Any Toddlers being brought up "by the book"??????

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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****DISCLAIMER: I am not writing this post to offend anyone at all !!!! You all have your own kids and do what you want with them. I am writing the following to see if there is anyone else doing what we do, so I know who I can talk to about things. Again, if you are easily offended or whole heartedly believe in "you gotta do what works for you/whats easy" STOP READING HERE.****

So my daughter has never and will never sleep in our bed. She's been in her own crib in her own room since the nite we came home from the hospital...literally. On the few rough nites we've had one of us gets up and walks her around her room if she cant sleep. There are no exceptions to this rule. She got a pacifier as a newborn, but it was taken away at 7 mos (as recommended between 6 and 9 mos). Her bottles were gone on her first b-day (as recommended). She has a bedtime, a schedule, drinks whole milk and relatively healthy food most of the time. Of course she gets snacks and treats on more than just "special occassion" but sugar doesn't make up the bulk of her diet. Etc etc etc...if you are still reading this you see where I am going with this.

I am looking to see if there is anyone else out there who shares these mindsets and child raising views to chat with...and would be great to start our own community with (though i dont know what that involves). It is very difficult for me to jump into alot of the conversations going on in the toddler group b/c I can not relate to things like a 3 yr old still drinking a bottle or a 2 yr old who still has a pacifier and sleeps with mom and dad.

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Brianna - posted on 11/20/2010

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i dont think anyone is "by the book" on everything.. i mean my daughter just turned a year and has a pasifier and a bottle (im trying to get her off the bottle though) but i have strict sleep scheduals for her and shes sleeps in her own room also i follow all the food guide lines such as waiting to feed her certain foods till certain ages because of the possiblility of allergys or i waited till 5-6 months to start solids ect

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I started that way... but it went down the drain when I started getting sever panic attacks after about a week being home. She slept with us until 3 months and then went to her own bed.



I've been told that I'm horrible for letting her cry at night after I put her to sleep. But the fact of the matter is... she's tired... no she doesn't want to go to bed, that's why she's crying. She can protest all she likes but its bedtime.



I guess this all makes me half and half... than again I only detoured on that one thing.

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I agree with you too!! i am in the same situation with my daughter and other people are always telling me that im too strict or that i should just let her do whatever she wants and SHE will decide what is right and wrong (shes 17 months by the way!!) i think that is crazy! The other people that i know who dont care and dont follow anything "by the book" their kids are behind in alot of things, and just dont listen!! I deffinately support starting a new community for us "mean mommies" lol

Jackie - posted on 01/27/2010

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Sounds like you should come join us. And of course even within this group there will be some differences...no two parents are exactly the same. But its the extremes that are way beyond the recommendations that none of us do. Come join us! And congrats on all the bf'ing...my daughter was on 100% breastmilk until 1 yr but I had to work so unfortunately alot of it came from bottles. But I sucked it up and pumped the entire time...wanted to throw a party when milk came on the scene =)

Amy - posted on 01/27/2010

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i don't know what all by the book entails, but that pretty much says it all for us.although, my son was in a basinet in our room for the first month due to nursing, he's been in his own crib and room since. my son also hasn't had bottles really. he's a sippy cup and breastfed kinda guy. :) but this group sounds like an interesting idea!

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2010

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A community has been started for any mom who follows this train of thought....come join us at "by the book" babies!!! Hope to see you there.

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2010

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THere are several other people in the toddler moms community who feel the same. I need a name...name and description whats PC enough but gets the point across that lack of parenting shouldn't bother joining. any thoughts?

Allie - posted on 01/26/2010

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I agree with you completely. My husband and I are by the book people. I have a 20 month old and like you said, he has a pretty strict schedule (we do make exceptions of course) and he doesn't eat a ton of junk food (mostly fruit and veggies... we don't really feed him red meat to be honest). I find it difficult as well reading things like 4 year olds using bottles and diapers. I will fully support you starting a new community.

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