am i being selfish

Stephanie - posted on 08/06/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




i have a friend who has a 4 year old boy she enrolled him in pre-school when he was 3 and he is going again this year she said i should do the same with my 3 and a half year old child but im not ready to let go i never went to pre-school and i did just as well if not better then the other kids my age am i being selfish by not putting my child in pre-school or is my mother right and its just a place for parents to dump there kids for a couple of hours


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Studies have shown that children who attend preschool do better throughout the rest of their academic career.

It is good for children to deal with separation, and have fun on their own. I, personally, don't believe in a strict, academic preschool. Rather a play based approached - as young children should be PLAYING! what I really want my son to learn at preschool is separation from me, socialization with other children, basic things that I can't teach at home because he is just an only child.

So yes, I am an advocate for preschool. That being said, everyone has to make the right decision for their children and their family. However, please consider, are you not sending your son to preschool because you aren't ready? or because your son isn't ready? If it is the former, then yes you are being selfish. If it is the latter, then no, you are being protective.

Amy - posted on 08/06/2010




We are putting our 2 1/2yr old in pre-school a couple times a week for a few hours. Only for language development and social skills. That was she is use to being away from mommy, and is getting ready for school and the most important having FUN!. Don't feel selfish, if your not ready, then your not ready. I will miss my little girl the whole time she's there but I now it will be good for her. I don't feel like we'll be dumping her there for a few hours, hopefully she'll be learning, playing, making friends and having fun.

Jenni - posted on 08/06/2010




Well it's completely up to you. Why rush a child into school when he's going to spending at least the next 13 years there. Nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy more time with him. They say it's good for early socialization but you can take him to play groups or other activities with other kids. There are other options out there where you can be involved as well.

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