Baby Showers

Chrisandra - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Is it ok to have a second baby shower? I actually had twins the first time around. A boy and a girl. Now you ask why I need to have another shower. I wasn't planning to have any more children. I donated and gifted all of my kids stuff as they out grew it. If I heard of a young girl having a baby that needed a car seat I gave it to her. Another girl needed a wing so i gave her one. All their clothes gone. So now here i am with a baby on the way- sex unknown, and nothing for them.

Also the day of my original shower was right after a snow storm, so not many people show, hence not a lot of gifts. I have been told it is improper to have a second shower, but in some ways I feel entitled.

What do I do???

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Proper etiquette would say "no" to a second shower. But, I think it's up to your family and friends who understand your situation and so they want to volunteer to give you a shower. It would be very improper for you to throw yourself a shower. I would personally shop yard sales and consignment sales to find the things I need. I would also ask the friends I gave things away to if they were done using it since perhaps they could loan it back to me.

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Jocelyn - posted on 05/18/2009

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Quoting Christie:

For my second baby my mom gave me a "sprinkle". It's not a full blown baby shower. We invited only very close family menbers and a few friends. It was great to get together to celebrate the new life that would soon be joing us.


haha i love the idea of a "sprinkle"!

Leslie - posted on 05/18/2009

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Many people these days are having 2nd baby showers. I have even invited to 3rd and 4th baby showers. I think it is what you want to do. Personally I don't see anything wrong with it. Not everyone has the room the keep all the things that their kids grow out of and they have to get rid of it.

Christie - posted on 05/18/2009

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For my second baby my mom gave me a "sprinkle". It's not a full blown baby shower. We invited only very close family menbers and a few friends. It was great to get together to celebrate the new life that would soon be joing us.

Suzannah - posted on 05/12/2009

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No, I would not have a second shower. You can't undo the negative impression it will make on many people. You can find inexpensive clothing and baby gear at consignment stores. You could ask your friends and family for hand-me-downs, explaining that you passed things along and now really need to have some passed to you.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/12/2009

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you should have another shower. it's not like you have heaps of stuff lying around and are just looking to get new stuff! if someone thinks it's tacky or something, then they don't have to show up. it wouldn't bother me if i was invited to a second baby's shower. i'm planning on having a second one. in my opinion, it's just a nice excuse to get together with lots of good friends and (if you have the shower after the birth) to show off the new little one!

Chrisandra - posted on 05/12/2009

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I was thinking the same thing. But the dilemma comes because I had a boy & a girl. So people assume that I still have all their stuff. Byt the time the new baby gets here they will be almost 4. I think that is a long enough interval, that it should make it ok.

Lynn - posted on 05/12/2009

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Have the shower if they dont like it they wont come. I think it really depends on how far apart in age your babies are and also the gender.

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