Almost 3 year old and waiting turns

Heather - posted on 02/18/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone,

My daughter is almost 3 and she is in a gymnastics class of 18 months to 3 year olds. She gets impatient that the kids are not as fast as her and sometimes comes right up on them. She will jump on the mat at the same time or want to stand right next to them to wait. I get frustrated and tell her if she cannot wait nicely I am going to remove her from gymnastics class. Am I overreacting? Is this fairly typical for a little girl who will turn 3 next month? Please let me know what you think. Thank you!

Have a wonderful day! :) Heather

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Louise - posted on 02/19/2011

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Your daughter is very young try and explain to her that she should wait to take her turn. You could reinforce the wait your turn with playing games at home like Farmyard Bingo or Pairs. She will then understand the concept of waiting for her turn. Also have a word with the organisers to talk to her because children respond better to instruction from non family members and she is more likely to do as she is told. Let the organisers sort her out. Don't remove her from the class she obviously loves it as she is keen to have a go.

Erin - posted on 02/18/2011

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I think it's normal. When you say remove her from class do you mean for that lesson or forever? I wouldn't stop taking her there but I think being removed for the lesson would be completely appropriate. What I would do is on the way to class in the car explain to her she has 3 chances to behave properly. When she does it once calmly say "that's 1" say nothing else. If she does it again calmly say "that's 2" nothing else. If she does it again say "that's 3, all done" say nothing else and leave. She'll probably have a tantrum and you may have to do this a few lessons before she gets the idea that your not going to allow her to act that way but eventually she will behave and relise you mean what you say.
I wouldn't just stop going altogether because she seams to enjoy it. And the benefit of her being there is for this very reason, to learn skills like taking turns. Some kids just go with the flow and do it naturally because the other kids are doing it. Other children need a little more redirection and need to learn patience, my son is one of these children.
Just be sure to keep your tone calm but firm with her when you give her the 3 chances and don't carry on like "what did I say you have to wait" because all she is going to here is "bla bla bla." The less you say the more she will respond to what you want her to do. And most important make sure you follow through. Which is easier said then done. Good luck:)

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Heather - posted on 02/19/2011

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Hi Louise,

Thank you. I will keep trying. I think it is because my son is on the Autism spectrum that my expectations of Kaleigh are high. I can't really explain why. Thank you again!

Have a great day!

:)

Heather

Heather - posted on 02/19/2011

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Hi Erin,

Thank you.

Yes, I did mean remove her from class until maybe next year.

I think your suggestion is worth a try. Thanks and I will let you know how it goes. She does wait better when I tell her we will leave but I do that ... I say "you have to wait ... you have to wait ..." over and over.

Thanks again for the suggestion and I will post how the next lesson goes! :)

Have a great day!

:)

Heather

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