Car Seat should I say something

Carolyn - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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So I have seen this with the same parent twice in a week. This mother pics up her 3 kids, under the age of 3, from my son's

Day Care. She also has a new Born. The New born has a car seat but the rest sit in the back without a car seat and I am not

even sure they get seat belted in, they wouldn't all have a seat belt. I am not sure if the Day Care knows. Should I say something?

I am afraid that they could be hurt but is it my place to say something?

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I used to work in a Daycare and this situation happened there too. The parent did come in and tell the daycare and it is the daycare's responsibility to say something!! I would let them know so something awful doesn't happen to the kids. Hope this helps!

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Lorraine - posted on 05/10/2009

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I would definitely say something. If something did happen to the children you would feel horrible that you didn't. It is possible she does not have access to any more car seats, and may need a donation. Maybe the Daycare could set something up with the local police department for complimentary car seat safety checks at the daycare one day. That should get the message across.

Carolyn - posted on 04/30/2009

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Thank you all for your input. This morning when I dropped my son off the mother was there again. This time none of the children were in a car seat, including the 1 month old baby. I have been so upset about this all day. So I decided to talk to the Day Care about it. I went to the directors office and told them. They told me they were aware of the issue. They said they have called the police, DCF several times and they won't do anything about it. I can't believe that the state will not do anything about it. I am even more upset now.

Adf0905 - posted on 04/20/2009

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I wouldn't even bother with the day care....I'd be calling the cops the first time I saw those children without car seats! If it's a matter of the safety of her children or her being mad at me....it'd be the kids' safety, hands down!

Samantha - posted on 04/19/2009

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Yes i would say something..i mean if she cant afford a carseat or booster seat the daycare could suggust going to the local police station and they will give her one thats where i got two of mine

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Definitely...we just heard a terrible car crash in the news about unrestrained children in the vehicle who were critically injured...for the sake of the children, I would. Maybe the parents should be educated about this!

Amanda - posted on 04/19/2009

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I wouldn't go straight to the police, who knows why she does this, and parenting is hard enough as it is, let's not make it harder ( a fine is a month of diapers or food). If the daycare has to do something, than maybe you could tell them and they can make sure the kids are safe. I am assuming you'd probably feel pretty bad if something happened to those kids and you said nothing, You know what I mean?

Leanne - posted on 04/18/2009

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To be honest l would straight out ask her why her kids dont have a proper restraint to sit in.She will either tell you to mind your own business or maybe tell you why there not in carseats..At least you have made a point to her about it and she at least knows you are aware of it...and maybe she might fix the problem.If weeks have gone by and nothing has been done then l would pass on her rego to police and have them look into it.Thats all you can do.I could not even imagine my child not in a car seat.It horrifies me to even think it.If a mother can put a seatbelt around herself and not put her children in a proper child restraint then im sorry but to me l dnt think this woman is not setting herself up as a responsible person or mother.If we dont look out for our childrens safety WHO WILL......

Pamela - posted on 04/18/2009

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It sounds to me that the woman, especially having 3 kids might not have the money or room in her car to afford car seats. Daycare is expensive as it is...and to be honest, some people don't even know it's against the law to not have their children in car/booster seats. If you have the time, maybe you could contact some organisations to help the woman out and give her the gift of the carseats. To me, that seems like the best way to show that you care.

Chris - posted on 04/17/2009

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i agree with everyone too, i would have to say something.just think if those kiddies were involved in an accident! perhaps try havin a word with the manager of the daycare centre, and if nothing get resolved, then ring your local police and mention it to them.

Esther - posted on 04/17/2009

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The police could just "happen" to be driving by around the time this mom picks up her kids. That's what I was thinking.

Carolyn - posted on 04/17/2009

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Hmm. That is a thought but the issue with that is that I do not know the child's last name, let alone the mother's name. I could get her license plate number but all I know is the child's first name. He is in my son't class but they keep the last names private. That is why I thought about telling the Day Care. I will think about it. Maybe I will see her again and I can get the license plate.

Esther - posted on 04/16/2009

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The problem with asking the daycare to take action is that if they do & the mom ignores it, there isn't much they can do about it, other than perhaps ban them from the daycare (which would mean losing a customer to them). If the police is then tipped off, the mom might think it was the daycare who did that (if they had already spoken to her about it) and pull her kids herself (again resulting in the daycare losing a customer). Losing a customer might not be a bad thing for them, but then again, in this economy, they may be feeling the pressure too. Just a thought.

Amy - posted on 04/16/2009

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I would definitely say something. I also kinda agree with Esther. I might contact the area authorities to ensure those kids are safe. I feel a greater responsibility toward protecting them than keeping the Mom from embarrassment. The police would be able to help her locate appropriate seats, too.

Esther - posted on 04/16/2009

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I know this might sound pretty awful - but I'm thinking I might even tip off the police. The daycare might not be comfortable dictating to the parents how they should transport their kids to/from their facilities either, but the police sure would. They would probably only get a warning (at least the first time) but even if they get a ticket, better that than having those kids end up getting hurt.

Shannon - posted on 04/16/2009

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I would say something. You could tell the day care that you worried that they are not wearing seatbelts. I think it is better to say something then not at all. Maybe the daycare can help them parent with car seats for the other kids?????

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I would say something. They should be in a booster seat. Maybe she can't afford them or perhaps she doesn't understand the laws of your state. Either way, she needs help making sure that her children are safe.

Carolyn - posted on 04/16/2009

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OK, that is what I thought I didn't want to overstep my bounds but the children should be safe i think

Shannon - posted on 04/16/2009

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I would say something. You could tell the day care that you worried that they are not wearing seatbelts. I think it is better to say something then not at all. Maybe the daycare can help them parent with car seats for the other kids?????

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