Any suggestions on how to get my 2 year old to stop hitting other kids. I do the time outs and firmly remove him from the situation, but it has been going on for several months and is driving me crazy. It is so hard to take him anywhere with other kids, because I am afraid he'll hit someone. He is such a happy and sweet little guy 90% of the time, but so possesive of his things that he will turn in a second on another child trying to play.


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I agree 100% with Juliana!  The key is the word 'discipline' !!  It has to be something meaningful - or it won't make a whit of difference.  It sounds like the time outs aren't working.  How old is he exactly?   If he is close to 3, this is what has worked for my sons bad behaviour.  Immediately stop the hitting and make him look you in the face - tell him that is absolutely unacceptable and make him apologize to the victim.  After you remove him from the situation and get him home, confine him to his room for at least an hour (a room with no toys or other distractions.  Be clear about why you are having him do this and that if he comes out of his room you will *insert punishment here* (my punishment for coming out is a swat, and an extension of the confinement.  Then when the hour (or more) is up, reiterate why he was sent to his room and that if he continues to hit, this is what you are going to do.

This has worked for me (not for the hitting, but for other things)

Hope it helps!!


Juliana - posted on 01/13/2009




I'm dealing with the same thing, and everything I read says that it's normal and if we are just consistant with disciplining when it happens, it will eventually stop. I also have a hard time when other kids are around, but I try talking to the parents and let them know what's going on. I find that MOST parents are very cool about it, espeically because they see that I care. Good luck!!!

Kelly - posted on 01/13/2009




Try giving extra attention to the child that was hit, saying how sorry you are and that it must have hurt or not felt nice etc, giving big hugs (if appropriate & you know the child) make it big and showy while ignoring your child, who is most likely looking for attention and will see hitting will not get him what he wants.  

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