Conflict of opinions

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hey girls,



Our 3 year old occasionally says that she does not like either of us (my Husband or myself) my Husbands response to this is telling her, then get out of here if you dont like us, go find a new mommy and a new daddy... Go on. I have told him that I dont think that is appropriate for her, and he gets upset with me! Please help I dont know what to do and I think that it may have affected her emotionally! My Husband is a good dad it is just his mom used to do certain things to him and now he wants to use the same approach with our daughter... His mom is now an alcoholic (according to him she wasnt back then), so I dont really have too much faith in her practices.



Thanks Ladies,

M

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Danielle - posted on 04/09/2009

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i am goin through the same thing with my 2 and half year old son at the minute, although he doesnt say he hates us as he has problems with speech he hits and lashes out at us all the time if he doesnt get his own way.i believe the best thing to do in this behaviour is just distract her is she has done something and you have told her off for it. the other thing you couold do is just try to ignore her when she says it as all kids this age are just testing the boundaries and trying to get a reaction out of you,



i hope this helps x

Tammy - posted on 04/09/2009

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We also have a three year old and there are numerous times that she tells my husband or myself that.. Well, we will ask her "Do you love me?" And she will reply, "no". I mean, it hurts and all because no parent ever wants to hear their child say they don't love them, but again - you have to look at her / his age! I mean, she's only 3! Right at this point, she doesn't like allot of things. My advice to you about your husband is, first and foremost, pray for him and second - remind him that she is only 3 and that every three year old goes through this stage.. Be patient, Be kind and loving, your daughter needs you more now at this age then any other!



Good luck! I'll be praying for you as well!



~TJ

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2009

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When my 3 year old tells me this, I tell him, "well that makes me sad. Because I sure do love you"  At which point he usually responds by saying he was kidding because he loves me too.



My husband doesn't always react the way I'd like him to. So I had a talk with him.



Told him I want our kids to have lots of positive reassurance and to always know that we love them.



After I let that sink in, he came back and told me he agrees. He never wants the boys to think for a moment he doesn't love them.



Now his response is usually, "that's not nice".



Hope this helps

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Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009

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It is always very helpful when other opinions are taken into consideration! Thank you all!



 



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Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009

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Thank you so much Now that I have more behind my opinion, I will have another talk with him... I am sure he will get it... I was really worried about the impact of what he said, she is a sponge and she is usaully such a sweet heart and a huge lover!



 



Thank you very much for your help! It greatly appreciated! :)



 



Michelle

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