just started this but they dont last quite as long. Whatever our upcoming event is going to be I ask her for example"Do u still want grandma to come over for supper?" and in the midst of her tantrum she say "yes" I say"then you better stop crying and throwing a fit bc grandmas dont like that" If she continues I say"well,I guess i'll call her and tell her not to come." usually that type of thing works with her but not every child would stop their fit i'm sure. Good luck

Tina - posted on 11/20/2009

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My daughter is doing the same, I find something she likes doing with me like wanting to play with her dolls with her only if she stops crying. It seems to work and the tears were not real. Try drawing attention to something else than what was wrong. Let me know how you go.

Akeela - posted on 11/20/2009

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i think ur on the right track..just keep at it...and ignore the behaviour and not the child..ignore her but keep an eye open coz she myt try to do something drastic to get ur attention..

wht i do with my son who is 3 is tht i put on my sad face and say tht i am very sad and dissapointed..and tht i love him so much but he is being naughty and tht usually does the trick...he feels bad and says tht he'll be a good boy and go abt trying to make me feel better!! :-)

Candice - posted on 11/19/2009

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have you tried avoiding the tantrum before it starts by giving a warning and clearly stating the consequences if she continues? my daughter's only 18 mos and sometimes just saying "if you do that again you will sit alone on the floor" is enough to stop it from happening, which stops me from having to cause the tantrum in the first place. might help :)

Brandy - posted on 11/19/2009

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You can end the battle by not fighting. Put her in a room or even a playpen where she has nothing and can't get into anything and ignore her until she stops. The more attention she gets for it, the more she will do it, even if the attention she is getting for it is negative.

Alexandra - posted on 11/19/2009

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my son does the same. i usually ignore him and let him blow his frustration. after that he comes to me and cries his heart out about this unfair world...lol
when it gets to bad i do the time out also.
i am thinking that it will be just a phase. because my middle son had the same phase, and he is just really nice and quiet now that he is 4.
and one good tip, out of experience. never cancel plans you had because of her. that way she will think that if she throws a tantrum when she does not like going somewhere you will stay home, and in the end you will be frustrated and put it out on her. go and follow through with your plans, even if she acts up. show her whos the boss. and be consistent. that is the key!!!

Annie - posted on 11/19/2009

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I am sorry to hear you little one is acting this way. My only suggestion is to continue what your doing she will eventually stop. She is waiting for you guys to break down and give in! Just keep reminding her that good behavior is better for everyone and that its not okay to act the way she is! She will get it eventually! Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 11/19/2009

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what i try to do is just ignore them, if it continues i would suggest in trying a new approach. i would sit your daughter down and tell her that these tantrums are going to have to stop or you're going to take a serious action.. if she challenges you, which most kids will, make a bluff about a vacation that you were going to take but are no longer going to go because she can not act right.

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