Crazy mother in law by chance?

Sam - posted on 03/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My mother in law is driving me a crazy!

My Husband had a former girlfriend who he had a daughter with, she was the only grand daughter until we had our sson. There is 4 year between them. Anyways I find my mother in law favors them two over my son and I, and it is really getting to me. My husband just thinks I'm jealous, and seems to always stick of for his mother no matter what , so talking to him is difficult.

When I'm over there she will sit on the phone with her for hours (not kidding) laughing away and talking away. They go shopping together & out for coffee all the time. She even invites her over for the holidays, and she does sometimes come and talks away to all my husbands family like their best friends while I go friggen hide in a corner and get ignored.

She has taken their daughter every weekend for the entire weekend since she was months old. We pretty much have to beg her to take our son when we need to go out and get something done the odd time. She takes her literally around the world on trips with her, for instance she is taking her to Disney land for 2 weeks next month, but noooo she doesn't take our son anywhere! Urgggg it's just so frustrating. I guess you can say I am jealous I don't have that kind of relationship with her, nor does our son. It's not like my husband and I JUST got together, we've been married now for over 7 years (YES, I had to live through this now for 7 YEARS!)

What do I do?!?!?!?!?!


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Jessi - posted on 03/09/2010




i am dealing with the same situation almost. my husband has a sister who has 2 boys (4 yrs and 18 months). his mother always has them. she shops for them and jumps for them whenever they need something (or dont need for that matter). his sister is always putting her kids off on their mother and the mother never complains ab it. i asked her to watch my son (who is 21 months)who waqs 6 months at the time and she refused claiming to have to wash her daughter's dishes and she didnt have time to watch him for an hour so i could run some errands. from that day i have never asked her to watch him again. as of 3 months ago i quit taking him to her house and as of 2 weeks ago i changed his daycare (which his cousins attend). i am trying to distance my son from that type of environment because it isnt healthy for him. he needs to be surrounded by people who want to spend time with him. i also try not to put my husband in the middle of my feelings and his family. he understands my feelings and i understand his and we just leave it at that. i also let his family know my address and that they are more than welcome to come and visit my son at my house anytime they get ready

Richelle - posted on 03/08/2010




I have tried everything to get along with my mil.....she is more then crazy, she complains I don't spend time with her and when I go there she doesn't say anything, and doesn't even try to play with her only Grandchild (my son). She doesn't visit us often and when she does she keeps going on about how cute her other son was at that age, and comparing our boy to him!
I invited her to his 1st b'day, she came but sat there the whole time and didn't talk to anyone, she had the most miserable look on her face, she even left without saying good bye!! I have tried everything to get her to play with our son and talk to him, but nothing is working......anyone got any ideas??

Michelle - posted on 03/07/2010




Have you spoken to your mil about how you feel? One thought is that, because your husband and the ex-gf aren't married, your mil worries that she will lose her granddaughter if she doesn't keep a relationship with the babymama. Or maybe they just get along more naturally than you and she do. Either way that's got to be very rough for you to be around. I would suggest 3 things: first, sit down with your mother-in-law and explain to her how the situation looks to you and how it makes you feel. Second, sit down with your husband and do the same thing, including how it hurts that he doesn't support you, his wife! Lastly, schedule regular times for your mil to spend time with you, your son and all three of you. These memories and bonding times may help even the playing field with the granddaughter and her mom. Good luck, speak your truth to those involved without being accusatory and try to keep from getting too hurt (not that I blame you!).

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