Anyone feel like they dont have enough time for all there kids?

Ann - posted on 06/12/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Any moms out there of twins or more than one child ever feel like you arent giving your babies enough time. i am a new mom of twin girls and have a 22 month old son and i feel like i never have enough time to give them all attention in one day...anyone else feel this way or have the same problem?


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Kate - posted on 06/16/2010




My oldest turned 3 in March, my twins are now 10 months old. l give my oldest special time by playing games with him when he asks and the likes to get tickles. Tickling takes very little time, no matter what l'm doing and it makes him very happy. The babies come to me if they aren't getting enough of my time. Just now l held one of them for a few minutes and he got off me on his own and is now palying contentedly by himself. When my kids are very clingy and cranky, l know they need more of my time. Otherwise, even though l wish l had more time for each of them, they are satisfied with the time they get.
l rocked and sang to my oldest every night until he fell asleep. And l read a lot of books, too. l haven't done that with the twins. And just this last week l've started reading to the 3 yr old again. So life is a lot different for the twins and different for the older one since l had the twins, but lt's the life they know and they are happy. The twins have each other and they play together a lot. My older son can go outside in our fenced yard by himself, he couldn't do that until this year. So he is able to do things now that he couldn't do before which helps make up some of the difference. And no matter, it's the same for every first born child after a sibling comes along: they just don't get as much time and attention as they did before. That's just a sad fact of life. Although, l worked full-time until l was pregnant with the twins so my older child has me with me a lot more then he did when he was younger so l think that makes up for a lot of it. He doesn't have the stress 5 days a week of getting dropped off at the sitter.
So just rely on your instincts. Even if you feel your children aren't getting enough individual attention, they'll let you know by how happy or unhappy they are.

Adrienne - posted on 06/12/2010




I have what they call "Irish Twins." They are going to be 3 and 2 years old on June 26th, I also have a soon to be 3 month old son. I find it hard to be able to give them all the attention that each one needs during the day. I can sit down with one to work on the ABC's but then the other one wants help with something else and then the baby will get up for a feeding and so on... I may not have regular twins but I do feel the same about not having enough time for all three of my boys but I try my hardest! :)

Lisbeth - posted on 06/12/2010




No sorry I don't but if you are feeling that way why not a lot some "special" time for each one even if it is just 10 minutes of you time with each of them so a half hour a day set up a craft and go through it one at a time with you helping them while the other two have free play time. I know day cares do this so each child gets time to do a craft with the teacher while the rest are free playing.

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