At my wits end!

Tressa - posted on 12/17/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My youngest daughter, who is 16 mths doesn't listen to me at all. No matter how many times I say no, or swat her butt she just looks at me and laughs or goes right back to doing it. When my husband scolds her, he usually yells and she seems to have a little more affect on her but not much. I know it is a normal thing and all I was just wondering if anyone would have any helpful tips on what I can do to try something different so I don't lose my voice. And I hate spanking her.

Thanks in advance!!


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Julieann - posted on 12/19/2010




Dear Tressa, I had a friend that had this EXACT prob. and their other child was the opposite! A Therapist/child psych. said Immediate consequences!(I know like you haven't!) For ex: The pro's said IMMEDIATE consequences! Put her in her room until she decides she would rather cooperate or take a priviledge a way that she REALLY likes and DON'T BACK DOWN! This is just a suggestion. I know in our hecktic lives we live, sometimes we give in. What ever you decide to do BE CONSISTANT. It's alot of work and energy but it will save all of you heartache in the long run. I know I learned the hard way and I totally created the wrong ideas for my son. We are all suffering for it now. He's a wonderful son with a big heart, however, his choices have not been so good. God Bless you and if you can maybe get some outside help for her. Primary years are the ones that form part of our future.

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naughty corner! we used it on my son since he was a year old, it's moves anywhere (any corner any where). a warning and then in the corner, it didn't take him long to learn it wasn't a fun place, and he wasn't going to get the attention he wanted for his bad behviour

Nicole - posted on 12/17/2010




I have a daughter who is 19 months and we are working with discipline right now too. I did start with slapping her hand when she hit me but then I figured if I don't want her to hit, I shouldn't hit her. I didn't want to put her in her crib because I didn't want her to think bed was a bad place to be. I've come to putting a chair in the middle of our kitchen floor and making her sit in it. She wont sit by herself so I hold on to her to make her stay and ignore the crying. When she calms down, I explain what she did wrong and why its bad to do what she did in a very calm and gentle voice. Then I make her say she is sorry or give me a kiss before she gets down. Overall the time out lasts 2-3 minutes since she doesn't usually cry long. I've never tolerated her tantrums and always walked into a different room when she had them. Good luck.

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