Anyone else with their children close together in age?

Anita - posted on 12/05/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son and daughter are 10 months apart. My son is now 15 months old and my daughter is 5 months old. I fell pregnant with my daughter only 4 weeks after giving birth to my son. Has anyone else experienced their children this close together? and how did (do) you manage, eg routines etc...

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Elizabeth - posted on 01/04/2010

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Well I have 2 sons and 1 daughter both my boys are 8 months apart in ages they was both prem babies they are now 3 and 4. Having them so close in age dose make it hard but just getting around it lol. When my boys are together there like twins crazy alway want what the other 1 has they are very much the same but when they are apart they are good boys. I mean I dont regreat having them so close but its almost like having twins they are a handful

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Paulette - posted on 12/15/2009

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Hi, I have two adopted girls who are 11 1/2 months apart. They are 3 and 4 now, and it was really hard when I had to take tham for foster visits especially when they weren't walking and I had to carry both of them. Looking back on those days, I definately feel that getting them into a strict routine,and keeping it myself kept my sanity. They strive to please us and it does get much easier the older they get, and the more understanding they have of the world around them.

Emma - posted on 12/15/2009

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Hi, Im new on here. I have 14 months between my two boys they're 6 and 5 now. It was hard work but I actually found it easier to get into a routine with the two after having my second child but then I have 13 months between my girls and they're 18 months and 5 months and finding it difficult this time to get a proper routine.

Patricia - posted on 12/14/2009

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i have four kids and on there birthdays three in feb and one this month they will be 4,3.2,and one when they were younger i thought it was hard at times but they the best time playing togather and it just seems to be more fun each day

Brandi - posted on 12/13/2009

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Anita, It will get better and soon..My two are 12 months 3 weeks apart, My son was born just three weeks after my daughters 1st birthday..
Try getting you oldest to bed before your youngest,. Keep everything timed as good as you can get into a routine...My kids LIVE by routine still.
they are now 2 1/2 And 1 1/2. They get up at the same time, diapers changed, eat, cleaned up, dressed, play time, diaper change, nap time, ECT.. all at the same time or at least one right after the other. mine are now sharing a room. and wont sleep with out eatch other.. they are very close, good luck to you, hang in there and remember your not alone!.

Zina - posted on 12/08/2009

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Hi, I'm new to this forum. I have 2 babies born 14 months apart-my son will turn 3 years in March & my daughter will be 2 in April. It definitely is a whole different dynamic with 2 little ones..sibling rivalry has started already! sometimes Adian will bother his sister but she is no pushover! she will hit him back too now. they both compete for my attention to-like if ariana sits on my lap adian will want me to pick him up too.
But at the end of the day the day they both love eachother & its so cute when they hug & play with eachother

Lorie - posted on 12/08/2009

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yes my youngest son and my son to be next son will be 17 months apart.

I would make a chart on thing you have to do and goals you want done by the end of the day. I hope this helps.

Iam starting to get really stressed about the baby coming.

Christy - posted on 12/07/2009

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I met up with a lot of old friends from school on Facebook. It's amazing how many people are on there. I would never go out if I hadn't found them. I am also joining a local mom's group (stay at home moms) to meet new people and get my kids socialized. It's 25 bucks a year, can't beat that I guess!!! BTW, DON'T feel bad about leaving your kids, you are with them ALL the time, it is actually good for them to be away from you, even if it's for a little while.

Anita - posted on 12/07/2009

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Sara-Lou....I can't believe you moved house the day you came out of hospital, you poor thing. Moving house is one of the most stressful things I can imagine.. we have just recently moved house ourselves and it's bad enough with a 5 month old let alone a newborn! Sorry to hear about your partner leaving too, this must have been so hard on you.Glad to hear that things have settled down for you.
Maria......all i can say is WOW, you must be a supermum! It's good to know that things get better as they get older...
Christy...... My son was also born August 2008 (7th) and my birthday is the 15th, he was actually due on my birthday would you believe! and my youngest was born June 15th. Gawd, I thought it gets better when they get older! are they a handful because they are in the toddler stage together? Monthly nights out sounds GREAT! I just wish I had some friends nearby to go out with! I haven't been out without my children yet. I don't think I could leave them yet, I know I am a sook lol! I have a feeling it will get easier when they reach about 3 and 4?
thanks ladies

Christy - posted on 12/07/2009

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My kids are 14 months apart, one born June 2007 and the other Aug 2008. It's hard now but I imagine it will get easier.....they are 29 months and 15 months now. HANDFUL!!!!!! I plan monthly nights out with girlfriends to keep my sanity.....and every few months I go out of town (one weekend) just to get a break. Other than that I encourage my son (older) to watch out for his baby sister and he tries to take care of her. Everyone tells me it will get easier when they get older and I hang onto that as well.

