Boys will be boys?

Cheri - posted on 02/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old lil boy who likes to push when he wants to play or when another kid has somethin that belongs to him or his sister whos 4 years old. Is it right for me too tell the other kids parent to let they push him back? That boys will be boys. They need to learn to stick up for themselves dont they? Is that wrong? I dont want my son to be girly about it and cry running away. What should I do?

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Kerry - posted on 02/07/2010

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oooh one thing i do with my boys is a structured "wrestle time" where we put a mattress on the floor or go out on the grass and play rough and tumble. I have heard it is good for boys to learn to play like this and it teaches them to control their emotions. I always end the "wrestle time" with a clear stop and a group cuddle

Kerry - posted on 02/07/2010

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yeah, i think if you let the other kids push him too, it's like saying it's ok to push. I have 2 boys and i know how hard it is to discipline their boisterous behaviour. Sometimes i get really embarrased when i handle things without thinking...and i think thats the key because often the discipline we do that is "non thinking" can end up doing more harm than good. Thats why the time out methods and naughty spot work for us because it's a plan that has been put in place and we all know what will happen.

I think all boys are actually a bit more sensitive than girls in a lot of ways especially when their really little...like carolyn said, theres plently of time for them to toughen up

Carolyn - posted on 02/07/2010

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He sounds like he needs time out. I would not suggest letting the other kids push him back that will just escalate it into a bigger fight and he won't get the social skills he will need in daycare and school. You need setup boundaries to help him understand what is acceptable with other children. As he is only 2 I woundn't worry about him being "girly" he'll have time to "toughen up" in school.

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