Child feels constant

Kari - posted on 02/26/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi! My 18 month old whines at everything. If he sees something in the cabinet that he wants, he starts whining. If he doesn't get to play with something he whines. I know that he is testing me, but my patience is getting very slim. I've tried time outs...which help for a little bit but then something else sparks his interest. Anything that you can suggest to help would be great. There are some days that I feel like a horrible mother because the whining becomes too much.


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Ashley - posted on 02/26/2009




my son whines so much it drives me crazy and any one who is around he was very spoiled when he was younger and I have given in to him so many times to get him to stop that now there's no changing it I can not get him to stop he knows he has me wrap around his finger I want to change this behavior and let him know whos boss but EVERYTHING i try is not working. my younger kids never got that chance i nip that at the begining. but he just knows how to get me to give in I think he would be a good sales person he can get anyone give in to him. lol

Amber - posted on 02/26/2009




The whining can be so painful can't it?!?!!!!!
My best advice is to say "use your words, don't yell at me, I dont understand what you are saying" and I wont get what my son is asking for unless he asks for it properly. (if infact he knows the words of what hes asking for- he may just be asking without having the language skills and that cannot be helped- he may need some help there!)
My son is 2 1/2, so he's a little older, but that works for me!
Don't feel like a horrible mother... at the end of a long day, with alot of whining, I could pull my hair out of my head!!!!!!

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You're not a horrible mom. Kids have their own personalities. The best you can do is react to his tone as little as possible. I used to tell my daughter that I couldn't pay attention to the words she was saying or what she was wanting because I was too focused on not liking how she sounded. I gave her examples of how she could ask that would be better and let her hear how my whining sounded. It still took quite a while to get out of it.

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