Bedtime

Laura - posted on 06/21/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My daughter just figured out how to open her bedroom door, so now she thinks it's a game. Suggestions as how to get her to go to bed and stay there, instead of playing the open close game.

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Lynne - posted on 06/25/2011

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If you have ever watched Nanny 911 this is her answer. Do the nighttime ritual with story and hug, etc. Tuck her in with a "goodnight - go to sleep, sweetie" and let her know you are ready to give her a drink or whatever she may need at that time.. The first time she comes out, she comes out, take her by the hand and put her back in bed with a "go to sleep sweetie" - nothing more. Next time, just put her back, walk out and close the door. Keep doing the last step. She won't like it but if you are consistent with no talking, etc. she will learn you mean business and that the game is over. It make take as long as an hour or more the first time, but it does work. You are not being unkind, just consistent and firm, and it may be hard as she will cry for a different behaviour from you, but from peronal experience I know it works., Next day you can talk about it and reinforce staying in bed, but at the time, do not engage in any interaction except gently putting her back in bed until she gets tired before you do. Even the most stubborn kid will eventually get the message that staying in bed is not negotiable. Good Luck.

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SUSAN - posted on 07/06/2011

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well u could buy a thing that goes on the doorknob that kids cant open the doors i have not come across that on yet my grandaughter just turned 3

Keri - posted on 07/05/2011

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I go through this with my daughter who's 26months. She just doesn't like her door closed. She wants to see what's going on outside of her room. If she comes out, its just taking her back, tucking her in, giving her a kiss and saying "good night, see you in the morning. i love you" over and over. sometimes it's once or twice, sometimes it's 10-15x. It just depends on how she's feeling that night. But it's all about consistency. My oldest wants his door closed, and has always had his door closed, so it drove me CRAZY when my daughter started doing this, I didn't know what was going on. But then, I started just leaving the door open, and it was a little easier. Less tears, just more taking her back to bed. I tried a child proof doorknob cover, but she figured out how to pry it apart, so that did no good and she just barrels down a gate.

Ann Marie - posted on 07/05/2011

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For us it also helped to lay out the rule in plain English - when you go to bed for the night you need to stay in your room until the sun comes up!

Barb - posted on 07/04/2011

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Put your child back in bed, say it is bedtime. You need to stay in bed. If she gets up again, put back in bed, say bedtime & leave. Happens again, just put in bed & say nothing. May have to do step 3 several times, but should only take one night to get your message to her. Worked for me!

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alison has a good point - I forgot I had done this, but I have turned the door knob around, so the lock is on the outside of the door - so my son can't accidently lock himself in!

Laura - posted on 06/24/2011

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Thanks ladies the gate is what I'm using now, because she does leave and you're right she does think it's a game.

Sharon - posted on 06/24/2011

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We have this same issue!! He's 19mths, and been doing this for about a month now. If/when he gets up before 430am, then he's taken straight back to bed without any comunication other than a cuddle & kiss, and is usually asleep again within 5 mins. If it's after 430am, he climbs into bed with us (he wakes for the day 530-6am).

We tried the baby gate, but he just stands there and rattles it and calls out to us. We tried leaving him there to see if he got bored, nope, an hour later he was still doing it and was wide awake with no intention of falling back asleep, so now we just pop him back in there how ever many times it takes, usually only 1-2 trips now.

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does she leave the bedroom? if not - then why do you care how many times she opens and closes the door? it is only a game because you interact with her. when she gets bored she can put herself back in bed.

if she is physically leaving the room I have two suggestions
1. put a gate up so she can't leave.
2. Pick her up and put her back in bed, tuck her in, kiss her forhead. don't say a single word and don't make a big production out of it. it should be quick, simple and no no nonesense. otherwise she will make a game out of it. trust me, the first few times you may be doing it a dozen or so times. but she will catch on quickly that it isn't really a fun game because she doesn't get any interaction with you.

Melissa - posted on 06/21/2011

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Oh jeez we have a similar issue. Our son HATES bedtime; he wants to stay up and play and do his own thing. When we put him down to bed he immediately gets upset and when we leave the room he'll run and open the door. We hear him so we get up, and before we get to his door he runs back to bed (but sometimes he's just not fast enough to be back IN bed before we get there lol) it usually takes us putting him back in bed and saying night night 3-4 times, at which point he'll lay there and cry for 5-10 minutes before passing out lol. I'm not sure how to break it, I think it'll just take time for them to get used to it. If you do find a way around it let me know!!

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