Maria - posted on 12/07/2009

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I have 4 kids ages 6,4,3, and 2. We try to stick to a routine as best we can with our busy lives, When they were all in diapers it was crazy but now everyone is potty trained and it's a little better. We still have our share of chaos. but at least now they can pick up their toys (after telling them 100 times) I am tired all the time and can't get time to myself just yet, but i'm getting there.

Sara-lou - posted on 12/06/2009

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i have 2 boy's 13months apart. At first i thought i'd never do it to add to my dispair we moved house the day i came out of hospital with my second... The baby wouldn't sleep and my eldest hated the baby. Plus there dad decided it was to much and he couldn't deal with it and left. After a few weeks i sat down n set up a strick routine eveything is done at a set time and since then i'm not saying it's easy but it's "easier".It does get better as time goes on my boy's are 2 and 1 now and altho we have our mayhem day's there settled and happy which i put down to our routine x

Anita - posted on 12/06/2009

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Thanks Ladies, it is soooo good to hear from you all. Makes me feel normal again lol! I am just sort of starting a decent routine now that my daughter is nearly 6 months old but my son (the 15 month old) is the one who is hard work! basically everything revolves around him. As soon as he wakes up the whole household awakes because he cries as soon as he wakes up, so my poor little daughter doesn't get to sleep in, and it's impossible to shut him up. I am trying to give them their bottle at the same time (my son doesn't really need a bottle but it's the only thing that puts him to sleep), but like I said everything depends on him (which I know shouldn't). for example if he doesn't want to go to sleep he will wake his sister up (how do I quieten him when I am trying to put her to sleep? it's nearly impossible). he is a real nightmare, still trashes the house, it's like 2 steps forward, 10 steps back. he CANNOT sit still for 5 seconds. this is what is exhausting. hey I can handle no sleep, I can handle being on my feet ALL day but I can't handle constant whinging and having teh house trashed every day. wow, feel good getting that off my chest lol.
Thanks again ladies

Morgan - posted on 12/05/2009

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I have two girls that are 13 months apart. I agree that it is hard at first but once you figure out a routine it is pretty smooth sailing. Sometimes it is still a little hard but not as hard as is was in the beginning.

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I also have 2 boys that are 13 months apart. It was hard in the beginning for sure but now they are best buddies and play together all the time, which gives me a break during the day. We maintain a loose routine with them...rigid routine stresses ME out and that seems to work for us and the kids (ie. bedtime ranges from 8:30 till 9:30 depending on nap schedule, meal times fluctuate). Hang in there Anita!!! You'll find what works best for you and your family :)

Amy - posted on 12/05/2009

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My children are 13 months apart. Both boys. They just turned 2 and 3. I also felt like you. It is so hard to even go shopping. Sometimes you just want to get out of the store so you can cry. I have great help with my husband and feel so bad for people who only have one person doing the work. I never could do it without him. The schedule thing also helps so much. We have to have our routine or the stress is unbearable. I can see it is getting easier as they get older, but it is still very hard. The younger one no longer just accepts things so I can't let the older one have his way to hush him up. I feel for you and wish you luck.

Anita - posted on 12/05/2009

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Thanks Tracey, you have just made my day! It's so good to hear from another mum who has been in a similar situation as myself, no-one else seems to understand just how hard it is, raising two babies under the age of 11 months is a lot different to raising a toddler and baby. and I also believe having twins would have been easier lol. I think I might do what you did and write down times as everything is a all over the place at the moment. I don't even get to go out, it's even a hassle just to plan a grocery shop! I too don't get time to myself and was in tears the other day saying to my partner that 'I dont' even feel beautiful anymore'. It's so good to hear that it gets easier.

Tracey - posted on 12/05/2009

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i have 11 months between my son and daughter i found it really hard at first i thought i was never gonna get though it never found time for my self i did think it would have been easyer if they were twins at least they both would have wanting at the same time. it took me about 6 months to get them both into i rountine i even wrote down times to do things like they have ther breakfast at ?? time then stright after we would get washed and dressed sleep time at ??time lunch time at ??time and so on. And i always kept to the times the best i could and before you no it its a lot easyer. it does get easyer my kid are now nearly 5 and 6 they fight like cat and dog but i love them so much they are so worth the hard work i hope this helps and good luck and remember they grow up so fast so enjoy

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