Bed Time Transition

Suzanne - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been putting my little one to sleep since day one and I just never changed up the pattern. It just never dawned on do the same thing everyday and then before you know it, A LOT of time has gone by. Now she is 1 and I do not know how to make the transition to where she will put herself to sleep. The good thing is she has been sleeping in her room since she was 3 months old. Suggestions would be appreciated! ( ;


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Esther - posted on 06/05/2009




I have to say upfront that I don't believe in letting kids cry-it-out so I tried to find a method that would accomplish that without the crying. I always rocked my son to sleep too and when he was about 14-15 months old that got a little hard to do as he didn't quite fit in my arms anymore and he was getting so heavy that carrying him to his crib and putting him down without waking him up again was becoming next to impossible.

So what I did was make our bedtime routine slightly more elaborate than it used to be. After all the normal steps (bath, PJs, brushing teeth etc.) I now go around the room with him and we say goodnight to all the animals in his room (in pictures & stuffed). The stuffed animals get put on their backs too as if they are going to sleep as well. After that I sit in the rocking chair with him (in the dark) to give him a last bottle or sippy of milk. Once he's done with that he's ready to go to sleep and I'll sit with him maybe a minute longer (mainly for my own pleasure) and just hold him, sometimes sing a song, give him some kisses etc. Before he's actually asleep I put him in his crib.

Then I sit down on the floor next to his crib with my back against it and from that point on I ignore him, unless he's (really) crying. When I first started doing this he would do everything he could think off to get my attention. Throw pacifiers at my head, pull my hair, laugh really loud, pace back & forth behind my back, throw the stuffed animals out of his crib, call "mama", you name it, he did it. And I ignored it all. Eventually he would lay down and go to sleep (sometime lay down, get up & lay down again). The first night it took me about 45 minutes. After about 2 weeks I was down to 10 mins. After a month or so (maybe slightly less) I could put him in his crib and just walk away and it's still like that now. The only set-backs we've had was for about a week or so after he had been sick (roseola) and I had to stand next to his crib again for about 5 mins until he went to sleep, and when we had family visiting from Europe and I would have to sit there for about that same amount of time for a few days. Not a big deal though.

It might work with your daughter too. Good luck.

Gemma - posted on 06/05/2009




my little girl was the same i used to rock her to sleep all the time and she never let my partner rock her, so in the end i had just had enough of it and at bed time i asked my partner to put her to bed and at first she screamed for about 15min he just kept going in and giving her a cuddle and laying her back down now when he puts her in her cot she just falls straight to sleep. so maybe you could give it a try and maybe it might just be the thing for you hope it helped?

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