Coping with the Terrible Two Phase...

Jessica - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Anyone have suggestions on how to get through the terrible 2 year old phase with hitting, screaming, kicking, throwing tantrums, not being nice when saying Thank You or Please? It's really hard to have patience sometimes...


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I find that my 2 year old acts up the most when she's bored. I try to keep her busy and she loves to "help" me... For example, we have her plates and cups in a low cabinet so she can help me unload the dishwasher by putting her things away. When she throws a tantrum we just leave the room. When she stops, we get down to her level and calmly ask her to use her words and tell us what she wants. So far that seems to be working for our daughter.

Christina - posted on 01/28/2009




Give yourself a time out when you are feeling overwhelmed. Make sure she is in a safe place or put her in one and walk away. That save me from beating my older daughter when she was 2 and 3. Whenever I got to the point that I felt like I was losing control, I would put her in her room, go into my room and turn the music up load enough so I didn't hear her. I would stay in there for only a few minutes but it was long enough for me to at least regain my composure and sometimes she would regain hers enough that she could tell me what the problem was.

You definately need to ignore the tantrums as much as possible, the more attention tantrums get the better. Negative attention is better than no attention. If she's hitting, grab her hand and show her what a nice touch is, same with kicking.

Kotie - posted on 01/28/2009




first thing i will suggest is lots of wine??  ;-)

Otherwise - just ignore them.  If nobody pays attention to them (no audience) it becomes a bit pointless for them.

Takes awhile though.  My eldest is 4 and my youngest just turned two.  So when the eldest sees his brother throwing tantrums - he will start as well!!

did i mention the wine??

Annette - posted on 01/28/2009




My little man was 2 in December and has just started the same lovely behaviour ... very hard to have patience sometimes! (Actually, a lot of the time!) I find ignoring him works best, and I often do this by just walking out of the room mid tantrum performance! Once he works out his audience has left he seems to realise his tantrum is taking a lot of energy and not getting him very far!

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