Another baby???

Maude - posted on 02/13/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 15 months old and i don't want my kids far apart, i am trying to convice my husban to have another but he want to wait til he's 5 beofre we have another baby, is better to have them cloes or far apart?


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Christina - posted on 02/14/2009




Having a new baby and a two year old at the same time was kind of a nightmare, but since your 1st is already 15 months, if you wait a little bit longer you wouldn't have to worry much about that. I read somewhere that from the child's perspective it's "best" to either have your 2nd immediately following (so they are born before your 1sts first birthday) or after age 4. From age 1 to 4 they are all about "me" and having a new sibling introduced during that time is tougher on them than if you do it before they enter that phase or after they are out of it. BUT, since we can't all space our kids 4 years apart. . . (suppose you want more than two, geez!). . . I say go with the flow and see what happens. The kids and parents will all survive. :)

Maude - posted on 02/13/2009




Thank you for the advice, i'll let my husban read the coments hopefuly he'll agree with me then :)

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Honesty, my kids are 2 years apart and I'm finding it a little difficult. Both are in diapers, both need to be fed constantly, not that I mind, but I would have probably waited another year (because I was 35 I didn't want to wait too long) or so just to make sure that my first son was in daycare full time which would give me more time with my baby. I'm so busy changing diapers, doing laundry, preparing formula that I don't really have the chance to bond with my new bundle of joy and when I do I'm so exhausted...

Aubrey - posted on 02/13/2009




my first 2 are 2 years a part, I really liked that age difference, the older one can entertain itself for a little while & help with getting diapers & putting things in the garbage. My 2nd & 3rd are 18 months apart (surprise!) It's too close for me, but we're getting through it. I would rather have them closer together than farther apart, so they can have things in common & can play together. I think if they're too far apart they won't have a close relationship & for me I want my kids to grow up together & be friends.

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