Daughter 20 months starting to show fear. "I'm stuck" but really not

Erin - posted on 09/26/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Are any of your kids doing this? My daughter is getting up on step stools and other things and getting too scared to get down. She has been up and down them a million times but now starts crying and tells me she's stuck. Not sure what's going on.
The other day she was laying on the couch with a soft fabric mirror on top of her and told me that she was stuck, I was sitting right next to her. She seems to be crying wolf but I was thinking it might be developmental or something.
Any thoughts? This is a very recent thing.

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Crystal - posted on 09/28/2010

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Oh my son does this too. I think they are starting to become more aware of consequences and they can finally recall getting hurt in the past. Not to mention I always tell him when he climbs on things to "be careful or he might fall" and I think they are at the age where they are understanding such things.
My son has also out of nowhere become shy.

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Jenna - posted on 10/02/2010

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It is normal for children to start developing fear and the first fear to develop is fear of bodily harm. Watch saying be careful to often and encurage jumping, climbing and other activites in safe situations to get her more comfortable with herself. Also don't pay much attention to the fear when it happens if she gets scared to step off the stool the just grab her hand and help her down soon she will realize she is able to do it again but aknowledging it just reinforces to her that there is a fear.

Heidi - posted on 10/01/2010

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I agree with Joy. My daughter is a climber as well. She always says, "need help." I tell her that she can do it (in a really positive voice). Sometimes I assist her a little bit, but I celebrate by clapping and smiling once she has achieved getting down. Now she does stuff and says, "we did it!" Kinda funny because she'll clap for herself. Try not to give in to her fears by staying happy and positive no matter how much your daughter makes you repeat. It does seem to be a stage... she'll move on to the next one before you know it:)



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My son (almost 3) used to do this all the time! His famous line that used to get us giggling was "I TUCK!" I think it's normal. I think on one hand sometimes there is a real fear...they climb onto something and then realize all the sudden, "HEY! How do I get down?" Those are the times with my son that I would stay close by and tell him "Well, you got up there, try and get down" and only help him if he really was scared or couldn't safely figure out how to get down. I also think that sometimes he would do it to see if I was going to rescue him. Kind of like testing to see if I really cared? If that makes sense? I think he liked being rescued by me and sometimes would put himself in "stuck" situations, just so I would have to come help him. Either way, I'm pretty sure it's normal.

Erin - posted on 09/30/2010

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Thanks for replying. I'm seeing a little bit of shyness from my daughter too and she usually knows no stranger.

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