Bedtime problem!! HELP ME!

Jessica - posted on 06/01/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 2 year old daughter will scream and fight me at bedtime for hours. I have tried everything. Reading, singing, cuddling nothing seems to work! She will get out of her bed and rip her room apart, screaming and banging on the door, kicking and pinching when i put her back in bed, I tried a night light. Help me!!!!


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Sara - posted on 06/03/2010




When my daughter went through that, I felt it was dangerous to leave her alone until she slept. She would stand on her bed and throw herself down. I rocked her and held her down until she settled down for sleep. Our daily routine was identical to the mom above^ (11 am to 11pm). Now we take things away if she gets out of bed...I would prefer rewarding (positive reinforcement) for good bedtime behavior, but it doesn't work because it takes too long for her to get the rewards.

Diane - posted on 06/01/2010




once my son turned 2 all we do is tuck him in and say good night and walk out and he goes right to sleep. he use to be horrible to put to bed..I stoped giving him naps ...i am a stay at home mom so we stay up till 11pm and wake up at 11am every her out and make her real tire too should help =]

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I think consistency is the key - choose a night routine and stick to it so she knows what's happening. Even if she performs just calmly go through the same routine. We do bath, book, bed. If she is trashing her room perhaps take out anything she could harm herself on. I think once you do the same thing for a week or two she may settle down?! Good luck!

Angie - posted on 06/01/2010




What time are you putting her to bed? Have their been any changes recently that could have upset her routine? Generally when my kids are really fighting bedtime we leave their room, come back downstairs and try again in 30 minutes to an hour. I find that we all end up frustrated if I try to push it too hard.

If this is something sudden I would guess something has happened that has her scared. Right around 2 my oldest started having nightmares and had a really hard time going to sleep, it lasted a few weeks and then things got better. I alsof ound it helps if we don't do any electronic devices an hour before bed (no tv, radio, computer etc) just books, maybe a board game etc.

Rose - posted on 06/01/2010




I went threw the same thing with my daughter at like 20 months. What i did I took her book shelve and all her stuffed animails out of the room. Just her bed and dresser was left. She got one book and one stuffed animal to take to bed with her. If it isnt dark enough make sure to cover the window or have blinds or something. Make sure she is playing hard enough or enough time from when she wakes from nap time. If its too dark in her room she could use a light or night light. ( we have one on top of the tall dresser so she cant get it and a soft playing radio) When you put her to bed tell her its bed time and when you leave shut the door. Make sure there isnt a lot of nosie in the rest of the house. Let her cry it out even if she gets out of bed. She might fall asleep on the floor and that isnt that comfy so that might just break her of it. It took a few nights and my daughter has never done it again. Of course listen to her crys. Incase she gets sick or teething.

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