competitive parents and how to deal with them?

Melinda - posted on 07/07/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ladies I have a very serious question and I am really confused by the whole situation because I don't have family member who have babies right now. My husbands cousins are super competitive when it comes to the kids. They always thought I was lying about ous childs milestones, and were shocked when we visited them in the fall. Now me and the women in his family no longer talk because Preston has surpassed there older kids. I was just wondering if anyone else has this problem, and if you could give some advice.

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Ashley - posted on 07/15/2010

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And just replying to Zoe's post i think its absolutely insulting to imply that unless your kids advanced your not spending quality time with your child. They are just kids they have years to come into all the things were teaching them and for all the mama's out there struggling with one stage or another do not need to hear that its because they arnt spending time with there children.

Ashley - posted on 07/15/2010

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I just want to let u no first off i think this is a great question. Im not sure u can do anything about it if they realized all kids do things at diffrnt stages and eventually they will all catch up they would probably stop stressing. I wounder how there attitude effects there kids i have dealt with similar situations on both ends either my son was ahead or behind. My son hit crawling early but he still isint talking very much but i get comments all the time about what i should be doing with him to help his speech first off i read up on every thing and do help him and he will come into it when he is dam ready lol. But its funny because when he is ahead i feel guilty because the other kids not sure if thats a normal response. Dont get me wrong im a prod mama i would just point out there kids good qualities for them since they seem like they cant it might help. Good luck

Anita - posted on 07/10/2010

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Hi, sorry to hear that you have to experience this.
I suppose there is nothing you can do to change their way of thinking, once jealous always jeolous. THe only way of you can make it less 'severe' is if you maybe praise her kids a bit and pay some attention to them eg. nice positive comments about them and don't make a fuss about your child in front of them.... good luck

Lesley - posted on 07/09/2010

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this is one thing that i hate, all children are different they go at there own pace they all do things differently. i would ignore the situation unless she has said something about this 2 u. u will notice aswell if this is ur only child they have all ur attention and u have more time 2 spend encouraging ur child. i honestly wouldnt worry x

Melissa - posted on 07/08/2010

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It is quite petty that people would act the way that they do. I'm sorry that that has happened. You can't change the way they feel/act. If you called them before, call them now. You didn't do anything wrong and should act as if there is not a problem.

And please don't assume that because your child is more advanced that you spend more time with your child/children than they do. That is not always the case. (Just a side note.)

Zoe - posted on 07/07/2010

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i dont see the problem hun if they want to act like children themselves just let them theres no such thing as compitition when it comes to children. if your child is more advanced than theirs it just shows who spends more time with their child. i say if they want to behave like children let them its not your loss its theirs. you should be proud of your son for being so forward.

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